life hasn't been good to me.
By Bryanx54
@Bryanx54 (644)
June 17, 2011 3:10pm CST
At the moment my life has been really painful, with recent spats with my parents and my relationship with my girlfriend lays in tatters. I just honestly dunno how to cope with it be honest :( I would appreciate any suggestions. thank you for your time
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5 responses
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I am sorry to hear about that. You know i have been in the situation when i was younger. My respond to your discussion might not be the best thing to do but for me, it will be helpful if you leave home for a while. If you are old enough, look for a temporary work and ponder when you are away from home, its better to decide life if you are not influence by someone. Sometimes being away from home makes you stronger, and you can by then decide what is the right thing to do. Challenge yourself, be strong and everything will turn out good. Believe in yourself and don't forget to pray...
@whitewingspeak (888)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
you are welcome bryanx! just to compare yourself to someone down below, if you know what I mean. you are a very lucky guy, having parents and and living in all the comfort in your life. try to apologize, be strong, and face your problems. good morning from the Philippines!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
17 Jun 11
What Bryanx -- u are only 18/19. Have u completed the studies u wanted to? If u have completed studies then worry about girl friend. Otherwise concentrate on studies. May be it is culture here to have girl friend right from school. If the relationship is ok to an extent that it doesn't affect studies and mental balance it is alright. Otherwise in a case u like this u feel bad that relationship is bad and all that -- it is not right. Stop it forthwith. Be good to parents. complete studies then u can get a gf suitable for you at that stage. it may appear harsh but this will help u.
go out play games. Read good books. Browse good material in internet. Do physical exercises. Stop thinking about girls. U will be alright.
@Bryanx54 (644)
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17 Jun 11
Well i have been jogging recently to get my mind off things and its been quite good for my over health mentally and physically. As for education i have finished for the year and so has my girlfriend and i have been through this stage in the relationship before but it somehow comes back together after a few weeks its just all this happening 2 days before my birthday makes me really sad because although its my birthday im gonna little upset but i know that people are worse off than me thank you so much i will take your advice. I didn't really think of girls to be honest my relationship just happened she came out of nowhere that is why i'm quite happy with her because she is amazing most of the time but she is losing her father and that kind off added to the stress she's going through i think she just wants to be alone with her family. I will take your advice.
@Bryanx54 (644)
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18 Jun 11
Thank you very much i appreciate the words of wisdom and i do generate happiness without but we are slowly rebuilding the relationship as so i hope but life is starting to get better again, i lost my grandmother last year it broke my heart but i had to accept it and i did, she's in a happy place as so are all the others i'm sure she will accept her fate is inevitable and she knows i will be there for her when it happens its just life as you said thank you and don't worry there is more to life than my gf i know that and i always will keep the mylot friends close to my heart that is why i came on here for words of inspiration.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
18 Jun 11
Good u got the point I had in mind and u are on right track.
Change is the only thing that has not changed in life. Every thing changes in life. Every minute our body changes, our thinking changes. We should learn to live in detached attachment manner. have a good day.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
17 Jun 11
We all have to go through ups and downs in the course of the life time. Yet , one way to manage them is to keep a positive attitude. There is the light at the end of the tunnel. So, just keep walking through with a positive view, and you will soon see the light.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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17 Jun 11
Get a job, get your own place, throw insanely large parties (invite your neighbours so they don't complain) and realise that just about everything that seems so important right now is infinitesimally small and simple compared to the crap you're going to have to deal with as a fully-fledged adult.
Alternatively, you could shut yourself in your room, refuse to wash for six days, listen to depressing music, watch films in the vein of 'Truly, Madly, Deeply' and whine about everything. That works, too!
Or you could borrow a couple of grand from a bank and go on a trek round Europe. Get away from everyone and everything, get your head straight and (bonus!) come back looking like a yeti.
We've all been through the same thing. I know that doesn't help but trust me: none of it really matters. "This too shall pass", as they say.
@Bryanx54 (644)
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17 Jun 11
I've just recently got a job but i haven't got my own place yet that is next on the agenda, my girlfriend also works which is benefits our plans also and hopefully we will let the parties commence! I'm a young adult and we only live that once right so i guess we enjoy it whilst it lasts.
Thank you for your word of wisdom spike you have clearly been through the experience also.
@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
first of all, consider yourself lucky that you still have both your parents and a girlfriend. :) i'm unaware of what you're dealing with right now but try to find some solutions to those problems otherwise you might end up all alone in this world. good luck to you.
@Bryanx54 (644)
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17 Jun 11
No worries you guys are the best, surely brightened my day, well i haven't been the best boyfriend but i'm learning from my mistakes and im showing i care so that is one solution. I am very lucky yes. :) i feel a lot better now i think might apologise to my parents aswell thank you soo much.
