What is the job of a housewife?

Did I forget to mention I would like my husband to help out more too? LOl! Mine is in the Navy so he can be gone for weeks or months at a time. Taking care of kids and animals is a full time job in itself, let alone a house to take care of and all the other responsibilities with it. I feel blessed to be able to do this. I am fortunate to have a husband who works and allows me to do this. Sometimes I get jelous, probably like most, he goes to work has a change of scenery, talks to other adults, comes home relaxes, has his laundry done, house clean, kids taken care of, food cooked,etc. The SAHM moms who do nothing just annoy me. Thats why ppl think all we do is sit in front of the tv and et bonbons all day. I dont have time to watch tv, maybe when im eating lunch, but mainly im cleaning or telling my son to stop, or taking care of the dogs, running errands or trying to earn a few bucks on mylot.

I agree with you. There are a lot of things that a stay at home mom must do. Not all of them are luxurious but she does them because she loves her family. She has a lot of responsibilities as you mentioned being the maid, the accountant, cook, nurse. She truly does save her family money. Just imagine how much it would cost to hire a person to do all the things that a mom does. To all the moms who work so hard may you continue to be a blessing to your family and keep up the excellent work.

@Tin91879 I understand exactly what you are talking about. Those games and gaming system will drive me crazy. I know so much time can go by with them on those things. It would be awful if anything were to happen and our husbands were left in charge. Hopefully they would grow up very quickly.

I feel this way a lot. If my husband had to trade jobs he really wouldnt know what to do. I was visiting a friend a coupl days ago, just went over for a few hours and I normally start dinner at 4. I didnt get home till 5 and my husband was playing a comp game with some friends. My daughter, she is 8, was making sandwhiches for her and her brother. I told them Im going to get dinner together it wont take long, but of course my kids wanted the sandwhiches that were made. I told my husband I have things that are simple to make for occassions like this. He said he wasnt hungry. What? Its not if your hungry or not its the fact i have scheduales for things and the kids are hungry at a certain time. Things need to be done even if you dont feel like it. Heaven forbid something happens and he is in charge of everything.

I see raising kids and having an outside-the-home job are pretty much exactly the same in stress, strain and responsibility. But then again, I'm not having children, this is just my observation among two-parent homes.

I believe my husband should help. I dont think I should expect him to jump into housework or cooking or childcare right when he gets home. he needs time to decompress too. Not saying that he dosent have to jump into doing any of those things soemtimes, but its not normal. I still have him help me. Since he is gone a lot I think he should do things with the kids. I have him put them to bed, play with them, etc. He is more than willing to help. I think one reason he is more than willing to help is because I dont expect it form him at all times. I understand he works a lot and needs time. Although he has his moments where he could help and I shouldnt have to ask, but I have to ask to get any help. Its a give and take and I have told him this. Explained his change in scenery, adult interactions, etc. I dont know if he fully understands, just like I dont fully understand his job, but one way to show him I appreciate what he does is by taking my job seriously and expecting realistic things from him. Im home so he should havent to clean all the time or cook or go grocery shopping. I do appreciate his help form time to time though.

I believe I do everything out of love. If i didnt feel this way I dont think I would do as much. I like to know my family is happy and comfortable when they come home. This is my job and like any other job I should do it right.

There will always be work in ones life. Just have to go with it, but make sure to put in fun time so your not wore out.

I remember after my daughter was born and I became a SAHM, I did have a little part time job, but worked rarely. I enjoyed being home with her. Being able to experience everything. It does get lonely sometimes and stressful. My son is constantly doing things he shouldnt. I try to remember soon though they wont want me around, soon they will be out on their own and Ill be starting a different chapter in my life. They grow to fast. Its easy to get caught in all the stresses, but just have to take time to reflect and give myself a break. Dont be upset if you dont everything you thought you would do. You can plan and read, but it never goes as planned. Just do your best and realize your human you will make mistakes and you do things you didnt think or know you could do. Being a parent is the hardest job.

I so agree with the breaks. Being a Mom and taking care of house hold duties is a lot of work. Its exhausting. 24 hour job. I think thinking in reality that I do my best and Im doing my job is a good way to do it. I just dont understan the SAHM's who do nothing. I have one nearby and even though she does somethings, most of it is spent on doing nothing.

You do what you have to do. I had to teach myself how to cook when I was younger, because my Mom worked a lot outside the home. I would get myself ready for school, get my lunch ready, get myself to school, come home, clean, homework, fix myself something to eat. Technically I have been doing this stuff forever it seems. Its one thing I didnt want my kids to have to do. My Mom was single mom and I an only child. I grew up to fast. I want my kids to enjoy their childhood, but teach them the basic skills in life, like cooking, cleaning, being responsible. My job as a mom to make sure my kids can fly when they leave the nest. Your working and doing your best. Dont feel guilty just do what you can to take care of your family and let them know how much you care and love them.

Yes, main thing as a parent is to put ones needs above their own. It would be so much eaiser to do nothing, but than what would get accomplished? Doing what I do is one way to show my love and thankfullness to my family. Even though sometimes it seems like they dont appreciate what I do, I know they do somewhere inside them. The Moms who work and do all the mom stuff to deserve kudo points. Its hard enough being a SAHM, let alone add a job to it.