Do i have another chance?
By Bryanx54
@Bryanx54 (644)
June 25, 2011 3:19pm CST
My ex girlfriend said that she'll always feel something for me. She wants to go out tonight and talk about everything. Her best friend said she loves me and she misses me is this my chance to repair our relationship? i can't wait i'm excited because i love her the reason she left me was because i always argued over the most petty of things but i learnt from what i lost and i said i love her and she said i love you to yesterday on the phone i promised her everything would be like it was when we first met and she said she was lonely. What shall i do for her tonight? should i rekindle with her and kiss or should a i wait before going back out dating with her? im confused help :)
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10 responses
@RubiePerl (72)
• United States
25 Jun 11
It sounds like you have the opportunity to discuss the possibility of going back together and seeing if this is something that you both want and feel that it is worth the effort of making it work. Talking things over is a good start and you must remember to always keep the lines of communication open and that way you will have a good chance of having a beautiful relationship. Talking about everything as your ex girlfriend stated here could be a good way to work through the things that caused the break up in the first place. But remember it's not going to be an instant fix, communication, and being able to get along as well as treating each other respect are some of the keys to having a good relationship. If after you have had the talk and things are still not where they should be , then consider that maybe one or both of you are at a different place and it may be best to just move on and let it go.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Jun 11
I would remember what it was like when you lost her and I would be careful not to lose her again. It sounds like its going to be great but I would keep your promise of everything being like it used to be. =)
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Jun 11
Hi Bryan, it seems like your lovelife's going down a wonderful path. Second chances, if you get them, also call for a lot of changes. Meaning, you should pour more effort to nourish and nurture the relationship, exercise more patience, have more trust and like you said, strive not to argue in petty things because most of the time, that's just what they are, petty.
But the best you guys should do is talk about it and not rush things. Even if you two get too cozy and things get physical, that doesn't guarantee that you are ready to reopen the relationship. So talk about it and come into terms.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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26 Jun 11
Well this yourlast chance to do something just to bring her back on you. Have a surprise and let your lovedo the next step. There is no fomula on what you have to do but just to show and follow your heart and love to her.
May be give her some flowers, gift, a date that she will never forget.
Just be who you are. Enjoy the night and be happy!
Good day!
God bless!
@genesisgroldan (214)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
If you and your ex-girlfriend are not involved with other potential partners yet then you can always give it a second try. It's best that you two separated so you can learn from the experiences you've had when you first give your relationship a try. For the second time around both of you should always make a constant effort to not to repeat each other's mistakes in the future. This can prevent you for breaking up a gain if this might fail. But who knows, love is sweeter the second time around. Good luck to both of you!
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
25 Jun 11
How cool, Bryan! It does sound like you have an opportunity with her... but deal with her... I'd leave the best friend out of it. That doesn't always work out very well when there's a third person in the mix, giving information back and forth and such.
If she wants to go out and talk, then let her talk and, please, REALLY listen to what she has to say. You say she left you because you argued over petty things. It sounds like you didn't have very good communication skills and communication is a key factor in having any kind of successful relationship. It will be a very positive thing for her to see you sit, hear and process what she is telling you.
I'm sure you are both lonely and it's obvious that you are very excited at the opportunity to see her... but, if you want a chance at something lasting, I'd say not to rush anything. Don't plan for physical contact of any kind if she told you she wants to "go out tonight and talk..." If you rush to kiss her or go any further, she may get the impression that you want more of a "booty call" than a serious attempt at getting your relationship back. Judge by how things progress over the course of the evening. Have a good time, treat each other well and with respect... and let us know how it works out! Good luck, Bryan!
@beajoy (12)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Your relationship is not different. It still can be fixed. Girls are very sensitive. But from your story, I think you're ex girlfriend just grew tired of arguing with you. But as you say, you still love each other. I think you should court her again , be person you are when you first fall in love with each other. Maybe there are just some problems in your ruined relationship that must be fixed before you get back together again. Less dramas, less mess. Remember we, girls want the chase - you chasing us :].
And once your back together, make her smile everyday, enjoy every moment with each other, hold hands, go on date. Be sweet even in small stuff. Once a problem arouses again ,don't let the day pass that your angry with each other. Listen to her and tell your point calmly. Place yourself in each other's situation.