discipline

I'm sorry to hear that your son witnessed the violence in your family. I couldn't suggest anything even though i am a parent as well but there's something i have to say. I think your son needs to go to a child psychologist. He needs some special treatment and if you left him without being treated, this kind of behavior might led to something serious someday. It's all up to you though but i'm so concerned of the child's behavior.

Spanking a child for hitting doesn't help them understand that it is not ok to hit.(Your hitting them for hitting???) It is common at this age for children to hit.You ned to work on the cause of the promblem.. He maybe jealous of his baby brother. He's brother maybe getting more attention so he does it to get attention from you. You need to redirect him away from the cause and pay him as little attention for doing it. Tell him it is not ok to hit and redirect him away. If it continues give hime time out for 2mins. Time out should be no more than minuets according to their age so at 2yrs = 2min, 3yrs = 3mins etc. Rewarding Positive behaviour, rather than punishing them for bad is a quicker and more effective way of disciplining.

I'd recommend looking at some full episodes of SuperNanny on YouTube (some of them are in parts and some are in full, lasting 45 or so minutes). She certainly gets good results without using physical punishment. Some of the episodes on YouTube are from the UK and some are from when SuperNanny visited the USA.

Spanking have two possible outcomes, one is your child might rebel, the other is, he will stop his bad behavior. I think words can be more effective than physical punishment. As he grows up, show him that if he does good things, he gets rewarded, if not, educate him thru words that will really get through his head.

I do spank, not often, but have, but dont spank for hitting your sending a mixed message.Your better to put him in time out and ignore him for a few mins. I think ight now hes confused. You just had a baby, sounds like posibly just moed, if he isnt seeing his dad anymore hes missing someone, plus it was a traumatic experience to see you get hurt. Your full of emotions and stress and hes picking it up. Disciplining him you will just need to be firm with your words and reactions. Dont punish out of anger. You might need a time out to. If he hits his brother with something remove the toy. If he hits with his hand you need to explain to him its wrong have him apologize and kiss his brother but than he needs to be put in time out. Removed from the situation. You might also need just one on one time with him. This will be something that will have to work itself out. Sounds like you all are delaing with a lot of life changes and stress and just need patience with eachother. Ill pray for you.

I think that spanking won't do any help. He might misinterpret it as a violent act of yours. I believe that it is best to speak with your child about this matter on his brother. If he still can't seem to understand you can think of other ways to discipline him. Give him additional tasks or give him the consequence whenever he's doing the same thing again and again. Disciplining is also my dilemma since I will soon become a mom. Research and experiences from all other parent s may help a lot. God bless!