chatting with a married woman !!!

yes! you should cut it off! if she wanted something more with you she wouldn't be doing it behind her husbands back, she'd be straight with him and tell him she has feelings for someome else. but it IS behind her husbands back, which means shes just looking a bit of fun, so considering your feeling connected and closer to her, it will never go anywhere for you, her hushand and her kids will always come first, and you'll be left out in the cold, or else you'll break up a family. and if she can do it WITH you, she can do it ON you.. god knows how many people shes chatting to!!

I guess you have to tell other wise their relationship will fall part one day and more over she is your friend..give her some ideas to let her husband come back and try seducing him..and act like a good friend rather than a seducer... help rather than destroying..

You know the answer to this. If they are those feelings there, then something could possible happen. I see no reason for name calling on this by others. We can not help our feelings. But you can stop it from something else happening. I would not meet with her. You are doing no wrong but she is. Wish you the best of luck.

She may begining to have an emotional attachment to you and that is not good. Especially since she seems to be hiding it from her husband. She should let him know and if she doesn't, then I would steer clear of her. The fact is, she is married and you don't want to break up the home. If she eventually decides to leave, then that is a different story. You two have to remember that no matter how you feel, there are kids involved and if you keep this up, it will only get worse. Cheating does not have to be physical, it can be emotional also. It happened to me when my husband started talking to someone else at work...he thought it was all innocent until one day she kissed him...then he realized he had feelings for her. It ruined me and I hated the both of them. How could he do this to me and my daughter. We went to therapy and things got better and we realized the things that were drifing us apart. We had to work at our marriage and it worked. I would steer clear from her. She needs to work on her marriage and you need to find someone who is available.

Yes, you should break it off and possibly the phone thing too as well. What I'm wondering is what is she hiding. I think that she is hiding something or just that her husband doesn't know anything about you guys friendship maybe it is something that she is keeping from you, which is sad, because I would never hide any friendships from my husband but anyways. Then also going to great lengths of going to meet her in person. Yes, you have talked to her through the phone and have joked and have had conversations, but do you really know her and plus she could be hiding something from you. You shouldn't be concerned of what could happen or let anything happen because she is a married woman. But being that you posted this 7 months ago, you've probably made a decision already.

I agree with another response that you should definitely cut it off before things get out of hand. It sounds like she is just using you to have some fun and when your not good enough anymore she will find someone else to fill your place. =( She is using and abusing you. You will never be more to her than a fling, that's what her family is for to have the real relationship. Your there for fun as sad as it is to say. I'm sorry, I hope there were no strong feelings for her. I cannot stand people who do this to others! =( It is cheating, she is cheating on her husband and if you two did get together like someone else said the minute you went to work or something she would be cheating on you as well...

hi my dear badwes, i loved reading this discussion of yours. i am also a married female and this is a profile made by my hubby. we both are very transparent in our relationship. if i talk to someone, he knows all about it and if he is talking to someone, i know all about that. nothing hiding ever. he is having all the crowd of girls on his facebook if you go and see, lol, and i dont even bother and care of whats going on. he tell me, or reports me each and everything, he had a chat with , a talk with even the text messaging. i am not much interested also sometimes but he shares, it is like a habit or a routine. with you the case looks like a bit fishy. the female looks like hiding everything from her husband and dont like to talk to anyone infront of the kids because they can at times tell to their father, and it can cause difficulty. she maynot also having a good healthy relationship also with her husband. because my husband, if not here, i have full confidence to talk to anyone infront of anyone, because if anyone tells anything to him,m he knows it before that , what to answer. so i think, you should not give much attention to that female or any such female. A relationship is good and healthy when it is open and known to the other party also. if the other party's better half is in shadow and he do not know whats going on behind him.

This is a tricky situation, and I can tell you from experience that it is a situation that you want NO part of. I have been in this very situation myself, and I can tell you that it ended badly. Like you, I developed feelings for this woman, and she claimed that she had feelings for me as well, but she was not willing to be with me, because she wouldn’t leave her husband. Eventually, her husband found out that she was having an affair, although she never told him who she was having the affair with, so he never knew who I was, but things could have gotten ugly if he had known who I was. The really bad thing about this situation is not even that I had feelings for her and lost her. The really bad thing is that I was seeing this other woman at the time who was single, and who WANTED to be with me. She found out about the married woman I was talking to, and I ended up losing her as well, which REALLY made the affair with the married woman not worth what it ended up costing me.

There is a saying that if you can't be open about a relationship, you shouldn't be in it. Sounds like she is up to something. If she wants a relationship outside the marriage, she should first end the marriage.

Hi. badwes. Yes, I think that you should definitely cut off any possible relationship that could be implemented between the two of you. If her husband finds out that you both have an attraction for each other, then this will be a very difficult topic to sort out with her spouse. It is nice that she has a friend to talk to when her husband is not around. But when she just prefers to become too acquainted with you, that is when you should cease to a firm halt.

Yes I would cut it off. What goes around comes around. You reap what you sow. Yin yang. *IF* you end up ruining this marriage, I can only tell you because I have seen it happen... some day you'll have a wife, who cheats on you with someone else. You want to have a good marriage someday? Leave other men's wives alone.

There isn't any problem with you being friends with a married woman. But, there is a fine line there and you shouldn't cross that line. She shouldn't be chatting with someone online behind her husband's back. Sounds to me she is wanting more than just a friendship. If that was me, I would not get involved in that. If it were me, I would back away from that one. I don't believe in cheating though, so that's me.

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Open your mind again and think for a second that the woman you were chatting with is COMMITTED to someone else. You know very well that she is MARRIED and you might destroy a family if one of the kids accidentally finds out your discreet relationship together. The bottomline is... you should cut it off because it is just wrong to start an affair with a married person. There are many single ladies out there.

Yes, I would cut things off with her. You should not meet her when the husband is out of town as you really don't know her and you know that she is planning something behind his back. Where will the kids be? She will only hurt you because she can't be committed.

If she is hiding your friendship from the kids she is hiding it from her husband. Hard to say her intentions are in this senario. I'm at home with the kids and I spend plenty of time online especially in months of foul weather. But my hubby knows who I'm talking to I have nothing to hide who I'm talking to how I know them ect. It's when it's a secret that I too would be concerned.

Well, I don't see anything wrong when we chat with a married man or woman unless there is not extra marital affairs can be develop

I was in a slightly similar situation. I had a female friend, and she was very nice. But then she had some problems with her husband, and things got strange, and suddenly she was very interested in me. I ended up having to cut off the relationship completely. When you know there is an attraction, and there can not be any good thing from this relationship, you must cut it off. You will be swept away by your feelings, and it will not lead you to a good place. Hurt, pain, humiliation, and worse.... You will ruin your chances of having a better marriage when you do find a good girl. Because you ruined yourself on a bad girl you couldn't have a relationship with. Don't do this. For your future wife, save yourself from this evil women. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your future wife.

Don't play with fire. You might get burnt.