I am female but I do not want a boyfriend.

The good thing about living is that you have a choice. It is just how you make that choice or live up to that choice which will make or break you. However, your reason of personal preference is a bit vague. Can you elaborate on this or can you give out some concrete reasons why you don't want a boyfriend. Giving out the reasons of why you are making that kind of choice will greatly help others to understand and respect your decision. Also, if you give out such reasons, other people like us will be able to give out their views and opinions regarding what you are asking. The personal preference thing is either just too general or too vague, in my opinion, for readers like me to give out views and comments. For now, all I can say is that I just wish you all the best with your decision.

Hi gEa_88. Maybe you're still not ready to be engaged in a relationship. Let say for example, you are currently focused on your studies or career. That could be a possibility. There are a lot of reasons for this matter but one thing for sure, if there will be a guy who is perfectly right for you and you fell in love with him, then I think you will not hesitate to have a boyfriend. However, if you are comfortable to be in a single status at the moment, then that is not a problem hehe. True love can wait until the right time comes. GOD bless gEa!

Hey, I can understand you with want you want to do and if by this time you don't want to be with anyone personally. Especially if you have a lot of things to accomplish and it's all your priorities. In this life we don't need to hurry. At the right place and time all your questions will be answered, I fell that you are a clever one, wants everything to be proper. Just don't close your door to those who knock.

I am in the same boat as you. I am a female that doesn't want any boyfriends becuase I think my life is already complicated. I have too many personal issues and as much as I want another shoulder to cry on and another willing ear to listen, I think I'm better having male friends than boyfriends per se. Some people (especially in my family) think I'm nuts for having no boyfriend but at least I don't get an additional headache when it comes to relationships. Besides, it's my life and your life is yours. If you decided not to have a boyfriend, then's it's your issue, and not theirs.

my cousin has the same point of view, she is a full pledged girl, idolizes guys and likes some boys but she opt not to be in a relationship yet. she said it is not her priority yet and she likes being single. maybe that is what you are feeling too.

Is there any traumatic experience(with a guy) that ever happened to you? If yes, then you're certainly afraid of that thing will happen again. If NO, I think you need to check on your gender preferences. You're not attracted to females?*laughs All of us got confused, I hope you'll find the right one for you!GO! :)

Well there's nothing really wrong with that. Some people are like that. There may be different factors on why some people are like you. There will come a time though when someone will knock on your door and you'll kind of fall in love and decide to let him in to your heart. Just be careful when that happens. Don't chase the guy or anything once he shows interest. Trust your instincts. If you are preparing to be the best you can be, sometimes it may be too late once you are ready to love but no one is there to love you. I believe there should be a balance but if you feel you are not ready to love or be in a relationship, it's okay. It's not good to force yourself into something you don't want yet. But if what's keeping you from having a boyfriend is just the fear of being hurt when in a relationship, well i don't think there's anything wrong with experiencing being hurt or having your heart broken, it will make you a stronger person if it happens. All the best.

gEa_88, After reading all the responses here, I just want to come to you with another perspective of mine here. I apologize if this is long winded but hope you will have the patience to read me out. As much as we all believe that Love must indeed come naturally, our 'Self' component must provide the fertile ground for such natural occurrence to manifest into reality. This 'Self' component, namely our personality and what steps we take to render ourselves more socially desirable, not merely in the physical sense, but also as a person emotionally, psychologically and spiritually positive. The theory of probability is self explanatory: if you want to find someone suitable, you got to get up from your seat, get out of your house and start meeting people. When your social network improves, the chance for you to find someone suitable gets better, as compared to solitary activities that could only drive some meager mileage for you in aspects of Love. Also, if you reckon that certain channels are not suitable, it's perfectly alright. You just learn to develop interest and expand your social network through the interest you invest yourself with. Remember not to adopt self-defeating mindset because it's very much a vicious cycle - as much as you are pressured socially to be attached, this beget from a negative source: namely pressure. Hence, your attitude towards knowing someone is always about accessing someone if he is suitable for you. Then if things isn't what you reckon it to be, you get dejected, you become more withdrawn and whole cycle repeats itself While it is good that you aren't afraid to be in a relationship, let me just reiterate here a truth: the more negative a person is, the more likely she will attract a negative mate. Because fear produces the negative aura - hence, your disappointment in men that you meet online or offline will be merely corroboration of reality - through the synergy of both your thoughts and feelings - manifest as latent effect. Personally, I disagree with the fact that some people are destined to be alone. The challenge is not merely to analyze you and tell you about how doom you are, but the task is to empower you to take corrective steps to overcome your issues. And to change situations, one must have that self awareness to understand the root of problem and for cases like yours, I can tell you, it's very much due to the inability to recognize certain of your own inadequacies and learning to get out of your comfort zone. Some people have the biggest misconception that Love will come naturally, say, after school days. But I can tell you from a sociological perspective, with the elimination of a socializing agent, such as a school compound, your social circle should get smaller unless steps are taken to ensure that it doesn't. And again with the law of probability, your chances, naturally, get worst because, like you would have probably found out, that people are either attached or married or their psychographic is entirely off the chart. So I say, invest some if not more time in yourself and simultaneously develop your social circle. And learn to eliminate the adamant from your heart - not being attached does NOT suggest that something is wrong with you. It simply means that you have to develop yourself more in a wholesome sense, so that the attraction can take place when you have work on that 'Self' component. Take care and have a nice day.

I'm your opposite when it comes to the "boyfriennd" thingy. I'm a full pledged female and I do want a boyfried. But unfortunately no one likes me - so no suitors. haha. And I have 2 other friends with the same dilemma. It's not like we don't look good, there's just no one out there willing to love us. lol. (the drama of my life) Okay enough of me and my friends. (They'll kill me when they read this. lol) I think it is okay. Your own preferences or choices is valuable. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. And your suitors should understand that. Some people just have their own reasons and priorities. Like my other friend, she wants to help her family especially her sister(she is sick), before having a boyfriend or before getting married. I asked her if she gets lonely at times, she admitted she does, but her priorities are above it all. And I totally respect that and I think everyone should do too.

Good day gEa_88, With regards to your topic discussion, perhaps the time for you to fall in love does not come yet. As there are times, this feeling of being in love comes sooner or maybe later. On the other hand, maybe you are one of those who are called single bless people. As you will not need to be a nun or a monk to serve others. Hence, your being single somehow will bless and serve others. Nevertheless, dont close yet your door to a marriage life, as this will come if this is truly for you. For now, just take one day at a time.

I respect you for you do not want a boyfriend. Maybe you feel its not yet the right time for you to be in a relationship, its okay! But I hope your heart & mind is still open for the possibilities for love to come across your way.. What I mean is, maybe one day soon someone will pass your way and might get attached to you so much and will touch your heart and probably changed your views and outlook in life. I'm hoping you'll feel what is the feeling to be in love one day.. God bless!

Well, it may the matter of time.Now you may enjoy your single moment and don't need boyfriend, but there's a time when you want to share love and affection with some of guy :-D

i have some friends just like you too, therefore, i am not surprised.... maybe you have something to do or not yet done, and suitors is just a waste of time, or.... maybe you engaged in sports or martial arts, that learning one technique is not enough..... so you have to learn more and it takes years to master as plenty of option techniques is an advantage.... or.... maybe you are engage in college school where the course needs 10 years of study plus an additional course compatible to the course that you've been taken that it needs another 4 years additional to wait.... so, suitors is still a waste of time..... or maybe there are some reasons too.....

every girl want some body ti talk with him an all supject but i dont want boyfriend but i want great girlfriend

gEa hi do not give up and feel comfortable the way you are asi t might not be the right time to meet the man who God has picked for you. For each of us there is a special someone who is meant for us. I was 32 when I met my husband to be and it was love at first sight. He was all the things the other men were not.Before I met him I was happy single as the men I had date were to tell the truth either bores or would be don Juans bu t none would do and I was happy being single.But when I met my husband I was making a surgical bed, as a nurse's aide, in St Lu kes Hospital in Phoenix.WE even fought good naturedly over which had the best idea for a surgical bed.Even then his eyes sparkled and he had a good natured grin.As a dyed in the whole pessimist he was good for me. I called him a cockeyes optimist that saw the good in everything.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a boyfriend, you might find that you change your mind in the future but even if you don't, that doesn't really matter. There is so much more to life than simply being with someone, getting a house and having children; yet so many people only see this one path in life and do not seem to realise that there is anything else that they could do. If you wish to concentrate more on your career and your friends then this is absolutely fine and you certainly shouldn't let anybody else make you think that you're making the wrong decisions, because it is honestly entirely up to you.

Maybe you just haven't met 'the one'. =P I think maybe you will just be surprised one day when you meet someone who will make you want to have a boyfriend, etc etc etc. =P

you know what i think of that.it's a very bad idea of not keeping a boy friend but you should have a good boyfriend who will respect your feelings.it's very important to be in a true relationship and if you think that you have really found your mr"right" hten go for it do not delay as time doesn't stop for any one and is not going to stop for anyone so if you feel to go in a relationship check your partner first and choose wisely .

I think it's a great idea to wait until you are 100% ready. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. Be as picky as you want and wait as long as you want! I wish I did those things. I was the opposite. Someone showed me a little bit of interest, fed me a bunch of crap and I dove in head first. So, I wish I was a little more like you when I was young and single... I didn't though. I hope someday you find exactly what your looking for! =)

If you don't want to have a boyfriend then make up your mind and be ready for your husband, because you will skip to have a boyfriend so you will choose for a husband. That's very nice point.