How much time of relationship do you think is necessary to get married?
By moneywinner
@moneywinner (1864)
Brazil
June 29, 2011 1:08am CST
Just wanting to know others opinions about that. My sister and her boyfriend are together for about 3 years now and she wants to get married. But, he didn't propose to her yet. They both have 25 years and she think that's a good age to get married. He says that he wants to get married with her, but he never talked seriously about. I also have a friend that dated a guy for 5 years, but they didn't got married. Now, she going to get married with an other guy after 7 months of relationship. How much time do you think is necessary to get married? And, for you, do you think is necessary to get married?
8 responses
@wow2dong2 (204)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 11
I think more than 3 years with the condition that they both really know each other well. Sometimes, the year isn't a factor to get married. For some couples who dated for 7 years, they still have probability to break up.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
1 Jul 11
Yes, I had a friend that stay with her ex-boyfriend for 5 years and they ended breaking up.
@ryu009gaijin (92)
• Japan
29 Jun 11
"How much time do you think is necessary to get married?"
I know TIME is important in a relationship but for me, there is no right amount of time to get married. Some people got married but they just met each other a few months ago.WHY? like they said "quality is better than quantity". If youre going to compare a 5 years relationship that is full of sh*t, blames, hate, and third party to a 6 months relationship will full of joy and happiness. "yah of course 6 months is still new and in the stage of knowing each other." yes youre correct and i agree. but YOU, your self can only tell if your relationship is in good quality, i dont know how cuz youre the one who can feel and tell if you are ready to get married. there is no such thing as a necessary time to get married. maybe in some religion or country there is but for me i will base it in quality.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
1 Jul 11
Yes, I agree with you. Sometimes, you meet a person and after 2 months you already know that is the right person for you. But, in these days, this is pretty rare to happen.
@Galena (9110)
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29 Jun 11
we were together nearly ten years before we got married.
I do think that when people get married after just a few years together, it's often too soon. people change over time, so it's good to have grown and changed for some time together, so you know that they are not just the right person for who you are now, but for long term. and also, it's good to have faced some really hard times together, so that you know that adversity brings you together, and doesn't turn you on each other.
I would advise people to wait at least five years together to be honest. some people marry sooner and are fine, but I think that's a wise length of time to see how you work as a couple over time.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
1 Jul 11
Ten years is definitely a long time. Of course that, after ten years as a couple, you guys probably had sure that the marriage would work.
I'll show my sister your comment to see if she forget about this idea to get married right now.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I don't there is a right time of a relationship necessary to get married. I've seen people have just met and all of a sudden they want to get married, and their marriages have lasted. I've seen people who have waited just 3 years to get married and their relationship have lasted. I think that you already know when you love the person so much, you don't have a few years to know your feelings, all you need is a couple of months. I think whatever a person's heart is telling them, then they should followed it.
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I guess time is not important if they understand each other. You just have to accept each other, the imperfections and the bad side of each other. If you are both ready physically, emotionally and financially, then there is no problem at all.
@Rick1950 (1576)
• Lima, Peru
29 Jun 11
I think there isn't a determinated time, but you need it in order to learn about the other person. Most important ist trust and be honest with each other. The challenge begins when they both go to live together under the same roof. Much love and above all tolerance and patience will be needed. Unless otherwise opinion.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
For me, as long as you love each other genuinely and have known each other in all aspects, then both of you can get married already. Regardless of even if you have known each other for only some months, as long as you both know already how to deal with each others' feeling of anger, sadness and despair , then you are ready.
However, what is most important though, specially in this times of crisis, is for you to be both financially stable. With all these, then you both are, ready to get married.