When I grow old, I want to stay in home for the aged

I totally agree with you insulin. You know, i love my son so much and i don't want to be a problem to him and his future wife and his family when i will be too old that i could no longer take care of myself. I prefer that i will be taken cared of a home care, too. I want have my son and his family to have a quality life, I feel that i will be an excess baggage to son's family when i will be too old. But i want myself to help him nurture his children, as I want also to experience being a Granny.

I really hope that my kids will take care of me. But i know that i couldn't rely on them.

You have the right attitude on this one! We'd like to hope our kids would take care of us but we know it won't work out for every one. I helped out my Mom as long as i could and even got her help from the state but in the end it was not enough. For her safety she was better to stay in the nursing home as I had my own kids and family to look after and I could not pick her up when she would fall... so I would still need to call someone to help me. And she would not take her meds as she eeded either even with me setting them up ect.

Hi insulin: I almost think the same. I'd love to be independent as long as it's possible. I don't want to make people feel discomfort with me. I also want to safe some money to assure my future and make plans but I know that you can't be completely sure about the future. I hope everything goes well then. ALVARO

hi, we notice that children today is very different from the children before,very big differences,thats why even my mother always afraid because what if there's no sibling will take care to them when they grow old,but we promise to my parents that we will take care of them what matter happen.

Hello Insulin, Before replying to your discussion i would like you to have an answer of the question. Did you care for your parents & or your in laws parents. Did you??? Most of the time i have seen people who do mistake of not caring their parents at young age do have a feeling like you when they reach at old age. But Its better thinking as we should not expect much from people even from your own children.Its better not to depend on your children too these days.

i do too just because they have so many great activities planned for older people in these homes but i know what you mean, though.

I already know that my children have no intention of helping me when I grow old. I also have no intention of going to an old folks home. I have other intentions...lol I will take my own fate into my own hands. I did too much volunteer work in those places. I know what goes on in them at least here in Fl. I would rather die by my own hand than live there.

I hope your kids will take care of you and your husband for every parents loves to be taken care of. Just that sometimes it doesn't work out that way.

This is one reason why home for the aged are booming and also nursing homes. Some people are preparing theirselves when they grow old and had saved enough for a good nursing home where they can still have all the comfort and luxury of their life. I admire you for thinking and considering that kids might not be taking care of their parents these days due to some reason. I would love to take care of my parents when they grow old,but of they prefer to stay in a nursing home and insist,i will also respect their choice.

I would love for my kids to take care of me and my husband when we are old. I will not depend on it though. I have learned that you really can only depend on yourself for things. Even if they wanted to, the world is so busy and financially unstable that by that time, they may not be able to care for us and I would not want to put a burden on them even though, my husband says that it is their duty since we are caring for them while they are younge. I am 6 years younger than my husband so I hope that will allow me to care for him at least for awhile when we both get up there in years.