Do you really tell?
By lzink14
@lzink14 (54)
United States
June 20, 2011 3:22pm CST
So, i was just thinking how many of you actually tell your partner the truth of how many past relationships you have had??? Some say that you always say less then what the actual number is, so i was wondering how many people actually do that...I can honestly say since i can count mine on two hands i have no problem saying the real number, but i am sure for those that have many more, they may tend to stretch the truth alittle..lol.. So do you tell the truth or not?
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5 responses
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
20 Jun 11
I would definitely have to tell the truth. If you have a serious relationship with someone, then you shouldn't hide anything from each other. It's also a lot easier to open up if you're comfortable with your partner. Once I was comfortable with my boyfriend after being friends for a while first, I admitted to him that he's my first boyfriend (we were both 17). Then he kept begging me who my first kiss was and I was always embarrassed about it because my first kiss was him. Finally, I told him and instead of making fun of me he thought it was the cutest and coolest thing.
So, my advice would be to tell the truth in a serious relationship. It doesn't do any good keeping secrets because it'll just eat away at you and make you feel extremely guilty.
@menace730 (506)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
Well lzink...here is the other end of the coin. I recently started a discussion on this type of topic. The jist of it was, Do you tell the truth if it will hurt someone. Well I for one have lied about past relationships because I saw no reason to possibly hurt my wife with the truth. It is in the past and I saw no reason to tell all. I know this is wrong but my wife is a very sensitive women and I know this would have hurt her. So I lied and said less than the real. Sooo, saying that would you have told you boyfriend something that possibly would have hurt him? I could not...so I lied.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
21 Jun 11
Hmmmm, you have a pretty good point menace. That's a tough spot to be in. I don't know what I would do. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to get hurt, but then again I also wouldn't want to keep something from him or lie to him.
I would probably have to tell him the truth. If I didn't I would feel guilty about it. Also, he would be a lot more upset if I lied and then he found out the truth. I think he would rather me come out with the truth than lie to his face.
But since I'm a girl, I don't think I'd want to know something that would hurt me. I'm super sensitive myself and I know I wouldn't want to know anything that would get me upset. So I'd probably rather him keep it from me and then I would never find out. But if it's something simple like how many girlfriends or anything else, I'd want him to tell the truth.
@MindieLuv (3)
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21 Jun 11
I've read most of the responses to your question & I've got to agree with them, for the most part.
You want your partner to like you for YOU, right? Then I'd say tell him EVERYTHING. If you're holding back, he doesn't know the half of you, & that part may just be the most important. If you feel like you're telling him more than he's letting you in on, bring up the fact that if things are going to work between you two, you're going to have to know all the facts. Promise to not keep anything from him if he does the same for you. Just, whatever you do, don't judge him for his past & he won't judge you for yours. (:
I know this response wasn't too relevant to your question, but I hope in any case, it helped. (:
@lzink14 (54)
• United States
21 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! I dont have a problem with this since i am married with two children, but it was just a general discussion of the topic becuase i was just curious if people actually do tell the truth or not. My husband knows EVERYTHING about me and my past, so i dont have to worry about it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
Hello lzink,
I will,and will always tell the truth.
There is no use of hiding or lying..the more we lied,the more embarrassment once it is revealed aint?
Besides,it's better to be honest from the start than unravelling lies after...(no one will ever believes then.)
have a good day always and enjoy mylot 
@Jesuriel (267)
• United States
21 Jun 11
I always try to tell the truth about everything so it really isn't a problem for me either. I mean, it's not good to bring back memories of ex's and talk about them with your current girlfriend/boyfriend. But if she asks, I answer. Just like I tell her the truth about everything she has to do the same with me.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
20 Jun 11
Hi there lzink14,
Welcome to MyLot! :D
I always tell my fiance the truth about everything. There is nothing I have kept from him, and I tell him every single detail. He knows everything about me and my past.
I cannot help but tell him the complete truth because when I try to keep something from him, or if I lie... I feel really bad and tell him within minutes. LOL
