Being attracted to others even when in a relationship

it is often happening for guys i think since guys are more attracted on looks rather than personality so if a guy saw someone who is very physically attractive it is easy for us guys to get attracted with that girl. unlike girls who are more interested on the personality of a guy so they need to get a long with that guy first

We can not always control our attractions to other people. usually this means that we are missing something in a relationship that we are still searching for. It does not demean or belittle the feelings that we have for another person,

hi choybel. Make yourself "feel" the other way, by thinking you need to feel gratitude that you have had not been through break ups with your first love. Frankly speaking, it feels the same....unless your gf could be controlling, then I guess you feel the urgency to seek your privacy from somewhere else. You're a man. Sometimes, man just have the urge to try on someone else which is just a lame excuse and not a good one. Be fidel and be appreciative for God has given you a good gf. LOL

It is quite natural to get attracted or pay attention to other people or girls. Sometimes we need variety or something different in our view. Appreciating another girl other than your girlfriend gives you a refreshing point of view and at the same time broadens your senses. However, do remember the consequences of your actions. You are responsible to how you act. Don't get too caught on the emotion or feeling of attraction. That is only superficial and shallow. Many relationships fall down due to the inability of an individual to control the attraction instinct. It is human nature, but being human you have the power to control it. I hope you got my point in here.

I think it happens sometimes. And I also think that people do this because they think there is better out there at times. Unfortunately what they forget or fail to realize is things aren't always what they seem to be. So, if another woman is looking so good and you think that she's the one instead for you just be careful. People can act the way they want to but eventually you get to know the real them and you will see their true colors. I know you said your not going to leave your girlfriend or anything I was just giving an example...

If you really loves someone, i don't why you should get attracted to others. please don't wish to have another girl friend, because i don't think you would like it. many girlfriends gives you stress, and you will always fight. my friend, its better the devil you know than the angel you don't. those nice girlfriends are just others. remove that mentality and love your girl friend.

hi choybel hi I m an elderly woman but I remember my husband saying something like that while talking about his first wife. he also wondered what it would be like to be with someone besides her and then she betrayed him with his best friend. we were married 33 years so I guess he saw something in me he really loved and did not care anymore about others lol oll

You better look out if that girlfriend reads this! Actually it is normal I think to wonder about things sometimes. There are also people that you meet that there is a chemistry with...that is the tester...better get out of there quick then!

It is human nature to look, be curious, and to want. What separates a good boyfriend from a jerk are his actions. If you're not out there cat calling to other women or constantly flirting with them or cheating on your girlfriend.. it sounds like you are a normal, good human being. Have I ever wondered? Sure. But I know that I love my boyfriend and he loves me unconditionally in return and that I would never cheat on him. He flirts with women all of the time... to make me want to chase him more. It doesn't bother me because I know he's not in love with them and that he's not going anywhere.

First, have you been sleeping with your girlfriend. IF the answer is yes, then my answer is no. You can not break up with your girlfriend without hurting her very very much. And if you do break up, she will likely not want you back. If the answer is no, you have not, then I would simply tell her "I want to take a break. I need some space, and time to think". Yes she won't be happy. But this could be a very good thing. Understand that if you do this, there is a chance she might find someone else, instead of you. So you risk losing her. But if you don't know if she is right for you, then you need to take that risk. I knew a guy just like you, who decided he wanted to date other people. He told her exactly that. They agreed to break up. He went off and dated a several other girls. After about 6 months, he realized that none of these girls, even remotely cared about him, the way his ex-girlfriend did. He went back, asked her out for diner. In less than a year they were married, and they have a family now. In his case, they were not sleeping together, and broke up very smoothly. No yelling screaming, they were on good terms.

Hummm preety intresting discussion well iam in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost more than a year recently we are been facing a lot of problems in life, I sometimes feel that if my girl doest care of calling me or texting I should just let go things and concentrate on flirting with girls. But I know that each and every relationship has problems in life no couple is life time happy with each other.. Iam sure u guys have managed nicely through 9 years. But when I think of doing such things a thought arises in my mind that be faithful with your girlfriend and dont cheat her.. We should always be happy with what we have no matter how much your partner and you have problems god is always watching our deeds so if we be good with others we will surely reap the benifits from it.

I think I can relate. And to think that I am married. I for the longest time had this crush on my childhood friend. Ever since, I was a young girl I had this huge crush on him. He is a cousin of my cousin but we are not related. We rarely meet, but whenever I see him, he never fails to make my heart skip a beat. I am so happy just to see him. Unfortunately they have to immigrate abroad, and we never had any communication. I had lose hope of us being together that I gave myself a chance to go out with other guys. In fact, his cousin became my first boyfriend but it only lasted a week because he fooled me all along. He got a long-time girlfriend that he got pregnant while he courted me. I was so naive, I didn't know. The funny thing is I accepted it so easily that I asked myself if ever I did loved him. It was really a humiliating experience for him but I was happy it did happen, because finally I was able to have communication with my long-time crush. He was asking if I was okay. If he only knew I was more than okay. After a few overseas calls he made, I was hoping he would court me but he just stopped calling. Shortly after that, I met a guy who would later become my husband. That was 6 years ago, and recently I added him as a friend in Facebook and I saw how handsome he is still and very much single. How I wish facebook had been invented years earlier.Seeing him again, makes my heart skip a beat again. I suddenly think of the what if's specially now that I know, he was in despair when I got married. Well our cousin told me that. Well it was really too late. I have really been distracted lately. I can't even participate here at Mylot like I used to be. Oh well,thanks to your discussion at least I can vent my frustrations. Hubby isn't at all helpful. He has been busy with a part-time job, he usually comes home so late at night. I think once in awhile we come to a point that we think how our life would be different if we aren't with our partner. Specially when you are together for so long and it wasn't as exciting as it used to be. I think what you & probably what I can do too is think or do something that would keep the fire burning in the relationship. And whenever we feel distracted from so much admiration and infatuation, let's think of the reasons why we fell in love with our partners in the first place.

Think it's only natural for you to feel this way. Once I had a boyfriend, he was my first and we had a long relationship about 6 years. I was wondering all the time about if this was it and how would it be. I even fell in love one time with another guy but told him immediately. He went crazy and since then the relationship went downhill. There is no harm in wondering, thinking and dreaming even but better make sure thats all it is. Are there other reasons you keep wondering? Maybe you are not sure about the relationship. Believe me I loved the guy still after 6 years, we almost grew up together but at one time I just realised that I was not as happy as I could be. I was not enjoying life as I should. I still loved him when I told him it was over and I was moving out. And I still love him after ten years. But the love is like brotherly love and I do not wish to be with him anymore. Try talking about it with your girlfriend, try to ask her if she ever wonders about others (note: would not tell her you wonder about others, tell her you heard a friend talking about it). Maybe such a conversation could ease your mind?

I think everyone that in relationship always filling like this. may be they attracted to someone else because of our partner not beautiful or too handsome. or may be we think the others perfect than our partner and can trick us more gentle. Frankly speaking I have got this filling and being this situation, always. but I love my boyfriend so much.

your girlfriend should not give you a hard time about this if she reads it. There is nothing wrong with what you said. If you have never been with anyone else then of course you will wonder what it would be like to be with someone different. I think its very respectful of you to not think about it to much so you will take your mind off it and not decide you want to end your relationship to meet someone new. I was married and although I was attracted to other men at times I never acted on it. I never cheated on my husband. I think thats the most important thing is how you deal with temptation.

For me in the bible if you continue see a woman with bad thinking then you get sin by Jehovah God.

I think the question I should have to ask you right now is this: So why do you want to be in a relationship? Having an ex-girlfriend has its complications so to wonder what that's like is like asking for unnecessary trouble. I have also considered what it's like having a relationship with another guy other the one I'm exclusive with. In the long run, I realized that what I already have is special and going after someone else would be destructive not only to me but to him. The thing I wanted to do was just to "try." But I'm already blessed with something special, something that's already mine. Asking for more and wondering about all that further questions my frivolities. I want to be in a relationship because I love someone, not because I want to know "how it's like."

That's fine, you're just a human full of what if's in your life. Just be happy for what you have. :)

REAL MEN STAY FAITHFUL. They don't have time to look for other women because they're too busy looking for new ways to love their OWN. :)

I have been in the same situation before with my partner for 4 years. And I can quite say that I feel for you. However, at some point of our lives we always have this "discontentment" within us which can end up having neither positive nor negative outcome. The first thing to think of is that you are in a relationship right now and is committed with your girlfriend. Having a thought of being with another person may already be considered as cheating as for my own opinion. You need to analyze the situation carefully. There may be things which you only knew may have triggered your thoughts into making such decisions. If you really love your girlfriend, no matter what the circumstance is between the two of you, you would stick with her and save your relationship.