Another flirting discussion!

By Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
Philippines
June 29, 2011 3:46am CST
Flirtationship is becoming popular nowadays. It's more than friendship but less than a relationship and it usually happens online. There's a lot of flirting going on in twitter nowadays and yes i'm not denying being one of them, but i don't go to serious flirting online. Just a friendly funny one but that's all. I hate men though who would flirt in a subtle way and when the women are falling for them, they would stop communicating and would deny they ever flirted. I've met one man online and yes he flirted with me in his own subtle way and i did too but never took it seriously. He flirted with all women he met online and one of my friends fell prey to this. And now he's denying he ever flirted. This kind of behavior is giving me an impression that this man doesn't have any balls to stand up for what he did.
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17 responses
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Haha, cool. This is the first time I've ever heard of 'flirtationship'. Sounds fun, though not for everyone. Your friend should have known better before she started falling for that guy. Players do that all the time, it's just up to the women whether they wanted to be played or not. :)
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@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
29 Jun 11
So you are the female version of the player? I guess you are here to break the heart of the male here.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
This word is not even in the dictionary but maybe it will soon be. I think i'll start trending this word in twitter. What do you think? lol
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
@iwrite Haha, no way I'm a player. Too chicken to try and am very afraid of karma, hahaha! @toniganzon Yeah, why not! :))
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@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
29 Jun 11
Flirting is not necessarely mean to grow relation from barely knowing to lovers. Among very good friends (group of friends, both genders), flirting is just fun. None even think to go for more than verbal fun. Yet, sure, flirt is often used to arrouse and develop a relationship. Sure, there are people out there they flirt to mock others .. Ball-less behave. The idea of going to accept flirting online is to accept chance all to be ... a farce - or whorst. Fact: you step into the game of flirting and you should know all could be just fun, all can go all the way or become a farce .. If you are not aware of all three options, sorry, your mistake. Not knowing the rules does not excuse you. Flirting is a social activity that may bring in, equally, 99% joy or 99% misery. Some people use flirting technique (sometime they have no idea what they do ...) just to mock others - as they feel pleasure when ee others being sad. Childish behave, but ... they are there, looking for a new prey ... Watch out. Lot of "ball less" kidos are on the net ...
@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
29 Jun 11
You'll be stoned to find out how many gender = male are falling for the very same flirting attitude of online girls .. And often those girls prove to be 10-14 years young boys ...
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Lol! Believe it or not, my friend who fell for him is in her 40s and he's in his 20s lol!
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I'll never be a victim of those ball less creatures. I likempeople with balls! Theyre more fun to be with. I'm not looking for a romantic online relationship because I'm contented with what I have now. Feel sorry for those who fall for those ball less creature though. I guess these women are just so naive and new when it comes to online flirtationship!
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
4 Jul 11
I belong to this one social website. Recently a male asked me for my phone number. Told me he had much respect for me...blah,blah,blah. I answered him back and explained why i dont give out any private information, thats it fine if we only communciate through that website. Ok then he answeres again and again asking my phone number. OMG!!! Did he not even read the message i just sent him. In fact the only thing i said in my last message was how i dont share personal info.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
5 Jul 11
He hasnt answered me since i asked him how he can say he respects me when he can again ask for the phone number. To m ethat is not showing respect. It just shows hes full of sh!t.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
That's not flirting, that's just annoying. Don't talk to that person anymore. He sounds to be someone who would become your stalker.
@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
29 Jun 11
toniganzon, I think flirting is common online as you do not have to show your face. I would do some friendly flirts, but as for falling in love it takes more than just a little flirt. I think you better advice your friend, if she want to fall in love with people online, make sure she get to know them well enough before deciding to go into a relationship.
@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
30 Jun 11
you have a point, online the guys cannot really see, so they might not be so excite as the woman who can imagine better.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I believe she's old enough to know what's right for her or wrong. She's in her 40s and she even got offended when i told her not to take that man seriously because he flirts with all kinds of women including married one but he still claims he's not doing it at all. AS if those women don't know what's flirting or not!
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Well men get excited by what they see and women by what they hear!
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• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Flirting is just a human nature and instinct. There is nothing wrong with flirting. It means that you are human and a healthy amount of flirting can really be good. But of course it is just flirting, it should not be taken seriously. Again, when you can't control your emotions, that's the time that flirting becomes a problem. The bad thing is the guy denied flirting when he really shouldn't deny it in the first place because it is really nothing but flirting. What's beyond flirting is what really should be serious about. In my opinion flirting is something not to be taken serious about. Just my two cents!
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
AGree. So i see no point why he has to deny that? Just because the girl fell in love with him, he chickened out? Where did his balls go? He had the courage to flirt and yet couldn't accept its consequence. Though flirting is just for fun as the way i see it, nevertheless, we have to be sensitive to those who might misunderstood our actions and just be honest by telling the other person, "honey i'm just flirting and i don't intend for you to take me seriously. but if i misled you into thinking you that i have something for you, i apologize. so please move on with your life!"
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Yep! I think the big problem in this situations is misconceptions or excessive assumptions. If we can only read the minds of other people then nobody will be wondering about such things like this. Flirting is more like mind games I think. The more mystery you put into the other's mind, the more attractive and sexy it is. That's why flirting is really something people do every time.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Hi, toni! :) "No thieve will admit that he stealed." In that old saying, I guess, no one will admit his/her faults. Well, some of us. Hehehehe.. Admitting our faults especially when we know that it might lead to a bad impression on a person is really a thing to do. :) Especially flirting.. :) Most men, especially when they're courting someone, they will deny to the best of their abilities any thing that might give a bad impression on them. :) I think, nowadays, women must be extra careful about entrusting themselves to a man. :)
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I don't see there's nothing wrong in flirting online especially if it's a shallow one and done in a public chatroom for the sake of keeping the conversation alive and interesting. As long as you don't have any intention of having illicit relationship then i don't see nothing wrong with it. Most of the men i've met admitted they have been flirting online and admitted they were flirting to me. But that's just it! A mere flirting with no intention of getting it further. There's just this one particular person who couldn't admit it and it's like hello, are you gay?
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Hi! Guys like that are really hateful. One thing we should remember though, so that we don't get hurt, we shouldn't easily trust anybody online especially if first purpose of contact is flirting. I have an online friend who I've met years ago and we're still exchanging emails and even became friends in Facebook. But it was only recently that we started flirting (maybe it's flirting) with each other and I don't really know what it means or what is his purpose for starting it. But as much as possible, I don't think anything serious of it because after all, we haven't met each other personally and even if we have been friends for a couple of years, there would still be a difference between online and the real world. And besides, what's the use of having an online relationship, may it be serious or not, if you are not going to meet in the future? I mean, it can be considered a past time but there will come a time that you'll get tired of it especially if it's only flirting, or if you get serious, wouldn't you want to meet the person personally? Just ranting. Cheers.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Like what I said, I never take them seriously. There are online friends that I have never ever flirted with and this friends are the ones that I considered good ones and plan to meet in the future if given a chance,
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
22 Jul 11
I flirt with women on Facebook, but I have no reason to hide the fact that I flirt with them. I am single, and if they want to go out, that is fine with me. I am not committed to anyone, and I can date anyone I choose, so why would I care if other people know I am flirting with someone? A lot of the flirting that goes on online is happening between married people or people who are in relationships with someone, though, so naturally, at least one person involved has to hide the fact that it is happening. I am not saying it is right or wrong, but it IS going to continue to happen.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
There's nothing wrong with flirting and it's something that one should be ashamed about, not unless a married person's intention is to have an affair then definitely it's wrong to flirt online. The person I'm referring to here is a guy who's single and doesn't even have a girlfriend. So I just can't dig him why he had to deny he was flirting when it's obvious that he does that to all women he met online.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
ha! i learned my lessons on this department, hahaha i did that and well it did not turn out that good because it got a bit serious and well it spelled trouble lol but i was able to cut it all before it gets worst! There are guys who really are good in that department. They just do not have the balls for it.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
And what should we call guys without balls?
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
30 Jun 11
I think online flirting is a waste of time. Use the internet for the knowledge, for love you must believe in the offline world. It is good if you use the internet after meeting offline. I feel that one can expand the business and can work online for earning money.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Yes it is a waste of time, i agree with you on that one. But not all people think they are wasting their time especially when they're bored and find enjoyment in meeting people online and just do it for fun. Nothing serious.
• China
29 Jun 11
It seems that at the beginning that someone starts the first online life he or she does flirting more or less,but sooner or later either of them will get tired,especially the females,they always think males just want to profit at their expense!
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Boys will be boys! But I like those who are honest enough and true to themselves.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Good thing to open up this discussion. I find this really interesting. Some flirt guys are always like that denying things they've done. Sound really irritating, i don't know what keeps him going. When you're flirting you can't get any. I just find it useless. I've never into flirting in sites and no to plans to do it. Well, with that guy i think he has nothing to do with his life rather keep on doing illegal actions. He isn't really good at flirting because you're never hooked to him I pity him. lol
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Yes he's very pitiful! However I could never get hooked to anybody flirting with me. I can go with the flow but I never get drowned because I know what my limitations are. I just respond to those who flirted in a joking manner and never seriously. Flirting and perversion however are two different things. Don't have any room for perversion but I can have a good laugh with funny non serious things.
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@febrigas (362)
• Indonesia
29 Jun 11
I think the best way to close and flirt is to meet. often met with then it will be easier to get know each other. someone while in online relationship, he is very fluently in seducing, but in the real world while he tends to be quiet and look down. but not at men like that. then, to find out, we need to know in depth about his personality..
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I should relay this to my friend.
• United States
29 Jun 11
It is in our manly blood, we desire to be wanted but on the other hand, we are jerks. This is also why you ladies can not get enough of us. You will learn to decipher our cons and tricks, but in the mean time, WE WIN! haha
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Are yo sure you're winning? In what way?
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Jun 11
Flirting can ne very harmless depending on how it is done. it can also open a door that may be better to be closed. You can invite a situation that you are not ready for because flirtation came into play. you have to be willing to accept what comes your way when you invite flirting in.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Never invited any flirting, just responded to one thrown on me. I'm concerned about my friend however who became a victim of a man who denies he flirted when in fact he did. This is supposed to be the focus of this discussion. How disgusting those people can be who can't stand on what they did!
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@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
30 Jun 11
I think online flirting is a waste of time. Use the internet for the knowledge, for love you must believe in the offline world. It is good if you use the internet after meeting offline. I feel that one can expand the business and can work online for earning money.
• Guam
29 Jun 11
Forget online relationships. Meet them in person. If it is good, let it happen online for sustaining if need it. I like it old fashion way. Natural way because there is eye contact, smiles, voice...I miss my ex GF.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
Don't have plans to make romantic relationships online lol!
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