your supposed to listen, not to steal my moment.

Perhaps it's due to the fact that it's difficult to listen. It's much easier to speak to your friends rather than listen to them. Things like that happen all the time. We are the one supposed to talk but the other party end up doing all the talking. I think sometimes our friends are just too anxious and therefore gives us too much comments and suggestions. However, we should be glad to have friends who are at least willing to listen to us.

Well These situation many a times happen when the person is lot frustrated and cannot handle his/her problems, It happens so that the person wants to immediately to pour out his issue in front of other person, Its all natural from people because we have this negative feeling living in us and somehow we want to remove it. Now in a situation where you want to share and the person keeps on talking about his issue i think listen to the person tolerate his/her issue show some keen interest in his problem and try giving him a appropriate solution. After some time just pop up with you issue showing some similarities and iam sure the person will help you, If the person is a bit depressed then try giving some space and after a few days time come with your issue iam sure you will get help in your problem.

I have a friend who is like this. I will tell her the basic principles of my problem but it always seems as though she is lecturing me rather than helping me because she ends up saying much more than I am allowed to say. She is a little bit younger than me, too, which just makes things all the worse for me having to sit there and listen to her. I appreciate it when she is trying to help, but unfortunately most of the time she is just trying to get more information from me to use as gossip material. I suppose you should be really careful about who you pass information to.

Oh dear that's so sad when the people you expect to listen to your problems don't know how to listen at all. It's really rare to find a listener nowadays but i'm glad that my friends are good listeners. I think it's because i'm a good listener to them. I have friends from Romania who would tell me their problems and i would listen and give advice when they ask me to. They talk to me almost everyday and i'm glad that they find me comfortable to talk with. When i was down and depressed, it was their turn to listen to me and they did. I was so relieved that even though they couldn't do anything to solve my problem, they were there to listen. That was indeed comforting. I wish a lot of people should learn how to be a good listener.

I think it is human nature for people to do that. You may not be the only one needing a shoulder to cry on. Many of us feel as bad as you do. I don't think they are stealing the limelight from you, but just sharing that they have troubles too. I've had it happen to me on the phone with a friend. I won't even get out what us on my mind before she interrupts me with her news. I think if we really need someone to listen to us we need to pay a counselor. At least they know to listen and ask leading questions to get us to talk. Our friends just don't know how to help. They aren't trained and they have their own problems.

well that is true most of the time the person who should be listen end up during the talk and the person who should be during the talking ended up listen. if you call it steal the moment that is true. we all you try an listen when some one is trying to tell us his/her problem

I know what you mean! This just happened to me yesterday. I was feeling depressed (I still do). And then this one friend of mine sent me a private message and asked me how am I doing. So I was really happy to have someone to talk with and then I said I was feeling bad and asked him how was he doing, too. To my disappointment, he only said "oh, that's sad" and then proceeded on telling me that he has got a new cellphone! I was really annoyed and so I did not messaged him back. I really hate it when a "friend" does that. You start to pour out your feelings and they steal your moment, and either talk about their own problem or talk about whatever is happening with them! And yet we still call them friends!