Does It Make You Feel Better?
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
June 27, 2011 3:45pm CST
I don't know about everyone else and maybe I am crazy but when my husband is home and just in another room I feel so much better than when he is at work. Like he tells me all the time, what does it matter if I am home when your busy in that room and I am busy in this room? Were not right next to eachother or anything. I think it's just a comfort of knowing that he's there whether he is sleeping or busy doing something else I know if I need or want him he is there.
Does anyone else feel this way? Do you feel better if your spouse (man or woman) is home but doing other things rather than at work so far away?
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13 responses
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
27 Jun 11
yes. it is right. But after your getting a son or daughter things will change. You will not feel the absence of your husband from the room because the child will keep you busy and busy all the time. But ur avatar is with a child. U already have children?
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
27 Jun 11
Look I did not notice your id itself includes babies. see. I might have done mistake.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
29 Jun 11
Excellent ! How old are they? Are they studying in schools or much younger. You feel the absence of your husband in spite of having three children -- Great-- have a nice time.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
I do have 3 children but the love of my children is different than the love of my husband. It's a great feeling having the love from my kids but there is a difference...
@dlpierce (495)
• United States
27 Jun 11
My husband works nights. I enjoy time to myself but feel better when he's home even when he's sleeping in the next room. If something happens I know he's there. Back in October I was lucky he had the night off as I had him take me to the emergency room in the middle of the night. I had a severe gallbladder attack which ended in surgery.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
I'm sorry you ended up in the hospital! I hope all is well now. =) There is a big difference even if they are in another room. It is a good feeling.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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27 Jun 11
I'm a full-time carer so my lady's always in the house with me. I'm the one who goes out to do the shopping or whatever. She's very similar to you and I must admit I feel it, too. Right now, she's downstairs watching Friends (again) while I'm grinding through a 22,000-word edit... but we're both happier because we're here together.
It's just nice to know I can walk downstairs and get a hug. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
28 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
It is so much easier to know that they are there. =) It makes me feel sooo much better with him just in another room. That hug just a few feet away is nice.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
4 Jul 11
I think it's the same way with my kids.
Summer just started and they are becoming fond of sleeping over at their cousin's house. Although they complain at the odd times I say no, I do feel much better when they are at home.
Yes, they are with relatives when they are over there, but I just feel much better when they are around. Just the my controlling nature I guess. Plus I don't have to worry so much.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Dec 11
I agree with you completely! When my kids sleep over their cousins it breaks my heart. I miss them so much. I know some parents say wouldn't you rather a break? I say no, I had children because I WANT them around! =)
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
7 Jul 11
I guess you can say that. At least you know where he/she is, and you don't have to pick up the phone and calling around. Or wondering where he/she is right now. This worrying feeling just make your worry more. Oh, your husband always around, so, don't worry about it anymore.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Dec 11
I loved when he was home and just in another room.
@sadafsakhawat (133)
• Pakistan
28 Jun 11
ya when my mom is at home i do feel safe......... when she is sleeping on the bed next to me.....i could feel much better and could sleep well. if i m studying in the room, i am worriethat if my mom asked me for the work and i wont be available so whenever i want to go to study i assure my mom if you need my help you can call me...
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
It's good that your so close to your mom like that. =)
@greenfeathers (1206)
• United States
28 Jun 11
Definately! Liz is what makes it home to me and there ain't no better place than home!
Enjoy!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
My home wouldn't be a home without him either.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
Yes they are closer to you and there if you need or want them. =)
@marnice (60)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I feel that way too. The feeling is much better when my husband is with me or home and doing other things rather than outside working. You're still lucky because everyday you can hug and kiss your husband even his working at the end of the day he's beside you unlike me only once a week I get the chance to see him and hug him and kiss him and it only takes 2 to 3 hours. And soon if he works internationally we will see each other after his 10 months contract. It's so sad, but we don't have a choice we have to live away from each other for our future.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
Oh no my husband is barely ever home, he works every day. I don't see him every day. He works outside of the home unfortunately. But when he is home its nice to have him there even if hes in another room. I only see him for a couple hours at night after he gets home from work.
@fitriadi21 (386)
• Indonesia
28 Jun 11
It seems that all the couples feel the same with you. That is normal and common, because everyone may feel comfortable and safe to know that their partner that was not far from them.
But i differ with you. I even feeling better when being away from my partner. I just feel, to be near with my partner is more because of an obligation than a feeling comfort or safe....for some reason that's what i feel! Was it a mistake?
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
I'm not sure if it was a mistake or not, everyone's different. I know if I didn't want to be near my husband than I don't belong with him. Like I said though, every person is different. =)
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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28 Jun 11
i completely feel the same as you!! my partner doesnt work, but i do, full time, and shes always at home ringing and texting me cause she misses me and every morning before i go to work i cuddle and kiss her, and we literally run down the road to each other to see each other come 5pm! we miss each other constantly, even if i go and have a nap, or she does, when we wake up, we're like "oh babe i missed you!" haha! its totally nuts, but i completely get where you are coming from!!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
Yeah, I miss him like crazy when he is gone and he misses me too. It's nice to know. And it feels good to have them in another room sometimes just to know they are there if you need them. =)
@roneal (62)
• Mexico
28 Jun 11
Yes, I feel the same way. It is as if just the presence of him being here makes me feel comfortable. We too are busy people and do not always stay in the same room together. He is usually watching tv after work or doing things outside and I am here on the computer working but, somehow It just makes me feel better that he is here with me.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
I agree it does make me feel better. =) There is definitely a different feeling.
@Xsparky017 (289)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
I guess that's what you call love...you're just worried for him. :D
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Jun 11
Thanks for your response!
Yes that is called love. =)
