Mothers Should Stay Home?

Your question can be rephrased this way: Should mothers whose children are growing up stay at home? This has cultural and social differences. In the old days, maybe up to more than 20 - 25 years ago, mothers who have little kids, are expecting to stay at home. Dads would go to work to support his wife and children with his monthly salary. This traditional way really helped if they were from middle to upper class. They would not be struggling as dad would be able to buy needs pretty much comfortably. Even till today in developed countries like US, many moms ended up having to stay at home (whether they want to or not) for the sake of taking care of children. In developing countries, moms would probably have babysitters and maids at a fraction of a cost (with food, room, and board without having to pay as much as those in US, Canada and other developed countries). Today, with lots of people struggling everywhere, mothers would wish they don't have children and they have to deal with many worries and troubles. If financial situation may not be an issue, there may be a reversal of role in some developed countries, where there is now a term called 'stay at home dad'. I don't know if that is happening in developing countries. Dads would stay at home taking care of house and kids while moms are out there working. Going back to your question: It depends on situations. Today's world depends on how husbands and wives agree to take different responsibilities. Not just moms, dads also have equal responsibility in taking care of kids as well. This is not like 50 years ago where women are considered 2nd class citizens. If a mom wants to stay at home, hopefully it would be a decision without regret or disappointment. Staying at home is not really demeaning as moms can get themselves useful in many ways nowadays.

That is what they usually did. But it depends on the situations. Like you said if they need more finances then moms got no choice. They need to carry the responsibility together with their husband. If they have enough finances then it is up to her too as there are some mothers who like to still having a job and work even they got enough money and they did not have to do so. yet there are lot who stay as housewives. We should remember whether moms are working or not many still put the job of raising their kids in moms' shoulder alone as dads already out carry out the task of finding money to meet the family needs. In my opinion both mom and dad should carry out the responsibility together especially if mom is working because they need to do all things by herself.

I have to agree with what you have written. It is a wonderful experience to be at home with your kids. Especially when finances allow it to happen. Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job out there. I have done it for 15 years, mainly because I planned on going back to work once my oldest started school, and surprisingly learned I was pregnant with my last child. Now that she's in school as well, it's hard to find a job, especially for someone like me that hasn't worked in so long. So I basically babysit for extra money. To your last question, I feel that women should stay home only if they want to. I can speak as an example that being away from work is very boring at times, especially if you worked before kids.

There is no should or should not involved. People do what is right for them. I know men who prefer to stay home with the children who have wives who prefer to work. Some women love staying at home and being a housewife and mother and others who would go crazy if they were stuck at home all day. Each person is different. I think the world of work should be more flexible to allow women to make their choices. If a woman has a great career I do not see why she should be forced to choose between having a career and having children. It is an old leftover from the days when women were allowed to be nothing but wives and mothers. That was all part of the religious suppression of women. It should be something that remains in the past. Any person regardless of gender should be free to be whatever they desire to be and are capable of being. Not everyone has the skill to be what they dream of but nothing should stand in their way. In our world that simply does not happen. Although women have the right to study any career they choose they still find lots of opposition if they choose a career where men still hold the top jobs and contrive to keep women out of them. I personally would have loved to have married, had children and been a stay at home mum. It never happened, I never had children and my life took on a different path to what I desired. Such is life.

Well, in some asian countries. Mother always the best at home to assist children and anything about home. But this tradition is not really an issue today. There are many mothers that is professional and want to work... But if I am the who will be followed. It is best for mother to assist children...and stay at home

I don't think that they should completely stay home. I am a mother and I think if I did then I would go nuts. My husband and I both work and we tag team. He is home with them a couple of times during the week and I the other days. I think that it is important that as parents, we each have the opportunity to bond with our kids. They know that when its daddy time, mommy time or family time. They do different things with my husband then they do with me. I think it strengthends our relationships. Honestly, I think if my husband had the opportunity to, he would be a stay at home dad...he loves being with the kids 24/7...although after a while I think he would also go nuts. That is my take. Thanks.

I agree with you. a mothers job with children should stay home and take care of them. taking care of kids is very important job.

If the husband earns enough on one job to comfortably afford for the mother to stay at home, then that is a decision between the two of them. Actually no matter what choice they make is right if it is right for the family. My belief is that BOTH parents are responsible equally both financially and emotionally. What I really don't like to see is a father working two jobs and so tired that he has no time to spend with the kids while the mom stays home. I know it is a hard job being home with the kids all the time but it should be divided as well as the earning part of it all. When I was married, I went out and worked at night when my husband got home from work to bring in some extra cash and it gave him some time with the kids. During the day I babysat to bring in some cash. I also did other jobs to bring in money. We divorced when the girls were quite young and I really needed his child support. Sadly, I didn't get it most of the time and most of the time the state backed him in that. When he was in jail for DWI, child support was suspended and did not build up. When he got out, they charged him 25.00 per month for 3 children! I had to work really hard and forfiet a lot of time with my kids to just keep a roof over our head. All I can say is that it made me appreciate the time I did have with them all the more. They are grown now and really responsible and wonderful people.

hi isloolboy these days when its hard for men to get a job a lot of moms have to work so dad stays home and is Mr.Mom to his kids and it works out. A lot of families here in Southern California have no choice but to both work so grandma or auntie maybe the mom for the day while both parents work to keep up the rent on house or apt. and pay all the bills providing for the whole family.Our rents here now are outrageous and everyone that can works to support the family even the young adult children. those over 16 help to provide a roof over their heads food in the fridge and utilities paid on time.It may not be what people used to think is the proper way to raise kids but if that rent is not paid out you go on the streets which is no place for children at all.

Hello! I'm a working mom. For me i have my principle that I should use my profession to make money for a living. Before I've get married, I told my boyfriend which is my husband now that if we get married I have to work for a living because I'm a workaholic lady and i fell boring to stay at home to do the household chores repeatedly. We agree on this before we've get married. For me I'm not against the stay home mom because it would be better to have children over you in every single day. But I want to earn to my own, i don't want to keep on asking support to my husband to buy something to myself. I opinion is that i want to work because i want to buy something without hassle to husband and besides it will add income to our family.

Yes. I agree with you. A mother should be home, untuka educate children, and household well. However, this does not always have done, if the husband does not appreciate what was done by the wife. I am a wife who is always at home. Though sometimes, my husband did not appreciate what I have done. I'm still trying to survive and strive to always be a good wife.

It will depend on situations in her life whether she should stay home or not

I would like to write a famous quote of Nepolion "give me good mothers and I will give you a good nation" So in my view the first responsibility of mothers to take care of children and educate the kids with good manners and teach them the good habbits. That's all. In case if there are some financial or other problems than mother can go out for work. But it would be better for society if all mothers focus on basic education of children at home

I say hey If you can afford it why not do it. I know I can not afford it so i go to work. Sometimes I think it is better to go to work because you get that adult time to your self and get to have an adult conversation. If I could afford it I would Prob stay at home.

I think a woman should choose if she is to stay home with her kids or not. If she is forced into the wrong decision it will be disastrous.If she wants to remain home but can't , she will feel twinges of guilt. And if she want to go to work but is forced to remain home, she may resent it so much that she takes it out on the children. These days there are many women who look forward to returning to work after having a baby. And there are others who plan to remain at home. It is up to the woman.

I do believe that a mother's place is in the home. I know that it is a bit old fashioned belief but I do think that kids need their mothers' home with them. I believe that the crime rate in the world would be lower if moms were home instead of working.

I think you are right it would be best for kids if mothers are able to stay home with the kids. Or at least one of the parents. Fathers can do it too. Like say if mom is the biggest bread winner then father can stay home. Especially considering how things are in the world today. But most household require 2 incomes just to get by. Also there are single parent households.

Without a doubt! But, in general, the system works conspiritorally against it by making it financially impossible for a 'mom' figure to stay at home with da kids. I say figure because I do support the notion of 'mr. mom' with the wife being the breadwinner..Enjoy!

Ideally it would be best so that she can savor all the wonderful moments with her children. Sad though that these days even two incomes is not enough anymore for a family. But yes it would be absolutely wonderful if a mother could stay home if she so desires as this way she would enjoy all the great years with her children.

We can see a lot of working Mom's these days, and i see the family is working fine. And the kids are brought up just like the other children with full time Moms. Why do families live in a traditional way of a Mom just being at home, if she earns bigger than his hubby. In a home, decisions that involved in financial capacity is decided between the husband and wife. If the wife has more capacity to provide financially, then i think the hubby will have to sacrifice and do what a he must do, act and do the responsibilities of a Mom and at the same time lower his ego and accept that reality.