How will you know if your lover is fading away ?
By sean010108
@sean010108 (16)
Philippines
June 17, 2011 6:31pm CST
I have this 6year old relationship with this domestic partner of mine (father of my son)and with that 6yrs. we have been through a lot!I mean a lot!but lately, it seems that he's fading away from me..The sweetness wasn't there anymore..(or it's just me?)we seldom caress each other.now, what bothers me is that maybe he's not into me anymore?well, I would tell you honest;y that i think I can't bear loosing him..Can you help me find ways to bring back the flame?PLEASE?..
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10 responses
@jaslupton117 (111)
• United States
18 Jun 11
I would say take a break from each other for a good 3 - 7 days. Probably shoudln't do more than that although I would risk it personally. If you don't see each other for a while that will definitely help. I've done this and my partner couldn't get it off her mind how much she missed me. Of course there might also be other things on your mind that are hard to not think about. Do something together that you both love. Obviously if both of you are enjoying each other things will get better. If, for a time, things get bad, it can start to sink in and it may be the only thing one concentrates on. The best memories and taking time to do the things you enjoy the most together are very important.
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
With the hard times, maybe both of you are losing time for each other. Wh not loosen a bit and find more time for each other. You can talk about the old sweet days you've shared together or go to a place where both of you have the fondest memories of the love you have shared.Sometimes, love just take some breathe and they return with more flame to burn. Just stay cool and wait for the right timing. Sometimes right timing is all what is needed to keep the flame burning.
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
That sounds really sad. I think it something to do with your s*x life. You need to burn the heat, I mean start seducing him or try to please him. Like wearing sexy clothes. I think he's bored and need new things. Some boys are like that. Try to ignite him tonight! :)
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@grazmd (33)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Communication is important in any relationship. Why not talk to him about it? Maybe he's clueless on what's really going on. You know how men are. They need to be reminded all the time. Also, do the extra effort of caring for him. Men like to be cared for all the time. Praise him for a job well done. Appreciate even the tiniest things that he do. And don't forget to say I love you everyday. Maybe he also needs to hear those words from you thatnby just relying on body language. I'm no expert but these are just my 2 cents. Hoping for the best!
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@ahsanzahid32 (5)
• Pakistan
18 Jun 11
Hummmm!! You wont loose him.. If your feeling and love is true between both of you then he will come back... The mist will clear one day dont worry...
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Jun 11
Try to remember the times when you have the best of everything and recreate them. Maybe both of you have run out of novel ways to make the partnership work.
Relationship does not always work like magic. Both parties are should be involved in it. It takes a bit of conscious effort to make it happen. If the other one stop doing so, then, it is time for taking appropriate action to bring back the light of those magical moments.
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
18 Jun 11
The thought of losing a lover is scary. First, maybe try having a romantic night out with just the two of you. Go out to a nice dinner and then maybe go back home for dessert ;) (I'm not trying to make a joke out of your situation I promise). Maybe what the two of you need is to just take time to truly enjoy each other. If it doesn't help, try telling him how you feel. Maybe he doesn't realize how things have been different lately. I felt this way with my boyfriend a few months ago and I told him how I was feeling and he had no idea. He would just get so busy he didn't realize he wasn't taking the time for me as much as he used to. Communication is everything, if you tell your partner how you feel, he might realize what's been happening and he'll make the change for you. Good luck!!! I'm sure the two of you will be fine :)
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Jun 11
If you already feel you are losing him, it might be a reality check that you both need. A nice dinner and sweet talk isn't going to pull a relationsip out of the dumps. It takes honest communication between the two of you. I think you should talk to your man and have a real discussion outside of the bedroom. You need to find out where his bead is. You can't fix this problem by yourself. You both have to be plugged in. Dinner and candles isn't going to fix things. Have courage to bring up your fears. Encourage him to feel free to speak openly and honestly. So many relationships are broken due to not communicating.
@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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@sean010108 (16)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
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