Will You Tell Your Child to Just Give You the Money?
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
June 21, 2011 8:52am CST
Some children, when they are already earning money, would want to treat their beloved parent(s) for an occasion. Expenses are not a question. They would truly want to give their best.
Some parents though dislike the idea of over-spending and tell their child(ren) to just give them the money instead of spending it in a restaurant, or a cozy place to hang out and enjoy with family members.
I am not in favor of doing this to the child(ren). If my child(ren) will treat me to a birthday party, or in a restaurant, or in a beach party, or anywhere else they want to spend time with me, I'll gladly grab it. Opportunity only knocks once. 
And besides it is an act of appreciation for what I did for them, and it is not polite to refuse. I believe the act makes them feel good, so let them feel good!
And besides it is an act of appreciation for what I did for them, and it is not polite to refuse. I believe the act makes them feel good, so let them feel good!1 person likes this
7 responses
@miadsoriano (884)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
My daughter just turned 3 and so I won't have to actually deal with this till she's out in the workforce already. But I know what you mean for I used take my parents out to dinner from time to time. I no longer work, but my thoughtful hubby always like to show my parents that filipino "lambing" and high regard by taking them out to lunch or dinner or to a movie. My parents seem to love it! Fortunately, they are not the type who "ask for money". But my siblings and I help them whenever we can and are always there for our parents.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
you are such a loving daughter blessed with an understanding husband. unfortunately for some this is not the case. parents are one of those reasons for arguments. you know, some partners would not want their wives or husbands to still give or help their parents. though i know these are dependent on many factors.
thumbs up to you and to your husband! 
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@chiumee (850)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
i totally agree with you. i wouldn't say that to my child. i am a young parent. my daughter 8 years old, would tell me, dad, i will give you this for a gift from me. though we both know she won't have any money yet to buy what she told me, i would bring her to a place where she can get it and allow her to buy the gift for me. given that this is at least affordable for the time being. sometimes though, i explain to her that we don't actually have to buy things everytime we want and we just need to choose what we need.
@qianlizhifeng (468)
• China
21 Jun 11
As for me,I would bring something valuable for my parents' health to them every time I go home.Because of busy work and heavy pressure,the frequency I return to see my parents is quite low,though I miss them.Some years ago,I would send them some money,but the result is that the keep the money for me instead of buying something for themselves.I know they would never use the money I give,so I decide to bring something useful to them,especially those which are good to there health and happiness.The health of my parents is my greatest happiness.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
that is wise and a caring move.
some parents would want to retain self-respect about money they receive from their children that is why they do not spend the money. some parents though rejoice receiving money, forgetting about self-respect, probably because of need or poverty.
anyway, i am glad to hear that you care about your parents' health. keep it up!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Jun 11
Hi bingskee 
Gosh I am the same as you as both my kids from time to time do give me the option as to whether I want something and or the money. My first immediate response is how sweet that you think of me, but I would prefer we go to the restaurant as this way we can have sometime together.
Yes it is not polite to refuse as they put forethought into their gifting, therefore, I also take into account and say why don't we go to this one place as in the back of mind it would be cheaper. lol, of course if they are asking where I would like to go. Usually they have a place in mind so I immediately say what time should I be ready. lol
It does give them a sense of appreciation and they feel important too.
Gosh I am the same as you as both my kids from time to time do give me the option as to whether I want something and or the money. My first immediate response is how sweet that you think of me, but I would prefer we go to the restaurant as this way we can have sometime together.
Yes it is not polite to refuse as they put forethought into their gifting, therefore, I also take into account and say why don't we go to this one place as in the back of mind it would be cheaper. lol, of course if they are asking where I would like to go. Usually they have a place in mind so I immediately say what time should I be ready. lol
It does give them a sense of appreciation and they feel important too.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
Me too. I will just accept whatever my child would like to give me. It's her money, so she knows how to spend it wisely.
Besides, she wouldn't be giving treats like eating in a restaurant, if she don't have extra budget for it.
How i wish, our daughter could be a doctor now! Well, it's another 5 years, but time flies. Before we knew it, she's already a doctor.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Jun 11
It depends on how much money he has and how much is going to be spent for party. If the expenditure is 25% of what he has then it is ok. otherwise no. have a good day.
@jabar_muzarpar (54)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 11
I'm not yet a parent, but i'm a child. i'm earning money for myself now, but i give a partial of them to my mama so that i don't spend money mindlessly. In my opinion, you should tell your child to just give you the money cause that is what i want my mama to do to me. i still young and not that wise. just work in a company and the feeling of receiving my first salary makes me want to spend big. in order to prevent that from happening, my mama ask me for the money and i willingly give it to her. she's old, she's wiser. she knows what's best for me..
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
hello to you. thank you for sharing your thoughts.
however, i am the type of parent that do not impose. i do not require my children to give me money. if they want to save, they can do it on their own, they are all grown ups by the time they are working, and must have already know how to spend money wisely. we, as parents, had seen to it that we had done our part of imparting the lesson about saving money and saving wisely before they begin to work or land a job.
it is okay if my daughter or my son will ask me to keep the money for them for a while, or deposit the money to their bank accounts. i will gladly do that. but to ask or spend the money, i will definitely not do that.
however, i am the type of parent that do not impose. i do not require my children to give me money. if they want to save, they can do it on their own, they are all grown ups by the time they are working, and must have already know how to spend money wisely. we, as parents, had seen to it that we had done our part of imparting the lesson about saving money and saving wisely before they begin to work or land a job.
it is okay if my daughter or my son will ask me to keep the money for them for a while, or deposit the money to their bank accounts. i will gladly do that. but to ask or spend the money, i will definitely not do that.