I just denied a friend request and I don't feel bad about it

lol =D Same here, len!! haha I dun feel bad about rejecting or deleting friends from my list. I dun mind if i'm the one who's being deleted as well.. hehe ^^ My reasons for deleting them are usually due to inactive or they are getting on my nerves by not listening.. hehe ^^ Though everybody is entitled to their own freedom, to say and do whatever they want, we are free to choose as well. IN your case, he's the one requesting, while u are the boss, giving approval. So there's no need to feel bad at all. U'r doing the right thing, len!! haha

There is nothing bad about it. We are intitled to whom we deemed is really friends and not. Besides, it was not in the number of friends you have, that will determine your life, but on how well you really are as a person. There are people with a lots of friends in the name only. Personally, I don't care if I have less friends as long as they are friends for life. And being friends for life did not necessarily mean that they have to be physically present, you can have a long friendship with someone even if you did not see each other, that's why we have what we call as virtual friends. So there, why accept someone who did not even respect show a single hint of respect. Cause no matter on how poles apart are your ideologies and beliefs in life, if you respect the individual you show it to her and it can also be seen through the way you guys discuss things to each other. So there don't be troubled.

Hi secretbear, we are here giving the right to select whoever we like or more appropriate to say that, those who have comment interests to be friends. To me I don't delete friends from my list just because they have different ways or perspectives of looking at a thing though in our opinion they seem like against us. As what I understand that different people from different parts of the world we meet here having different backgrounds. Since we are here having fun to discuss whatever topics we are interested and have lots to share with, what not we discuss peacefully and harmoniously on discussions we have picked. Whatever happens a discussion is a discussion and this doesn't mean that we couldn't be friends anymore with people who have different views upon certain events Happy posting and have a nice day

There's no rule that says we must accept all friend requests. If someone was deliberately being offensive and insulting other members with their opinion then they should really be reported.

Can't blame you for that. Why would you want to be friends with someone who promotes those types of ideals. *high fives you* I wouldn't feel bad either! Over the last year or so when I've logged into my lot to check on my account, I have denied many a friend. I think I'll start excepting anyone who say.. has more then 500 points. Is that number by our names called points ? I so dont remember its been a long time since I have been around ;P

I don't blame you a bit, I would probably do the same. I just wrote a discussion about accepting friends or not on the basis of what they write on their own discussions and what they write on other people's discussions. I feel if they have nothing good to say about someone here on the Lot, then I have the right to not have them on my friends list. I just don't want to be a party to bad will on the Lot. Certainly degrading women is not spreading good will on the Lot.

It is only the feminists who call men "chauvinist". Feminist do not represent the majority of women. And feminists do not believe in equality. They want to prove the point that they are superior to men.

Approving and rejecting a friend request is a matter of personal choice. If you are not comfortable with a certain individual, his way of approach to certain issues that might go against your principle, you have every right not to accept the friend request. But we do expect to meet people who have different way of thinking as they are very much influenced by their culture and upbringing. With this in mind, I try to be flexible and dance to their music to avoid unnecessary battle of the tongue.

I don't blame you...I deny alot of them. I watch their numbers for a few days and if they aren't serious about being here I don't add them as a friend. Too many times I get referral links right away with a pm...that one really gets to me!

Yeah, it's good that you don't feel bad about it because there's nothing to feel bad about. We could add or delete people or ignore requests all we want here because it is our profile in the first place. However, should there be points as to how many 'friends' you have in your friend's list, then we could just add the night away. But still, if someone is like that, I don't think I'd add the person in my 'real friends' list either. Have a great MyLot day ahead!

Hi Secretbear! You are not the only one. I have denied a friend request from one of those who replied to one of my discussions; and the topic then was religion. I disliked him as he was being disrespectful. I denied him.

Hi Secretbear. I don't blame you for denying his friends request. You are right women can do anything a man can. I am a carpenter and I am a woman! I can work on my own vehicle with my brothers taught me that. Good for you stand up for yourself!

You just did well, if a discussion was created, we need to respect the content of it, everyone have no right to force someone about like this is right and you are wrong... Everyone have there own opinion and perspective in life, all we need to do is give a respect on everyone. =)

Ooops! Guess I have an idea who it is. Haha! Well, just remember this. An opinion is an opinion. No matter how foolish it may sound to you, it deserves to be respected. Okay? Just don't mind him. If we have the same person in mind, then to tell you honestly it was funny how pathetic he is to know that after all this modernization someone is still stuck up in underestimating the capabilities of women. Too bad for him to lack updates of today's world. We all have the right to choose friends that's why we're given the option whether to accept or deny a friend request. Go go go girl! :D

hi secretbear. I dislike male chauvinist pigs too and even on mylot we meet a few. I don't really blame you for denying him as he would just be a thorn in your side when you two clashed over male female issues too. I would have done the same thing. we have a right to chose whom we want as friends here in mylot. and you chose and more power to you.

There are different types of people here in mylot.That is the best thing I found so special about the mylot.Here in mylot we can chat and become friends with people from different countries,from various ages,different cultures,different backgrounds,different jobs,different politics,different views etc.Eventhough facebook also has this,we are not sending friend requests here and there as we do in mylot,i personally never. The point i am paying is that there are different types of people in this world.Some people still following those foolish stupid ancient concepts.We can only advice them that that is not right.If they dont understand its better to keep away. Happy Mylotting :-) :-)

I tend to accept any friend request, except those coming from a member with (0) posts. I think I would accept a friend request from somebody who has a completely different opinion if he is ready to discuss about it, and if he makes a friend request, I believe he is enough open minded to discuss. Anyway, you can always delete a friend from your list. I have done this once for a spammer, and some members like to play with deletions. I accepted 3 requests from the same person under 3 successive user names -- anyone can delete an account and come under a new user name, but anyone cannot change writing style --, who deleted me after 2 to 5 days without a PM exchanged : probably a funny game for this member.

There are better ways of agreeing or disagreeing with someone. I had a professor in college that would often settle arguments by saying. "It's ok that we have differing opinions on something. We agree to disagree." There is a certain logic behind her words. Not everyone will have the same opinion. One thing that I can not stand is someone who thinks that they always have to be right. There is usually more than one answer to every equation.

I think you are right to deny his friend request. All of us have our own choice of choosing who to make friends with. What's the point of befriending someone whom we don't share the same values with? There's no need to feel bad about denying someone's friend request. There's no point to befriend someone who does not know how to respect another gender. Whether we are male or female, we should not stereotype any gender. Good choice, applaud

I have just deleted a friend on here because they crossed the line with me. They said something pretty hateful and uncalled for. I didn't report it as I do not like to start drama and such but I asked him not to reply to anymore of my discussions. So I do not blame you at all. I would do the same thing!