plastic friend

Hey that is bad condition bad that is the way we live right now in the big city no body we can trust or loyal to us. People had it own mind and we can not predict what is it actually. I also experiencing the same condition here and make me confused so much. Just be strong and keep on working on what you do usually. Friend backstep friend is common right now and it is what we should face in this life no safty place here on earth

talk to her!! .. i had an amazing friend. we did everything together and we were super super close, and then she started to distance herself from me when she got into a relationship. some people told me it was because she'd actually developed feelings for me [we are both gay females] and just took on this relationship to mask it, other people said that she was worried of her new partner being attracted to me, some people said she just does this, gets really close to someone and then disappears. well, i'm hot headed so i just was like right ok i'll leave her to it. she ended up going back to, and hanging out with her old friend, a girl that uses her for her car constantly! even though when she was friends with me she told this girl to P-Off for good. But somehow she managed to worm her way back in with her, and she seems happy, so fair play to her. But despite everything she did to me, i miss her dearly.. :( .. and i wish i'd spoken to her about it, i wish i'd asked her why she ditched me, what i did, how we were so close and shared so much together etc. I have 2 large swallows tattoo'd to my front shoulders, and she even got a little swallow on her ankle to match me.. but she could just leave. I regret not talking to her! Take your friend to the side, and ask her whats happened, ask her what you've done to make her act that way with you. Is she telling lies about you to more popular girls in school? Shes maybe trying to get brownie points and make herself look good by running you down! thats not very nice either, but atleast you would know the reason, and not be worried that its you, or you've done something. invite her over for dinner, or a movie, and take the chance to talk to her.. tell her how you feel, and explain if shes going to keep acting like that, you will have to walk away.. but in the meantime, start trying to make new friends, and she'll soon see what shes missing when she realises her best friend has a new one! hope you are ok

Hey chum! Don't be glum. Just accept that there are people like that. At least, now you know what their true natures are. Move on with your chin up. You can find new friends that would really stick with you through thick and thin.

I would really feel bad for the friend and the firendship. You see I am one who put much faith to the person and thus when that trust is destroyed I would be greatly disappointed. There would be no point on continuing the friendship as I would forever doubt the sincerity of the person.

I would feel bad at first. But being a friend for 3 years makes a lot of difference. I would prefer to talk with my friend first and analyze the situation before getting involve with my emotional thing. Your relationship with your friend for 3 years should not be ruined by just a simple gossip without even proving that it is true. Ask your friend if she's really spreading those rumors about you and if she is then it's time to make a decision on how you can take a break with your friendship with her.

that friend is not a good friend who said any bad back of you and who appreciate you face to face.

I would feel like they were not as good of a friend as I had first thought, I would feel disappointed in them and I would then tell them this and say that if they feel that way about me or want to lie about me that is fine but I will not be their friend anymore, that I could not be friends with someone who wanted to be so mean. I believe that true friends will tell you how it is or what they feel IN your face not behind your back!

That just means that she's not worth being your friend. I mean if she were your best friend, she wouldn't do that. If I were you I;d just break the friendship no matter how hard it may be. Coz friends don't backbite.

I will be disappointed and betrayed of course. I guess I will never talk or go near her again, ever!

hi chum! honestly i feel sad , i feel that she betray me but you should know if it is it true because maybe your classmate is lied to you , there are many people who are insecure now a days you should see if the one who told you is insecure to talked about your friend and you.

that is just a sad truth after being friends for three yrs. and even shared good and bad times. Well, for me, I never expect any of my friends to be the perfect friends; I see them with their true selves either the good side or their flaws. When I am in your shoes I would feel hurt but not that much because I know myself more that what others say about me, and not that I would want to end the friendship that way. In my opinion, I would want to save it by having a really good heart to heart talk with her in private. Like saying "I have heard these things about me from etc but then sadly I confirmed about you saying these things about me and I was hurt...not mainly because of what you said but because I see you as one of my precious friends..may I clarify this issue from you?"..something like that. Never ask why, I've learned asking why is not therapeutic at all. And with this kind of start you may somehow hear her side of the story. Make her feel you are open to her views and after that, it's where you explain yourself too. Listening is always the best way to understand each other, then after clearing things with each other, you decide and think things well whether you both still want to continue the friendship. In fact for me, close friends are the only ones who can make us really happy,hurt,and at the same time being able to forgive and forget about each others' mistakes and make the bonds become even stronger. Well, I'm just stating the positive and bright side of things because I'm an optimist. May you choose the best choice there is for you. Goodluck! tc