Can You Really Stay In A Relationship With A Person That Cheated On You?

Personally, if somebody cheated on me I know that I would not be able to be in a relationship with them because there was no need for them to betray my trust in that way. However, I do know of a lot of people who choose to give a cheating partner a second chance and are then very happy in the relationship which is fair enough if they find that it works for them. It isn't for me though, and any partner of mine will be told that if they ever cheat on me. I think that trust is the most important thing in a relationship and if that's gone then I'm just no longer interested.

I can only speak out of my own experience and say no I cannot give a second chance. I am a very trusting and loyal person and therefore expect the same. I have been cheated on in the past and can say it does not work. Because you see one can forgive but the forgetting part is not an easy one and therefore, it is hard to move past it, if one cannot forget. I can say again for me that I would not forget, because you see once I forget I put myself on the fence of being hurt again. I see you are new to myLot so a warm welcome to you!

I can honestly say YES to this. This saved my parents marriage. My father cheated on mom for like who knows how many times! And my mother almost gave up but she endured and now we're living happier than ever before. My father learned from all the cheatings he did and realized he couldn't live without us. I can only imagine how hard it was for my mother to forgive someone who's cheated on you more than once. But hey forgiveness has its price. If its not because of forgiveness, I'd be living with separated parents. No child likes that.

I think that in most cases a second chance should be given as everyone os human and can err. However I doubt if I personally would be able to forgive and forget. It is too hard as you will still keep reminding yourslef automatically what happened.

Very well said. I have given a husband a second chance, and I told him if it ever happened again that I would end the marriage. Well, he did do it again and I did give him the boot. No more. I would not ever give a man a second chance to disrespect me again. He can say it is a mistake all he wants. It's NO mistake to unzip your pants and fall into some woman who isn't your wife or S/O. So NOPE.. he gets no second chance ever again.. no man deserves a second chance I don't think... Now after saying that... my dad cheated on my mom when I was a baby... I found out about it... but my mom took him back and they were married for 51 years ... I don't think he ever cheated again, but I don't think my mom really ever forgave him either... even in her late life she talked about it and there was dad not able to defend himself.

If someone wants a second chance then they really need to earn it and show that they deserve a second chance. Other than that I don't think you can continue a relationship with someone that has cheated on you. The person has already proved that you can't trust him/her, and as you said the disrespect has already been shown. Secondly you wouldn't have a stable and healthy relationship. Next thing you know you're dealing with all the stress, drama, arguing, and dare I say more lies. Personally I wouldn't give out second chances either. Sounds cruel, but true.

in my perspective, holding on and staying is the balance between the things you are considering when you go into a relationship. which weighs more? the love you cant afford to lose or the pain you cant bare to live with?. there are people who choose to give second chances not because they're too foolish and not aware that they'll be cheated again but because it is not the love that was broken but the trust. it maybe the That TRUST that made the relationship strong but itis by love it had began and only through it it must end. :D