My husband is worried

I see... I was like that too, yet my mother wasn't worried for she accepted the fact. It's like this accept how the seed grows, still since your son plays with mature ones you shouldn't be worried. Were I spent my childhood... I was more isolated for my mentality was way too different than the rest of the kids and this is worse than having older friends. You shouldn't be worried in fact this is quite a goo sign for your son develops maturity way faster which also includes intellectual skills. It is no unusual nor something to worry about if your child acts and develops faster. If he is enjoying this and things are well than let it be so for worrying about this might make your son notice this and he might consider this wrong and could have side effects. Never worry when things are not as they should be, worry when things are when they should not be. Also a 7 year old saying that he is not chanting with strangers and watches his moves... you both should be proud of your son. Let him develop as he is and enjoy the wonderful family life. It's a gift what you have there.

Yeah, maybe it's also in the way you brought him up. It just goes to show that you've brought him up like a real man. Which is good. I think there's nothing really wrong, he's just a smart guy like his parents. You should be proud not worried.

Thanks for putting this up. Your seven year old sounds like my seven year old but I was the one who was worried that she doesnt have enough friends. I saw her teacher and she saya that my daughter is matured for her age too. I sometimes asks her about school and she seems to have friends so I think I should put my worries aside.

If your partner is worried perhaps make an appointment with the school and ask his teacher what he is like with social interaction with other children. My worry with this situation would be that as he gets older and starts to venture out with his friends he will be doing things that the older lads are doing. I am finding this with my son. He appears to be doing very "naughty" things for his age but things that you would expect a child three or four years older to try. Have you considered getting him in to a club? Something that interests him. Hopefully he will make a group of friends his own age in to the same things as him. Good luck x

hi toni I may go against the tide here but I find it wonderful that your husband is concerned about your son not having enough friends. After my parents divorced my mother had custody of me and I lived with her and two other adults, aunt and Grandma. She was very proud of the fact that I was iike a little adult these times and she also seemed to be very proud that I didnt have friends my age and rarely had contacts with other children apart from the unavoidable time in school. I was bullied a lot for being a good student and for being weird. I was pinched black and blue marks, spit at and even hit and my mother still was very proud of the little adult she had at home

god gives such a briliance to very few children...you are blessed with such an amazing child...i know that you are happy with your child but yes at the same time you are a bit worried too...i find that the reason of your worries is absolutely correct...although i appreciate that the child needs some private space in life but still this should not be in excess...later he can find problem in sharing with people, adjusting with situations...friends are an integral part of life and if from childhood he makes good friend he will learn the value of people...their priorities...at a certain age he'll find that he is having knwledge and success but no body to appreciate it sorry to be that blunt but its my own experience...we need people in our life and it cannot be lived alone...people will value him if and only if he give his time for them...being with elder ones is good but he should also live with the children of his age...so that his innosence is not lost...may be after some years he himself will understand this...

Being more mature than the other kids your age can have its' problems. My oldest daughter has always been more mature than people her own age and she doesn't have a lot of close friends. She is able to communicate with almost anyone, but she really only has a couple of friends her own age. However, she has always had a lot more than her friends and she has gotten to do a lot more than some kids her age too because of it.

hi toniganzon he is 7 but so und ten have you had his iq checked? He sounds like my son did at that age and he was two grades ahead of his age we finally had to put him in a private school and oh my did he prosper then as he was challenged and not bored. think about this please. good lu luck God bless

I don't think there is problem with your son. My daughter is also like that when she started school. She's also good with academics,but very choosy when it comes to friends. Actually until now,my daughter is still choosy with friends. She's already a second year college and a full scholar but don't have much friends and not also fond of going out or hanging out. She prefers to spend her time with her crafts,like playing musical instruments (she plays various musical instrument and sings with his brother who are also music lovers) I guess there are really kids that choose to be serious or choose friends that can relates with their interests and likes. I am sure your kid is also an artists as you wrote her he draws... Artists are really moody -but smart and intelligent!

hi,don't worry about it.it's better to play the kids who are elder than him.by the way focusing in class is a good habit for studiing too.

You have a great child. Worries are completely unnecessary. Children having extra maturity is always good. Believe me. Because such children are already aware of what's good and what's not. So the parent's job becomes a lot easier. And yes, you and your child definitely have a bright future!

Indeed, your son is so matured for his age. And i think, he is an intelligent one. Imagine, liking to watch the news program. You see, intelligent children , chooses their company. I was like that in my elementary days. Since i am a consistent salutatorian, my circle of friends was the valedictorian and the other honor students. But we do play also. So i guess, it's the same with your son and that's alright.

My usual response to this type of concern is to "follow your maternal instincts". But since the father of your child has concerns of his own, and because his opinions and observations also matter, I suggest you consider his "worries" and go see someone about it. You may be correct, and he may only be worrying too much, but it wouldn't hurt to consult a professional. Usually, it's the teacher who initiates the recommendation, being that s/he is the one who is around your kid and other kids for most of the time, and is usually trained to detect if "something is unusual" about a certain child.

Your son will do fine! As long as the other (older) kids are accepting him, it shouldn't be a problem at all. Is he advanced academically as well as emotionally? Mainly wondering because DH & I were both like that & both went to college early because of it. I had a lot more friends when I started taking college classes because they were closer to my maturity level. We homeschool our daughter, and the group of kids she hangs out with a day or two a week have a large range of ages, from a mother who has to bring her newborn with to late-teen high schoolers. She's got kids she considers friends from those younger than her at around 2-3 (she's six) to kids that are in their early teens. One of the benefits of homeschooling, we don't have things as separated by grade level/age group.