Family, God I am soooo angry and annoyed with my family, Am I overreacting?

I don't think you are over-reacting at all, Katrinakat. I am very close to my family and I would be hurt if this happened to me. I would have a talk with my sister or my mother and ask them why this happens. If they can't give you a decent answer then maybe you should try to distance yourself from them. I know that is hard but why should you be buying cards and things for them if they are not going to include you in the fun stuff? Did she call you just to let you know that you were missing out on this? Or was she looking for a gift??? I don't really understand her whole point in calling you just to hurt you.

i have been treated like this many of times from my family with my boys. :( its sad that own family would do something like this. i recently moved back to my home town after leaving my husband which every one in my family wanted me to do. my youngest is 5 months and no one will baby sit. i haven't found a job due to no sitter. however we do have a place to stay with my foster sister which im grateful for. however they would take days off and go do things with my brother or other family members and not even as if i wanted to go or they would say you can come next time if you find a sitter. well who the heck am i suposto ask if i have no money to pay the baby sitter? any way your not over reacting sorry it happened.

So did she call you just to tell you that it was his birthday and that you were not invited to his party? If she did, I certainly wouldn't give him the card and I would not speak to her again. Family can be hurtful at times.

In an ideal world, we can rely on family to be there for one another and be supportive. But, this isn't an ideal world and the reality is, your family isn't the first family to behave in such a way. It sounds like they are just as much at fault for your feelings as you are for feeling this way. Now, I'm not you and I don't know what your life was growing up, but if I had to guess there are some problems and hidden emotions behind their behavior. Now I don't want to take a personal attack against you, but you did mention being five months pregnant. Now the pregnancy could be partly to blame in your emotional reaction, but at the same time concerning the party, they may have been concerned about your health, but didn't mention it. Being pregnat can be very restrictive, because you shouldn't drink, smoke or get over excited. So, in retrospect they may thought they were sparing you because they didn't want to hurt you. I don't know, but I'm only guessing. Now I can't say I'm all about family, and I'm not trying to defend yours for their behavior. I am only trying to point out another possible point-of-view. Personally my own family isn't much better, and I'm not... nor have I ever been pregnant. I know about pregnancy from research and knowing people who have actually been pregnant. So I can understand this must be a stressful time for you in general. Raising a son and another one on the way with a husband who has to work all kinds of hours to make the bills must be very stressful. It would be on anyone. I remember when I first met my boyfriend, George. He used to work long hours five days a week, and when he was home he'd sit around drink instead of doing something. Now that was.... redicioulus for sure. But, I'm getting through it, and so is he.

If this keeps happening in your family as you mentioned here, It may be well worth the time to sit down with them and let them know how you feel. They may not be aware of the fact that this is very upsetting to you. It sounds like it may be time to have a heart to heart talk with them. If after you have had the talk with them and this still goes on, you may need to just find some new activities that you can do on your own away from them. If it comes to the point where there are is just too much drama going on and you all can't get along, then by all means you just may have to separate yourself from them and do some of the things you enjoy on your own without them.

I do not think you are silly. I feel resentful because of my family. Of course, it is so that we cannot choose our parents, sisters or brothers. I know, one should not carry insults in the heart, one should accept the relatives as they are, but I cannot reconcile myself some things because of what my sister has done to me and the parents. I prefer to see and contact her as rarely as possible. I still have to see her now and then when we meet at my parents' home. She chose a boyfriend who behaved really badly towards my parents. Unfortunately I cannot have normal relationship with my sister as long as she is not separated from that unpleasant person. I am sorry. Try not to worry.

First of all you are not over reacting at all. Personally I wouldn't even give your brother in law the card, if they are not going to treat you like family then why should you treat them like family? That was very rude to tell you tell you they were all going out and that you were not invited, that is really bad in my opinion. I would be seriously offended and ticked off. About your father not seeing his grandson perhaps the two of you will make amends some day and he can be a part of your children's lives.

If your family always does things like this to you I probably would be used to it by now and not be too mad. I might be of the mind to completely cut ties with them though. I'd have my Life with my partner and child and forget them. I can't imagine not being invited to a party that is with family. We don't drink or anything so I cant think of a reason that my child wouldn't be welcomed too. Sorry to say...I would wash my hands of them.