I didn't think it would feel like this :(

Now, that's the spirit! Yeah, for me this is better than FBing...hehehe. Have a nice day!

Aaawww...thanks for the reassurance and for the nice things you wrote. I really try to go the extra mile to post quality responses. So for someone to say so...it just brightened up my day! I will definitely carry-on mylotting. It's still better than just simply sulking and getting discouraged. Godspeed!

Hahaha! But you know what? I couldn't agree with you more on that statement. Mylotting is indeed a lot better than FB-ing or tweeting so it seems. For one, it pays to mylot. Secondly, the community here is more active. Thirdly...more helpful even!

mylot friends why do you not just read the guidelines and rules of discussions so you know what you can and c annot do in discussions and also so you can bypass a discussion that you see has broken a rule. its not time consuming and its helped me to avoid getting stuff deleted too. then you wont be feeling all blue inside. do read them please? with cream and sugar on them? hugs from hatley.

You just can't explain the feeling you have after finding out right? It's not even your own discussion but you feel bad still because you took the time and effort to compose a decent and relevant response. You've invested in it, in a way. I really do not want to over-dramatize it, but that's how I felt. I'm just being factual (or is it emotional? never mind that!). I hope to be able to reach that level when I will not get so bothered by it anymore.

Again, thanks for the reminder. But then again, the thing about reading the guidelines and rules have already been thoroughly discussed too in this thread. No use saying it over and over again. Besides, this discussion has been posted way back last month or so. I and I guess others who have experienced this have ALREADY learned from our mistakes. But thanks. I know you are only offering your help.

That sad feeling will always happen no matter how long we are here. I remember early on in my membership one of my own discussions was deleted. I felt sad as it had 38 responses and I was very active with it. I felt as you, more so for the responders as it was a very good discussion. It fell in the gray areas as a milestone, though today with the new admin it is acceptable. I did get over it but do remember how sad it made me feel.

Thanks my friend! That tip would sure do a lot of good for all my mylotting activities. I've referred back to the link you gave me in one my discussions. I do refer to it from time to time. It's just that, it can get overwhelming to read especially when I know that I have friends here with new discussions that I want to read and respond to. I just try to post quality and relevant discussions and responses/ comments as much as possible. But I have to also accept the fact that I have no control over what others may start discussing. I just really need to absorb the guidelines. :)

So, with the type of responses I have here, Ithink that it is safe to assume that it is a "universal" feeling to have...at least for the first time around. This only inspired me to do better next time. :D

I agree. There is a saying that goes: We are responsible for our own life. I guess that also goes for our actions. But let me just clear something up. I wasn't and am not angry at anyone. Not at my friend whose discussion got deleted. Nor at the admin. :)

It's been days since I posted this discussion. And I have already moved on. It doesn't hurt as much as it used to that time I received my email. Yes, moving forward is the best option in this case. And I like your bit there about my starting a discussion on the matter. Hopefully, I get to earn from it too. Hahaha!

That would be extremely helpful, I'm sure. I, however, am still not used to it. You may ask why. It's not because I was traumatized. It's more because I hardly start discussions now. It's easier for me to respond to other mylotters' discussions than to start my own. I find it even more enjoyable to do.

Yeah, it was unexpected. Who could have thought that after more than 2 years, one of my discussions got deleted. I made a discussion about it because just like you I was sort of hurt and questioned how that happened. One of the responses said that a member made a rant because he/she can't accept that his/her discussions got deleted.

knowing about there being rules does no good unless you above me here go and read the real ru les and learn them then you can avoid breaking them yourselves and also can judge when y ou see a discussion that broke a rule so you can avoid it and save your earnings by going to one that has not broken any rules and make quality responses on that one.I read the rules when I first joined and its helped me make pretty good earnings here too.also even if somone reported your discussion still that report will not automatically get your discussion deleted as the admins has the final say here and lots of stuff is reported and mylot admins sees its just fine so dont worry about that. their being the final authority over deleting anything prevents any of us from abusing the report key just out of spite for example. so it cou ld be that after two years one eagle eyed admins may have seen it broke one rule or again there was some changes in the info this past year maean and while it was legal two years ago maybe theres a newer rule now that it broke.see thats why its important that we read the info occasionally as changes do get made.I am not scolding here I am just giving you advice from my own experiences here in four years.hugs from hatley.

Like I said, I just felt a "tinge of pain". But it's pain nevertheless. I wasn't "super hurt"...but maybe disappointed is the word I am looking for here. Because you see, I give very good thought and care to each and every response and comment I make here in mylot. So you see, I was "invested" in it already. Plus, I knew about the rules. I knew about the fact that discussions and responses and comments are monitored and can get deleted when found to be in violation of the rules. What I didn't expect was that "tinge of pain". And to think it wasn't even my own discussion! It was somebody else's. I was merely "collateral damage". hehehe :D Uh-oh...I didn't know that other mylotters can report you. Yikes! Oh, and how unfortunate to know that your post was deleted after 2 years! What happened? Did they also take away your earnings from that post?

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you before. Like you yourself said, it is a lesson learned. We should just charge everything that happened to experience then. I could have opted not to respond to this discussion I was talking about. But since it was one that a mylot friend started, I thought of responding. I wish I had followed another friend's advice and reminder that discussions that are focused on the mylot earnings of a member are subject to deletion. It may take awhile for the discussions to get "discovered" but it will, eventually. This experience has taught me to be really choosy when responding to discussions. And to really think things through. Now, as to starting my own discussions, I only have 3 so far. One is even questionable since it's centered around my first earnings. I haven't read the FAQs that time and so I wasn't aware. I'm still new here, by the way. :D

Oh my...my thoughts and feelings exactly! You took the words right out of my mouth (and head, and heart for that matter)! No matter how many times I read the guidelines or am reminded by other Mylot friends, I still forget. I guess it's because I have so much in mind. And there are just too many interesting discussions to respond to. And yes, I have a life outside of Mylot and my other online earning activities. Hehehe. :)

Thanks my friend! I would like to start a discussion but it's so hard to try and think of a clever topic to build a discussion on. Have you seen the discussions I've started? They're a bit on the lame side, I must say. I find responding to discussions more enjoyable.

That's the spirit! Goodluck!

I hope to improve my mylotting as my "status" here transcends from newbie to veteran, like you! I will most definitely NOT allow this "experience" to derail my mylotting efforts. Not one bit! :)

Thanks for the reassurance. I know of the fact the discussions sometimes get deleted as well as the responses and comments that transpired from it. I read it from other mylotters. But what I was not expecting was my reaction. Actually, I felt a little "hurt". Just a little. But I felt the hurt nonetheless. It's like I was kicked out of school or something. I wonder how I would react if my own discussion was deleted. Scary thought! I'm sure I will get the hang of it soon. I hope! Hehehe.

I have a secret to share. I too felt the same when I was new here! Now I am a seasoned myLotter and no longer get affected. No matter how much one tries to avoid topics that are 'suspect' somehow one falls a prey!

yes. Such experiences are there for most of us. We learn from experience. While learning scooter driving I fell down more than three times. Nowadays I drive with confidence. similarly typing - now I can type at 40-60 words per minute. Initially when I started I use to struggle. Same way you will also get used to these deletions. Admin is doing his job. Here he has to go by what is given in the rules and we should not mind about it. I compare this to our going in One way Traffic road against the rules - we get caught by Police- we have to pay the fine. We look very small in his eyes. Many examples can be given for such a feeling. have a good day.

Hi mia! Guess what, I've recently learned that we don't earn from the deleted discussions we've joined in. I've got lots of those!hahaha! Oh well! That's fine! At least, now I know not to respond to suspicious topics!

Yes. It was the first time I replied to a discussion and that discussion got deleted. I haven't checked my email in like a week, so I don't know if I have added to my statistic already. I hope not! :D

I think we should really make a habit of reading the FAQs and Terms of Service. That way, we don't violate any rules, or at least avoid being a part of it.

I've been wary too of joining discussions...at least ever since the email I got. But it definitely will not stop me from starting my own someday (when I have enough spare time...I hope!).

I'm trying to be very careful not to jump into any discussions just because it has a touchy part that draw attention of mylotters yet forgetting TOS that govern this site.

Hey @KrauseHome, thanks for responding to this discussion of mine. It's been a while since I started this, so I sure do appreciate the time and effort you took to write here. Anyway, I'm rambling. I have long moved forward since this incident. I must admit though that I hardly start new discussions now. I don't know. There are so many topics out there. But I find responding to discussions more enjoyable, I think.

All noted. Will do my friend. :)

I can't answer that! But yeah, I see why you would get confused and upset about it. But I'm sure Mylot's admin has his/her reason for deleting it. Oh well to that too, I guess! Hehehe.

I now rarely get my response is removed.

Yikes! That hurt you, I'm pretty sure. 4 a day? Or 4 since you joined? Try being a little bit more careful about choosing the discussions to join. It doesn't mean they're your "Mylot friends", that you are obliged to respond to their discussions. At least, that's what I do now. Let's just all try to read the site's policies. I hope things are getting better for you here now.

I say to that, "To each his own." You see, I've always been a "softie". And I tend to take things too seriously sometimes. But I agree with you that I should learn to charge it to experience and try to learn from my mistakes.

I know what you mean. I'm a little nervous about one of my discussions, actually. I admit that I didn't read the FAQs that time. I was still new. So I know that anytime in the near future, it might get deleted. I how sorry I will sure be to everyone who participated there. :(