should i respect someone who is not respecting me???

In the example you provided above, probably you still have to be respect her in front of everyone, that is the formality in your family. Since she is your relative, and she is an elderly. I still have to call my grandma, grandma, even though she doesn't like me at all. In my heart, she might not be the respectful person, but it is a protocol. Anyway, if someone not respecting me, I hardly respect that person either. In my heart, at least.

Well.. Its little complicated... But better we don't disrespect our elders. If they are not respecting us then better we keep away from the arguments and talking with them. But disrespecting elders is not good as per me. About son disrespecting mother is really disgraceful thing. I know mother can't think bad about their child. But such child should get some punishment or something so they can understand the role of the mother. That's what i think.

I don't know why your gradma doesn't respect you. Perhaps it is her own way and it doesn't have any bad purpose. Some elders will be serious to the youngs so that they seem to be the ruler in the family. And some elders want the youngs listen to them as they are older, namely they have more experience. No matter what, we shall still respect to the elders. Probably this is our tradition. They may not be right all the time. But we shall still respect them. Otherwise it will be so rude. I love China

Respect is something that is earned. Your grandma has earned the respect because she gave birth to your mother. You should respect her position in the family. Whether or not you get along with her is another matter altogether. On the other hand, what have you done to earn her respect? Are you successful in life? Have an advanced college degree, a good job to help support your family? What have you done to make her respect you? To answer your question about the son, a son that disrespects his mother is an abomination and an insult to manhood. A real man does not disrespect his mother or any other woman for that matter. I could understand if we were talking about children. But we are talking about grown adults. If I did not get along with my grandmother I would not live in the same house she lives in. That is the whole reason why we go to school for so many years to gain an education and skills to make a life for our selves and build up our self respect. When we have self respect, others respect us. If we don't respect ourselves, how will others respect us? I heard some teenagers talking the other day and one of them was explaining that since he was not asked to be born, his parents had to take care of him for as long as it takes. Have you ever heard of anything so ridiculous? No one owes us anything. Our parents provide us with the basic necessities for our survival and provide environments where we can learn to spread our wings and take our place in society. When we come of age, we should become kings and queens of our own castle and grant our parents and grandparents the peace and quiet they deserve after the long years they dedicated to us. I apologize if this seems a bit harsh, it is not my intention to cause animosity of any kind. Just expressing the truth about this situation as i see it. Of course, there are always underlying issues that might render my opinion null.

I take you are 27 year old. Though grand ma is not respecting you, I suggest you give maximum respect to her. a son give troubles to mother - that is the fate of mother - Still mother has to take care of son however old he may be. If grandma doesn't respect you can reduce interaction with her. However help her because she is old. She may be having more experience than yourself. Hope you are doing well in your business --yes u wanted to start sewing business, is it not. have a good day.

Respect is a word that everyone deserves. Not because a person does not respect you it gives you the right to disrespect him. You see, the logic is simple. Your grandmother does not respect you. In what way? How do you say that she's being an A-hole to you? Maybe you need to take some time to think back and see what it causes her to treat you that way. Maybe you're just not aware of doing wrong things to her too. Nevertheless, the bottom line is be respectful to others 'cause if you choose not to then there will surely be a war between you and your granny. Think above others mentality. She's your grandmother, she's old now. Oldies have a less capability in understanding the concept of their present situation. Someday, you'll get older too. When you've reached her age, you'll realize and remember these days. :)

I realize that in different countries there are different cultures. Many times I've heard of family living together while in the US it's not usually the case. Usually once we reach a certain age we do all we can to get out and away from family and their rule over us and our lives. I am feeling stuck now because I am back living with family and nosey ones at that. I have no respect for them at times but I have to do all I can to show them respect because they do provide the roof that is over my head, no matter how bad of a roof it is. I would suggest that if you can't find a way to atleast pretend to respect her, that you should leave the home and live with other family or other friends. Just remember that no matter if you are away from the home or not, this family member may still be disrespectful toward you or talk about you badly, however you'll be away from it more and won't have to hear it. I know how you feel, trust me, and I am doing all I can to get out of the situation I am in and I hope that you do the same.

yes, you still have to respect that person even though he/she is not respecting you. What is important is, we are doing good deeds while we are still here in this world. We should remember that regrets always come last. So, instead of regretting that we should have respected that person before everything went late, let us think that being respectful to them is a trait that we taught them to do to others. And if they follow or not, it is not anymore our problem. As long as we did what is right - being respectful to all!

I understand how you feel, especially people who suppose to be important to you do not respect or listen to you at all. But to think in another way round, there shouId be some reasons that your grandmother doesnt respect you, for example, did she receive as much education as you do? did she has the concept in mind of respecting others? I suggest you can put yourself into your grandma's shoes and if possible, talk to her and tell her how you feel and what you expect her to do. Moreover, it is wise to consider the feelings of people around you. People may also feel unhappy if you don't respect your grandma. And if you want me to give you a reason to respect someone who does not respect you, I must say, respecting others is another way of respecting yourself, showing that you are an educated person with courtesy. Maybe it is hard for you to be that considerate, but this is what our education told us. And if you don't respect others, then what is the difference between you and your grandma? Cheers!

There are basics that one has to maintain to keep relationships, no matter how tenuous. One is courtesy. If one is really unable to express it, or, if one can express it but the other party does not reciprocate, it would be better to avoid the concerned party, if s/he is no blood relation. Unless of course one wants to be insulted, or trampled, or martyred, whatever, during the interaction. I may find the relationship between granddaughter and grandmother a different proposition altogether. Or the mother with the son. Here there are certain obligations that go beyond the basics. These are expressed in social codes and the local culture. I would advise that in dealing with situations like this, one should try to follow as much as possible the social codes and mores of the concerned local culture. I'm a senior citizen now, but in my junior years, I didn't find it difficult to deal with people older than me. This is because I would always approach them from a stance of respect and recognition of what they had done. I would also try to find out earlier their strengths and weaknesses, pets and pet peeves. If the concerned persons were relatives, I would exert extra efforts to try to remember how good they were to me, and to remind them of that. Of course, that would set an amicable atmosphere, because they too will remember.

well in that case..no matter what occurs you must respect your grandmother even though she will not respect you. be calm at all times. respecting is the attitude acknowledging the feelings and interest of people.their would me a time that your grandmother will realize that she already hurt you and disrespecting you. wait for that time.:]

Respect is earned not demanded. Understand that without her, there is no you. I understand there is a different generation barrier. But she's an elderly. Most importantly is that you respect yourself. If you don't even respect yourself, how do you expect people to respect you?

Hello Tammy, Respect begets respect. A grandmother, who does not respect his/her Grand Daughther or Grand Son, I think that is very uncommon. But even though your Granny does not respect you, said as an example, you must still respect her. Care and give her more love than you used before. Soon we will receive the price because of our good deeds. Thanks Dennis

You shouldn't. I only respect people that respect me for who I am. But ofcourse we need to display some manners by pretending that we respect those that don't respect us. But you can't really force yourself to respect someone you don't.

I know that respect is something you give to receive. In many cases though, some people can be very disrespecting and your options are disrespect back, ignore, or just continue showing respect.

If they are older, demented, or in a bad way mentally, yes I would. There is turning the other cheek too. Sometimes to get your thoughts across to someone who won't listen it is a good idea to write them a letter. If you live in a bad situation I would try to get out, get away.

Hello!As the old man,and is your grandmother,I think, or to respect give priority to .If is contemporary ,he has no respect for you,you can also do not respect him.Such I deal with the problem. Because of mutual respect is,for their own people.don't respect,can need not go to respect him. Happy every day!

If u want to be an ideal guy you shoud respect her

Well you didn't say how your grandma is disrespecting you. I don't e en know bow old you are, but you sound very young. I don't think there is any condition in which you should show disrespect to anyone. You are then no better than the one disrespecting you. At least you can say that you never disrespected her. You don't repay evil for evil ...that is what I have always been taught.

I fell that you should not respect someone that is not respecting you. If its your grandma just stop going around her if you can because when you do not respect her your family will think something is wrong wit you and you are being rude. as for kids not giving there mom respect that is defiantly a no go for me. She should not respect him at all. He would not have nobody coming over if he could not respect me. I do not care if his friends are there are not he better respect his mom.