How do you feel about cheating?

Hi bouncybug, It is really hard to give advice to someone or your own opinion if you have not been or encounter the same problem.But if someone especially a girlfriend or boyfriend had cheated on me once I can forgive him/her but the treatment I can give the guy will not be the same as before.But like you said your boyfriend of 3 years have done it 2 times and the fact that your not yet married, what more if you are.It's good that you have known it earlier and the best advice I can give you is to meet other guys, I know there is someone more deserving then him. Once you lost your trust to a guy it's very hard to gain it back.

It depends on why he cheated. If he is just a dog and needs more than one woman and he will lie to keep a god woman in his life , then it is time to go. But if he wasn't thinking and it just happened . he loves you and this was just a lapse in judgement and he is willing to go for counseling, then try to stay. It all depends.

There is no way that I would ever be able to forgive somebody who chose to cheat on me. If somebody feels the need to be with somebody else in that way, then I am of the opinion that they surely couldn't have loved you all that much in the first place. If you love someone, properly, you would never do anything to hurt them, and cheating on people certainly does hurt. Not only your partner, but it can hurt their families, your family, your friendship groups.. basically everybody who accepted the two of you as a couple would then be hurt.

Hi BB! There are also other mylotters asking the same questions on whether they should forgive their boyfriend or not for leaving them and cheating on them. It happened many times to them and they decide to forgive their boyfriends but their boyfriends did leave and cheat them again and again. For me you should look at the reason why he is cheating on you. Is it because he wants to protect you, he wants to keep his secret (he doesn't want others to know) or because of other woman-simply said he got other girlfriend. If you know that he is clearly have other other girl then don't forgive him because he is clearly shows that he is betraying you. No second chance if there is no reason for him to be with other girl. Others might give second chance but if he did break the chance given to him for the second time means he is not suitable to be your boyfriend at all Ask yourself whether you bear to stand with his attitude and like to be his toy for a few times more.

I think that if he cheated on you once than maybe he could be forgiven but the fact that he cheated on you twice and you dated him for 3 years then maybe he shouldn't be forgiven. I've been in that situation before where a guy that I dated for at least 1 year cheated on me with some girl that I knew from school. He apologized and he looked sincere and I took him back. So, we were back together and we were happy. Till a friend of mine told me that she saw him with some other girl in the City and they were holding hands and kissing. I broke up with him and ended up finding another guy to be with. I just don't think you should be okay with it because he did a really shady thing.

hi bouncybug same attitude here towards cheating in a relationship be it a marriage or a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. I would not be able to forgive cheating. Every other mistake is disputable so to say and we would talk it out but cheating is an attack to the very core of the relationship which is trust and togetherness and true love. I am Catholic and we have very strict rules for divorce and it has unpleasant consequences but cheating would result in divorce and that very quickly. When your bf has cheated on you even twice in the last months alone you should be careful

Personally I have always felt that this is wrong, and once they cheat it would be easier for them to want to do it again, and so it is Best to leave them. (Especially if you are not Married.) If you are married you can try counseling especially if there are kids involved, and see if that will help, but a lot of times it could be too late.

For me very bad to me and specially the eyes of Jehovah God so really bad it is very big sin in him.

Mine was graver that I immediately broke up with him. He cheated with not only one girl while we were still going out. I did forgive him. Then he started courting me after few years but I imposedly showed to him that I am not the same girl who would go crazy with every thing he does anymore until one day he never made me feel his presence eventually. That's the time that I knew that he wasn't really serious on getting back with me.

I think everyone thinks that way.. We all think if we get cheated on we will leave that person, until it happens to us, then we end up staying with them for some reasons.. I do believe some people are capable of changing though. Some say once a cheater always a cheater.. But in my opinion, one mistake you make does not define you as a person.

Cheating always hurt. It can make one lose one self and esteem. Cheating is the last thing that should happen in any relationship but it doesn't mean forgiving is not a way to overcome it. Those who have been cheated find the road to recovery easily by forgiving those who have cheated on them. Forgiving is giving closure to what's been done and when there's closure, a new phase is next to come.

trust me ,, don't cheat , it sounds good and sexy , but just look the other way and ....run run ... it is better these way ... bfore it is too late !!!!

I am feels remain same expressions.cheating is cheating,if it happens in computer ,friendship,relationship,internet and every field of life.Every one has makes some mistakes in the life,1st i am forget these mistake and the give chance other person like as friend,relative etc.lastly if cheating is continue then we leave the person with the decent way.

In my opinion, cheating is the highest of a betrayal in special relationship. but one can certainly cange, If he had apologized, and very sorry, and promised not to repeat it again, then there is no harm, to give him a second chance, and this certainly the latter. if he wants to return, and still loves you, he will apologize and invite you to get in touch again as it once was..

i've never been cheated on, but i have cheated before, only when i was really young though and it wasn't really cheating you know, kissing a different boy behind the bike shed lol! plus i've grew up to be gay.. so go figure lol! .. i don't agree with cheating in anyway.. see if you can cheat, with anypart of your voice, body, mind, soul, heart, then it doesnt fully belong to the person you are with. and if you even think for one second that you want someone else, then you clearly aren't as inlove with the person as you think you are. if he was THE ONE for you, and you were THE ONE for him, you would be all he would think about, he wouldn't be able to see past you ever.. he'll cheat again.. and i think the fact that you've posted this on here proves that you probably agree with me. why cheat.. just leave, thats my motto!!

You are living in a dream world,cuase even married couples cheat.the fact of the matter is that you think you shouldn't lose anything but you are totally wrong.