Break Up- Do you return the items you got each other both?

I think it really depends on you. I have kept some of the things that were given to me by exes such as a shirt or purse, but when it comes to jewelry I have gotten rid of them because I dont want to wear something someone else gave me that was special. I've kept cds and books because they are trifles nothing special. Plus i honor and appreciate the things my current boyfriend gives me. I tend to forget what others have given me.

hi, actually i never return it those things had given to me,when i and my ex broke up last year he didn't get those things he gave but i also didn't return it,instead i throw them away from me because every time i saw those things it always reminds me the past we had.but some things still in me because i still wanted to stay that to me and also as a remembrance of my past.

haha with my two ex boyfriends,i never returned anything... maybe because they have never given me much worth returning. with my frist bf, he only got me a torn song lyrics he gave his ex gf and patched it up and gave it to me, also another pig stuffed toy returned to him but that stuffed toy never left his dorm room but he told me its already mine.. weird eh! my 2nd bf was only able to give men a shirt.. well no thanks to that now, the shirt is not wearable already so i guess he would not want that back, would he?? hahaha

Never return anything, they were given as gifts. Now in the event of a break up and he got you clothes, you keep them unless you feel you cannot wear them because of bad memories. You could give the clothes away to someone who really needs them. Then there are the gifts of jewelry, in this case you have the option of keeping it or selling it for money. I have kept things some girls gave me and other things I just got rid of. The choice is up to you. Now if he or she is demanding it back, just say NO!!

For me, gifts given by my ex contains memories that we shared when we are together. And I don't want to forget those memories even though we are not together anymore. But if she would ask me to return the gifts that she gave me, then I would return it so to respect her decission

hi I simply gave the stuff back no matter whether it was something rather expensive or inexpensive the guy had given to me. Simply as I didnt weant to come across that stuff all the time and then not having a chance to have the hurts of the breakup hurting me.

If the presenter demands the gift to be returned i would do it otherwise i don't believe in taking back the gifts given and neither returning it

I don't think you should have to give any of the gifts back, but you don't have to keep them if you don't want to. If you started asking for everything back, it could get to the stage where you were going back year and thinking about everything that you'd ever bought for the person. It would be too hard to remember to be honest with you. I broke up with my boyfriend in January (although we're back together now) and when I picked my things up from his house he'd put a teddy bear that I'd bought for him. I didn't take it, and said that it had been a present for him and if he didn't want it then that was fine, but I certainly didn't want it.

Gifts are gifts and should not be returned period. But if you talk about something borrowed like money, then it should be. Take for example my situation now with my ex.She has borrowed money from me many times already and she was the one who said that it is a loan so she should return it in every sense of the word, but to be honest I don't expect to get it back.

I do. But breaking up must not be a reason for us to return everything we had while we are still us. For me, it depends on the reasons of break-up. Those things would not be of harm even we did break up. It would be something that could even bring back that we had once have a good moments together instead. Breaking up is a way of showing that two people did not meant for each other, but just knowing someone to add up to the list of people who have been part in molding our personality and who gave experiences which made us a better person. Giving those things back to each other means that you're holding grudges against each other, thus would make you both even more harder to accept and move on. And that only makes you depriving yourself the chance to find and have the right person for you. Besides, returning or losing those things doesn't mean that you would forget totally the person who gave it to you. It's not in those things that memories lies but in our heart where that someone occupied a space.

Hi there! Honestly,I don't do anything about it,lol! If it's in my cabinet,it'll remain there,hehe! Some things given by my first love are just lost,didn't know what happened,maybe because we moved in and wasn't able to check all my things,lol! The pictures..I miss it,haha! Oh now I remember..hubby took it and I don't know what he has done with it,hmmm..I wonder where he put it,haha! Well,I just want to tell that memories are part of our lives. What we will do to those gifts given by your past love is not what matters most but the relationship you both had is what matters..part already of your history.

hello infatuatedbby, It's not my attitude as a person to return those things that was given to me or vice versa. All the stuffs that my ex gave to me I burned it after 3 years but I kept his first love letter and some tweety bird stuff which is my collections so I don't want to burn or return it to him . happy mylotting

Well I had a boyfriend before and he bought me stuffs often. And I did too. When we broke up, I burnt all his letters and cards and threw away his gifts. But yeah I didn't return even one of them. And actually I don't know what he did with mine too. He probably uses some of them LOL

With all my exes I didnt give anything back except when i was engaged I obviously gave the ring back, but other than a situation like that i dont think there is any reason to return anything, since it was during your relationship. Besides, during relationships both parties give gifts and thats exactly what they are GIFTS, which means you get to keep them and they make good memories!

Even if it was a bad break-up, still it doesn't feel good to return things which you got from him while still in that relationship. I don't know, it probably speaks about a person's level of maturity? To me, it means you are not handling yourself right if it leads to that, returning each other's gifts after a break-up. On the side, it is a bit mean also, if one asks back for the things already given as a gift. Maybe, it hurts to look at those things, so keep it stored away from sight. That's a better solution than adding more insult to injury.

On my part, i find it offensive if i will be receiving those returned items.LOL. Si i believe part of ethical standard never return, otherwise the presume would be you have never love or treasure the moment hat once you had have. That is just my opinion.=)

You don't need to return them. They're gifts given to you and therefore yours. But if it helps you in any way, it's better to give them away to charity or to donate. That way nothing goes to waste and you've moved on actively, if not symbolically :) The only things you should return are stuff he actually owns that happen to be lying around your house when he used to visit or stay over. If you have some of your stuff at his place, then you should ask for those as well.

I didn't give it back.. it's a gift given to you. but if the breakup was totally painful, i guess i might get rid of it or i'll just keep it and won't ever use it.

I don't want to return items given by my ex's.... I want to keep it as a remembrance for being a good boyfriend.. or being a rude boyfriend.. I included being rude because he made you strong and realizes things that they are some guys like him and we girls have to be careful next time.. its like a lesson in life... When something is given to you.. it's all yours.... if he wants it back..give it to them... they just want to give it to another girl in his life...

i DON'T RETURN ANYTHING FROM HIM.