Random Hattred from loved ones

Wow, yeah I guess so. I never did collect my bearings enough to confront her on the subject. Although she did look at me right after she said it so she had to have seen the disgusted look on my face. Like I said, If it had been anyone else Id of easily cut them out of my life completely.

I'm not a prejudiced person. I love the different cultures and people so I am glad that the US is the "melting pot" so to speak. I have met some wonderful people from all over. Still, I've made comments that I think could have been misconstrued. I really don't like that our government gives really cheap interest rate loans to foreign people to come over here and take over our convenience stores. They fire all the help and hire their family members and jack up all the prices. We, who are natives, could never get such a good deal. I hate how they help the other countries more than they help our own. I hate how when I call for help on a product or credit card that I get people who can't speak clear English! I hate how hard it is to find American-Made products and when you finally do...they are way out of your price range. I sometimes will make comments that could possibly be misunderstood. My animosity is not at all towards these people. It's towards our government that treats them way better than they do us. It is towards our government that gives them benefits that compromise ours. My daughter who has a little baby just got her hours cut at Wendy's. Why? because they are training foreigners and so her hours got cut from full time to 6 hours a week ...yes that makes me angry....she has a son to support! It's not them...who can blame them for taking the opportunity? It's our government for compromising our livlihood for foreign people. I think you should talk to your cousin. I 'll bet her anger is along these lines. Its not the people...it's our government.

Sam, if it happens again then you should let her know that it really bothers you and you think that saying such things is extremely hateful. If she really believes what she says and isn't just lashing out in a moment of weakness, then it'll be pretty clear in a heartbeat. Sid, I don't think it's fair to blame the government either. I'm pretty sure the government didn't make Wendy's cut your daughter's hours, and it doesn't require that all commerce be taken outside the US. Sometimes I feel like foreigners get special treatment too, but I don't really think that's the case. There's lots of things that our government gives us that they don't give to non-citizens... and immigrating here legally is actually very difficult for people just looking for new opportunity.

I don't like to pry but did either of the people say anything back to you....and do you think you would have said something different if it were a close family member or would you have said anything at all....Thanks for the response.

Hi and thanks for the reply. Both of these people reacted in a similar way, in that they each insisted they always follow their Christian values to the letter, and neither would back down. One of them broke off the friendship with me which was OK because if someone is unable to practice their convictions, then they probably don't make a good friend for me. The other one remained a friend, and after a period of coolness, we began to get on well together again. We now don't discuss things which could cause a huge difference of opinion. If ever we accidentally edge around doing so, one of us will say out loud that we're closing the conversation, and to move onto something else, as we're hitting controversial ground. As for the thought of if I'd have said something different were it have been a family member, I think I would have said the same thing. As none of my family are in any way religious, it's difficult to guess what response I'd get in that situation, but I doubt if I'd feel any kind of hostility towards such a family member - maybe I'd try to keep out of their way though if we were coming from and going to completely different places as people. I'd attempt to strike up a mutual tolerance situation I suppose. Hope that answers your questions....and thanks again for the reply. Have a good day!

It was definitely out of character, I'm now starting to think maybe I should bring it back up and just ask her strait out. Still not sure though, Id be lying if i said I wasn't afraid of her response. I don't know what id do if she confirmed my suspicions that she really felt that way. Anyway thanks thanks for the advise.

Sound advice and very much appreciated. Its not very easy for me to just forget things especially something like this. I guess all the more reason for me to hear her reasoning I suppose.

Absolutely, it would be awesome if nobody ever said such things or probably even more importantly if nobody ever even thought in such a way. I guess with so many people in the world and so many different view points and personality's that's nothing but an unreachable dream anymore. That's terrible what he said, so many people talk like that in a joking manner ( supposedly joking ) I guess its hard to truly know the feeling behind it but either way its hurtful and in return wrong. I think so anyway. Just curious did that in anyway affect your friendship are y'all still friends?