She was raped, do we blame the parents?

Hi bingskee Rape itself is completely wrong, no if and or buts about it. We cannot blame the parents especially in this case. This is an adult child and how can the parents be blamed for something someone else decided was okay to do. That part would completely puzzle me as no matter which way anyone looks at it, it is the rapists fault no if and or but. Even if parents did not care for their children, though how is it their fault that a rapist feel it is okay to rape a person. No one obligated the rapist, the rapist opted to do such crime. Though in this society one should be cautious, it still does not give any individual the right to invade another human.

Rape is never the victim's fault, nor is it the parents' fault. The blame should always be laid squarely on the the shoulders of the "demons" who did it. For anyone to say otherwise is ridiculous.

You are right. Each person has a free will and can choose to listen to their parents teaching or rebel against it. It is wrong to accuse or imply that a rape victim is at fault. Because each person has free will, the man who cannot control himself, or who feels he has the right to violate another is at fault. Always. No one has the right to use violence against another, especially one who is weaker physically.

Well I think theres no parents who would want this things to happen to any of their siblings... and for me I think its the girls fault because shes in the right age and she should have known not to trust strangers you just met on facebook....!!!!!!!!!!!! I know she never wanted this to happen to her of course but after all the news today about the negatives sides of social sites... she should have considered it.... I feel sorry for her though.. The point is she was not kidnapped or pulled somewhere she went there by herself, (correct me if Im wrong, I just read your blog and it says she decided to meet the person she HAVE known in FB)

We shouldn't blame the parent nor the victim. It is the fault of the demon out there. Any parent wouldn't want their children to be in the same situation. It really break my heart watching that news and I prayed that wouldn't happen to us.

its no-ones fault except the person who done it, the press shouldn't blame the parents, they should blame the rapist, in my opinion the parents brought up their baby girl very well for this to happen its very unfortunate and it to be blamed on the parents is just making it worse, i dont wish this on anyones children.

As a parent, we try to protect our children, but we can't protect them from everything. Sad story...

I think I have a good story I will share with you. An old girlfriend and I got into an argument one time years ago regarding Charles Manson. I have an obsession with psycopaths, serial killers and the like. I feel there is a reason they are this way and have even argured in some debates that I wonder if there isn't a gene that makes a psycopath. Who knows? ANyway, the debate was that I feel kids should know that there are horrors like Manson in this life. I think that in an age appropriate manner kids should be made aware. She argued that she would never tell a child about such things. Later, down the road a few years I found out that her daughter had been raped. My daughter never has been. I wonder if this has to do with me being open and upfront with my daughter about such things. The reason I told you this is that I believe if parents are affective and communicative with there children perhaps there would be a lower chance of such things happening.

My opinion is that the victim probably should not be blamed for the fact that she was raped and her parents definitely should not be blamed for the fact that she was raped. The reason that I feel this way is because I tend to think that rape is never the fault of the victim. Yes, there are some people that provoke certain things to come their way, but I still don't think that it is their fault. Additionally, most parents raise their children to know right from wrong but once their children are adults, it is much more difficult to control what their children are doing.

No surprise the poor girl lost her mind! Its hard to even imagine the trauma she must have undergone. The parents have really nothing to do with it, the culprits, who are really enemies of society, should be caught and shot.

Her parents are partly at fault here. Not sure if she was raised well enough. Besides, when your a girl and you eyeball somebody tag someone along. Its a golden rule of safety that most teens now ignore. And when you eyeball someone. Its should be somewhere very very public. Just my two cents.

the parents always have part why their child been rape,because of their responsibility is not that complete,but then this is case to case problem,sometimes parents need to work to survive in poverty that will be the result why they can not focus to their child.

If the girl knew in the first place that her parents are always giving her reminders of do's and don'ts then even in her silence and in her misery she knew who to blame or maybe it is really nobody's fault but her fate. However, although teenagers are now hard to handle, they themselves knew what is going on around, they are aware for sure of the cruelty of their surroundings as they are more exposed to these kind of scenarios posted everyday. They have learned the extra care to be given for themselves since they are mature enough to analyze and weigh the situations. Parents only guide, and even to give their undying love they can do nothing as their children leave to face activities outside their house.They can not always stand as guard to them. It is more hurting and unbearable to the part of the parents whatever bad situations their children may encounter.Not all parents are irresponsible and not all children are abiding to the laws of their parents and vis-a-vis. And so let us not judge and conclude negatively to the parents side only,see the real score first.

we can only blame the parents if the raped girls age are below debut age....

The girl was the one who wanted the eyeball. This makes it easy to say she was partly at fault, but she still ended up the victim, didn't she? Also, a news post using words like "demons from hell" is a bit sketchy. It seems that they didn't look into a more information about the situation and just made assumptions that are sensationalist.

I think the "Raped" part explains all of it ... Someone out of his mind doing u know "something" to someone against his will ... I dont know what part the victim or the parents have to play in this . Yes there are parent that dont care but that does not mean the other parents that care cant have this happening to their child , the problem is on the people that actually do it . I dont think if there was noone wanting to rape , there was going to be anything like : I blame the parents . Its like if someone kills someone you to throw the blame on his grandfather ... cuz well he is his grandfather ... its absolutely the same . She can be abducted even on the path to your house from the store and what can u do and what are u to blame ... I just wish noone ever get in this situation .

we can only blame the parents if the raped girls age are below debut age....