The person you love does not love you back

I had this experience when I was in college. My crush on a guy turned into love. For 7 years I was silently hurting because I know he will never be mine. He had a girlfriend at that time but the girl was in another place. But no matter how much I seduce him with my charms, he held strong for the girl. Good thing though, I finally came to my senses. When I wasn't in love with him anymore, he began courting me. To get even with him, I turned him down. But God bless his soul. He is with our Creator right now.

Hi braveheart, I have experienced this kind of thing but not LOVE its more just LIKE! I liked a guy way way years ago guess was just in my first year in high school that time and I really had crush on him, I tried talking to him but he don't talked to me back, I feel like talking to the wall.. so embarrassing!! But its okay now, I already get over it. NOW, no more crush things or any relationships while studying. Need to focus in it! :D Good discussion you have here! God bless!

I think all of us go through this phase in our life. I too have gone through it twice. I don't know how, nor why, but when I was in college I really liked one guy. He wasn't my ideal and my type at all, however, it didn't stop me from feeling something for him. Unfortunately, he never saw anything in me other than being his classmate. It was weird because I think he never knew about my feelings for him, but he did some stuff to make me feel otherwise. At one point in time, he suddenly bought me something to drink (me alone and we were with other people in a group). Then there was also the time when he'd tell me that I'm beautiful. Anyway, I guess it was just his way as a guy. Then after a while, he started courting one of my close friends. She knew about my feelings for him and I guess she liked him too but because of me she was confused. I had to tell her that I was no longer interested and even lied that I liked someone else so as to help her decide. I didn't know anymore if it worked out or what because she no longer talked about him. The second time around was with someone I thought was my ideal and my soulmate. We'd talk to each other for hours and just had a great time. The 'friendship' lasted about 8years but it seemed he wasn't really that interested romantically. After 8years he got married. Then several years after the wedding, he told me that he did feel something from me but was too afraid to tell me. Bummer, right? Well, though these things have happened in my life, I'm not really regretful that they did. Perhaps those situations happened for a reason and they made me the way I am today. I am glad though because I have a good man in my life and he's everything and more than what I wanted and he loves me so much. As for asking for advise, I think you should just keep cool. Not do something stupid and just take care of yourself. Not to be overly concerned nor insecure for not being given attention. Don't worry you will find your match as well, just be patient. Have a great MyLot day ahead!

Yes, i guess i could really understand that situation, actually, i am experiencing this similar situation, i like a boy, who was my first love boys, i don't even know why i like him, he is so appealing to me, however, he don't know i like him, because i am shy to can not express my feelings for him, i am afraid him to reject me,there are many people to express love to me, i also only like him, it just make me feel confused...

I really don't know If I have experienced this kind of thing, as of now. I just trust that the man I love now, also love me. For your situation, i think it's a sad thing being hurt. How good and brave of you to think that there is still someone out there who is deserving of you love. And that is very true. It's good that you haven't closed your heart and mind of loving someone again after being hurt. Anyways, just some thoughts to ponder, first thing to do in order to stop loving a person who doesn't love you back is to forget about the person and to try and end the routine of thinking about them, over and over again. Stop saying "I cannot live without you, I cannot stop loving you, I love this person more than any other, I cannot love anyone else." things like that could only worsen the hurt. For sure, you should accept and face the truth that your love is not possible. You then need to rid yourself of anything that could remind you of him/her such as text messages and songs you listened to. Most especially, think that there are better people out there with whom you, as a brokenhearted person, could find true love with, a love that is felt with passion on both side. That's it! Happy myLotting and stay loving as you are! ;-)

Situations like this happen. I dunno If you already did, but it's always good to let the other party know how you really feel in words, not just by actions; it could get misinterpreted. And when things are said and done, for me, I would still want the other person to let me show my care despite not being mutual and like you did, to support her decisions. I still would love to hang out with the person I care about at present and not expecting anything until the one for you appears;go on with life, sharing your love and open to new people and it's not that you're hoping, you never know, that person could be the one whom you thought never felt the same as you is a possibility or someone even better. Goodluck and tc.

it is good to find out this person isn't the right person for you before you get serious. there will be a special person for you and you will find them. it does hurt, but in the end think of it this way, it is for your good. best to you.

I know exactly how you felt. I can relate to your situation because I just happened to be in that situation almost two years ago and I am still feeling hurt of how things turned out. I started dating a guy whom I never really thought I would fall head over heels in love with. I started to love him gradually until it was full blown only to find out that he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend who never treats him right. It hurts that no matter what I do, even though he tells me that I'm more than he could ask for in a girl, the fact is he is not in love with me. It's a sad truth. There's nothing you could in this situation but to accept things and mourn for a while and move on. It's taking me almost two to totally move on but I'm getting there. Good luck!

I experience that situation, friend. For me is the worse cases because the person I love with was married for me and all the things I do did not mean for her. It's really hard into this situation...

hi, yes,many times in my life,and the best thing i did was to ignore them,and forget them,even today i experiencing that,but thats life i should feel the hurt sometimes,so the only thing i can do is to avoid that feelings and trying to ignore that person again.

I think I can relate to this. The only this is I found out that she did not love me back is when we broke up. I was played. That was a big ouch. I just can't imagine why people do this kind of things. If they have nothing over the other then they should have let it go in the first place. I think that it is very wrong to play with emotions. I just hope that this never happens again to anyone.

I experienced this, but its only a crush, I wanted to know if the feeling is mutual and I used her best-friend at the same time also my friend, to know if she has a crush on me and I knew that she couldn't, so I never started courting, maybe I'm afraid that she didn't accept me. Found out later that she had a crushed on my brother, so I spare her and leave it to my brother.

Even you are unlucky as i am because even i have faced a similar situation like you faced and yes it hurts a lot when something like this happens but i also like you hope that its fine and God would have some different plans for me.