Putting up a strong front but about to crumble inside....

Hi Secretbear, It happens most of the time with me i also want to show people that i am strong but in actual i am not.Yes many times it happens that i want to show people that i have left without a fight & in my mind it is always there that why did not i finish it off why i left all i should have end it off. I know its easy to give lectures to others but when apply same to ourself then we find it difficult to apply.

That is exactly what I'm feeling right now too. For Filipinos, it's traditional to stay with your parent's until you get married. But this set up is somehow choking because I take care of the majority of the household expenses. Sometimes, I think of leaving and be on my own but I also think of what would life be to my parents without me around. It's actually a confusing situation I'm in. But anyway, good luck to the both of us

Just be yourself. Do good and good things will be with you. Do bad and bad will haunt you. Be strong and be yourself always. If you can fight fight but not hurting yourself. But the best for me is to keep it for yourself and somebody up there will help you out.

That's such a serious statement coming from u, secret ^^ U must be feeling very upset and have so much anger building up in u? We are humans, and we are often strong on the outside, vulernable on the inside. It's good when we are like this, because we are protecting ourself. At the end of any misunderstandings, misjudgement or whatever is there, we just have to find an outlet to vent our frustrations. That's the way of survival, secret ^^ Be strong in life, ignore what others are trying to do to u, u are u, strong and independant ^_^

hi secretbear, I feel you. TO be strong is not that easy what's harder is staying strong all the way, like putting yourself to being rough and tough with the challenges in life because one way or another somehow, u just lose yourself and thinking of giving up. But then again life is about fighting and moving on. And i think you're one tough gal, just keep on moving and never forget to pray and lift it all to God Almighty. Stay strong! Godbless.

Hi Secretbear, I think it is better to just walk away and let the trouble makers worry about themselves. I'd make a clean break and let the chips fall where they may. Karma does happen.. the law of averages will weigh out. What goes around will eventually come around to the people dishing it out.

I've been feeling like that a lot lately. My marriage is falling apart. So much has happened over the last year. I'm trying to be strong but inside I feel like crawling in a hole and crying. I'm terrified to end my marriage, but I'm almost sure that it is what I want to do. I love my husband but he is no longer the guy that I need him to be and no matter how much I try to talk to him about it, he just doesn't get it. I'm not asking for much, I just want him to show he cares about me in some way. I'm scared to be a single mom of three kids and have to do everything on my own.

I try to never allow anyone to bring me down. I like the person that I am and I am very opinionated when it comes to my beliefs and so I usually am fairly head strong and strong-willed. My husband says that I am stubborn and anti-social, but if I am then that is okay as I like myself that way.

Well one of life's challenges. There are so many people out there who show this front. But what's heartbreaking is that no one notice that this people is hurting inside, even though there are hints. Well, just be strong. You're not alone. Just think that there are others out there like you. Who keeps the front everyday, and suffer silently.

Well in a way. I don't want anyone to rot in hell....but I do keep up a big front for others to see. When someone asks me about something I have achieved..well it's hard not to give up sometimes....and then when you finally do....everyone finally asks. I know what you mean....but if I give up its my own decision and no one else has a hand in it!

In life there are many masks. We try and hide behind a facade of strength a lot of the times. We don't want no one to see the fact that we might in fact be breaking down inside. That is a rather harsh road to go down for sure. So when we are mentally breaking down or even in a physical manner, it is really a scary situation to say the least. Often time, you can tell that a person is crumbling, because they are putting in such an over the top performance where they want us to think that something is not wrong with them. However someone who is that happy, if it seems so fake, there are going to be a lot of times where it is going to be obvious that it is very wrong. Not all of the time granted, but there are many times. There are going to be a lot of people that are going to smile through life, but on the inside there is something more than very wrong. You can see a person slowly break down on the inside and it is really a bad situation. It is going to do more harm than good for these people, as they try and put on that happy face, but on the inside, they are doing really bad.

As long as you still want to do it. Just go on and do it. You shouldn't care about other people even though their comments really hurt. Actually, I'm in this situation, the weird thing is the one who criticize me is my relatives, and that sometimes really hurt.. But since I have my family and friends backing me up, I don't care what my relatives say anymore, that's how simple it is, :)

I believe many of us have felt that way at one time or another in our journey through life. I think it is always easier to give up than to continue struggling against what seems at times to be all odds. It is a lifelong process to develop our capacity to transcend over adversity and reach the goals we set. Our capacity to transend is strengthened through spiritual therapy and meditation. Find a way to lift your spirits and take time for personal intraspection and relaxation.

I know how you feel Just bear in my mind that you're a strong individual and nobody can pull you down. KEEP THE SPIRIT UP! :)

I know a few people like that but they seem to be going crazy inside their head. I don't show my emotions easily but I have my outlets and talking about it doesn't always help. Though I've also considered the escape route, I'm not sure if it will work or maybe I just don't have the strength to follow through.

well, am not sure what you're saying here. but were not super human and we do have ups and downs.

be nice to ur love ones and be good to all people u know who good to u and u feel so good if ur love ones is see u happy..