What would you do if you found out your husband is Gay?

My neighbors father was gay. He was still married to his wife and also had a "friend". They had been married for over 40 years and I guess at some point they just had become good friends, and fell out of love. Not that the story is relevant, just wanted to share. :D

It actually happens. A friend of mine told me that her friend is not in a dilemma because after 10years of marriage, the husband confessed he's gay. Not just closet gay, but actually a transvestite. He did do his best to put food in the table and was a very good father too, since she didn't really see any point of them separating (because the kids needs a father too), they decided to just be in one roof. But now that the father seems to be interested with lovers, she's now at the dilemma. She can't take the thought of him with another man and certainly their kids would not take this when they're older. I think I wouldn't know how to fix things either, but I guess I'd rather that we be just friends and still be the father of my kids, but we shouldn't stay in one roof. I think we should just agree that he wouldn't show his side of character when his kids are there but still I would know it's really painful to be in that situation. Have a great MyLot experience!

There are definitely gay men who try to "fit in" with societal conventions. They are not ready to be "out" to the world and they try to live what everyone else considers is a "normal life" by being with a woman. They may or may not have children. The actress, Fran Drescher, has been in the news again lately speaking about her divorce and the fact that her husband is actually gay. If I were happily married, I would be devastated to get divorced -- that would be the same whether my husband was straight OR gay. I would feel sorry for him that he had been living his life basically as a lie... because everyone deserves to be in a loving relationship with a true partner in life. I would not hate him for being gay -- you can't hate someone for the way they were born into this world. I would not feel like "less of a woman" because, unlike what some people try to say, you don't "turn someone gay" and he wouldn't want to be with men because I was any kind of a failure as a woman. It would be a very sad, very difficult situation, for sure.

that will truly hurt. but i will try to understand. and since it is not possible for us to live together, i will seek divorce.

I don't honestly know how would I react. I'll be shocked at first then maybe talk to him about it, discuss what would be our set up, and talk over things in a civil way. I know it is not a crime to be gay but to be in that situation will anger me and hurt me.

I know my husband is not gay but if he was I would rather him be with a man than another woman. At least they have a different part on them that I don't have so I wouldn't feel like it's something I could ever fufill. I would try to work things out and hope he would still want to be with me. Now a woman with the same parts as I have would make me a whole lot more angry and I would want a divorce quick! That would tell me that I wasn't good enough and the other woman was better than me in something...

Well, I don't think that I will have that problem. But, if I were to find out, I really can't say how I would react. It's just one of those situations that you just can't predict how you'll react, until you actually find yourself in that situation.

Oh well if that will gonna happen (but for sure it won't)let's just pretend that it might gonna happen, well of course I would really get mad and get crazy. I would maybe cry and cry until I would accept that it is the truth. Of course I might realize one day that it is as it is, if I still love him despite of it then i might learn to accept him still in my life. you know love is so strong and it wont just be erased that fast.

I would probably be mad and ashamed of myself for in the first place i didn't find out his true color! And i would cry out loud and broke his as*!