how to managed your anger????anger management???
By honeymalen
@honeymalen (115)
Philippines
June 23, 2011 10:34am CST
hi guys this afternoon i was totally freak out with my charge nurse and all my blood goes up and want to spilled out.I know she was my senior and i really respect her but the problem she was totally......i don't know what to called her.Because before she asked me to worked with other doctor, so i did'nt refused her, so assisted that doctor but the problem i have patient with my original doctor, it was all post-operated so i need to do dressing, but the problem our patient asking me to the dressing not with the other nurses, so my charge nurse called me and asked me i have dressing, at that time i was busy and who will covered me when i would go out to the clinic.I was really fed up and so i answered her back that i cannot do the dressing because i have patient here in the clinic , i have only one body, i cannot divide it, and you know what she replied to me....so how can we manage that one???? oh my GOD she asking me...so i closed the phone and went out and then i saw her i really told her that "i cannot worked like this one in the clinic and then doing the dressing what is this????I really cannot control my anger????i lost my patience, because it was too much and always asking too much favor on me....
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10 responses
@amol_s1111 (13)
• India
24 Jun 11
there are few tips to manage your anger.the first one is to count from 10 to 1.and second is feel like you living in a story,and thinks as you are in a different character in it,don't connect it to yourself.and the third one is to stay calm,cause when got angry ,that person start talking such a thing ,which he meant to say.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
24 Jun 11
Well there are times where you do have to control your temper. However, anger management is not the answer for most people. There are a lot of times where when people try and force the control of their anger, that is going to just elevate their temper to a higher level. That is what anger management is all about, trying to force a control, trying to bottle the anger in. However, a lot of people tend to go through anger management, but come out with an even worse temper.
There are going to be a lot of times where its going to explode out in an even worse way, although it is not going to explode out as often for sure. It is rather hard to deal with anger problems, and there are just some people with short fuses. Try and take a deep breath, remind yourself that it is not really worth exploding in anger, but there are sometimes where the mind doesn't kick in and start calming yourself down. It can lead to an ugly situation for sure, when anger gets the better of you.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
I know you already have your peak of patience, that's why you exploded. That is understandable.
Perhaps, your charge nurse should also try to understand the situation and will not make a big issue of your outburst. Maybe also, when you have calmed down, you could apologize and say that you were really so pressured and explain why.
We sometimes cannot control our temper. But we can always apologize to the party to whom we directed such anger. They will understand.
@cherrymary (39)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 11
I manage my anger with smile. If I angry with someone, that they only I can do, just smile. with smile I really can calm down myself. Sometimes I will take a breath and I felt calm and that I can get ride my anger.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 11
hi honeymalen when you are working in public you do not have that choice of blowing your stack when things get too busy and you are pulled first one way then the other; remember that all the others are under the same pressure. So be cool and help first one person then the other. All clinics and hospitals have super busy times but the workers must help each other all the time. You cannot have the luxury of feeling sorry for yourself at all so go help the other person then go back to your own busy office.I have no patience with doctors and nurses who panic and belly ache as in any medical facility we get busy but we cannot go around screaming our anger out.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
23 Jun 11
Its is necessary to control our anger, In anger we are intended to take any decisions, and ultimately we do such things that we regret it later. Some people are really hot tempered they just can't control anger in their life, when such situations to control anger arises it is really very difficult especially for the Hot tempered persons. Now In order to manage your anger there are many ways. Recently i was researching on internet about how to break a habbit? and all through my research i arrived at a solution that if you plan a program of 21 days to control yourself you can surely benefit from that. All you have to do is whenever you are angry you just have to let it go compromise no matter what the reason may be even if you are someone else is wrong just leave it off. My friend if you practice this program iam sure you will reap the benefits from it. It is proven by experts, also apart from that have a daily conservation with God and build your relationship with him Iam sure you will strongly manage your anger.
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
Before hitting up the boiling point sometimes we need to ease our temper to achieve the best of what they demand from us. In the medical setting where everything seems to be always on the go, especially in times like that of yours, it's a good thing to keep in mind that you're doing all those tasks not for personal matters but for the integrity and accountability of your job. However if it's too much for you to handle, it's not a problem to decline their requests in a calm manner. One of the most effective thing to do is, you pause for a second, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and tell the person that you're not available as of the moment as you're still busy rendering care to your patients. I hope it works for you.. It really distresses all the anger you feel inside..
@1Cortney1 (30)
• United States
24 Jun 11
I have a really bad temper too and my family told me they are scared when I get mad. So I needed some way of controlling it. I didn't want my family scared and it made me feel like a terrible person. When I get mad I usually think of what could truly happen. I would be mad too if that lady did that to me, but you should confront her about it calmly and tell her how you feel. Don't argue or scream because you don't want to lose your job. Yeah you may think you could get another job, but the economy is so bad right now more than thousands of people are unemployed and are unable to get a job. That would be a perfect outcome to think about. Another good way to control your anger is to either take a day off. It would be nice to sit back and relax.
