for lovers, is it necessary to see each other everyday?
By janefatima
@janefatima (347)
Philippines
June 23, 2011 5:20am CST
Awhile ago I was writing about if it is a requirement to say I love you to your partner as a lover from time to time. Now, it crossed in my mind if it is necessary to see or meet your partner everyday. Or if lovers are new couple shall I say on their 3rd month, is it necessary to each each other from time to time?
16 responses
@voracious (624)
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
It's not really necessary to see your partner everyday because there are times that you and him also busy in your everyday lives and time will come you might got bored with him. I suggest even if you don't see each other everyday at least your communication to each other matters.
@Kaseyfan2011 (5)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I think it depends on the couple.. Me and my boyfriend see each other just about every night or every other night and we are great.. We never get bored with each other or anything, but I have seen some couples who are together 24/7 and they get bitter towards each other and start to fall apart.. Depends on how the two people the relationship are. Sometimes it works and other times it don't.
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
It is not really necessary for lovers to meet every time. It is not really the quantity but the quality of time that you give to your partner. Most people who demand seeing their partners every time only want assurance. Assurance that their partners will never leave them. Here comes the word TRUST. If two people put trust in their relationship, this makes their love for each other stronger.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
24 Jun 11
I think that depends of the person. For me, that's not necessary, but my sister thinks completely different. She has a boyfriend and they are already almost 3 years together and she has to see him everyday, also, they call each other around 5-10 times per day. I think that's so exagerated, for me, if I don't see my boyfriend for a day or even if we don't speak for a day, that would be normal to me. I don't think that I like less of him because I don't have this need to see him every single day. I just think it's always necessary to give each other space.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
It's really not necessary for lovers to meet everyday. As long as there is communication and true love. :)
@jonnieke (38)
• Kenya
24 Jun 11
i think its necessary for lovers to see each other from time to time, this is because they will learn each other behaviors and characters. but when they don't, there might be some kind of mistrust. myself i like being with my lover all the time i am free so that we can discuss our lives together.some of the lovers who stay long without seeing each other, hinds many things. many things.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Seeing each other everyday would be great for lovers but I don't really think that it should be a necessity. In my case, my girlfriend would love to be with me all the time, I do prefer seeing her everyday but not all the time because there are times that I have other things to put my attention to and I feel that it would be unfair for her if I was with her but I couldn't pay attention to her. i know my girlfriend would just love to have me around every time and it makes me feel important and therefor happy.
@Sridhar40 (112)
• India
23 Jun 11
No, it is not like that. So many couples are loving each other without seeing their faces and writing letters throuch email, faxetc will help them to get better understanding. As my concern, i will tell that there is no need to meet the lovers from time to time. They can share their feelings, happiness, worries etc even without seeing each other. This is also another way to make their love strong.
@keenan_savio (416)
• India
23 Jun 11
In my situation not necessary everyday considering that we both are working and at times due to these work schedules it may not be possible to meet each other everyday. But for a relationship to flourish trust and honesty are the most important and together with that the two need to be understanding.
Without a doubt we all love to see our better halfs the more we can. Also in many situations it would depend from couple to couple. There are those who may have all the time nad those who struggle to make time because of other activities. Nevertheless love still exists and grows even more from being away from the partner. So the next time they meet they feel more attached to each other..
@angelo315 (232)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Hello janefatima. Seeing your boyfriend everyday should not mean that you will lose contact with the other people in your life, and most of all your life itself. I think, it is also important to keep working on your life outside of your relationship. If seeing your boyfriend everyday works for you, then there will be no problem. In my case, I always see my boyfriend (now my husband) everyday, because we are employed in the same company. We go to work together and we go home together. But we eat lunch with our respective officemates. By doing this, we are able to spend time with our friends and/or officemates.
When we grow in love (i chose the word grow, instead of fall), we like spending time with our partner. There is no problem with that, as long as we are not forcing him to see us everyday. Like saying "I love You," it is not an obligation, it should be done wholeheartedly. :) Have a nice day. :)
@marycheene (53)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
This is based on my experience. I have a long time boyfriend; 5 years. I noticed when love is new, you feel the urge to see each other almost everyday. It's like building your relationship's foundation. When you reach your 3rd year w/ the relationship, you purposefully lessen the time of seeing each other so you have more time to miss each other. As the song goes, even love needs a holiday. So my answer is no. Besides, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes, it's sweeter to linger on a memory, but not too long, you might forget how it feels. :)
@mrporter2011 (11)
• United States
24 Jun 11
I think at first for about 6 months it is good to see your spouse everyday, not in a smothering way even if it is just for a lunch it is a good idea. In my opinion it would help to build that relatiosnhip as well as get to know each other very well. I mean after all lovers should be best friends and should be able to talk and see each other all the time. Build that trust and that communication is the key. If that is done right everything else will fall into place.
@marlini12 (10)
• Netherlands
23 Jun 11
I don't think I want to see my girlfriend everyday. I would love to be with her but if you see each other to much I think you get or to much used to each other or just make more and more rows. I had a girlfriend that lived like 36 km from my home and it went great becease then I could not wait to see her!
@piggychan (97)
• Canada
23 Jun 11
oh, i really like it when i will get to see my boyfriend.. we spend much time with each other and we like doing things together.. I always want to be with him and him too.. we dont live together, but we meet everyday either at lunch or after work.. it makes both of us happy, thats why as much as possible we meet everyday.. :D
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I guess it's not important to see the one you love everyday. Too much spending time together isn't good, it might leave you're other half bored or become cold with you due to too much familiarity. We all deserve a space to grow, it's a matter of how you balance your time together with the one you love.. You don't have to leash him/her to spend time with you for eternity.. even life itself is not for eternity..
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