Hope this NEVER happens to anyone...

I can't believe that happens in real life. What a crap experience, that was for sure a broken heart. How could someone do that to a loving women? He is the most stupid guy I guess. He ruined 3 women and almost ruined you everything. Good enough you've found out the truth later on. I'm happy for at least you're now safe with your new fiancee, I posted a comment on your relocating for love. Stay in love and I hope this incident will never happen to you again and to anybody. Thank for sharing this story for at least I am aware that I need to know the person before I trust him. :)

Hello lisa0351, OMG this was rediculous on your part you should not be so much fast in making relationship you must check 1000 times a man with whom you are going to be in a serious relationship.You cannot ignore this as he might have done much worse than what he had planned for. But it was a relief sigh at the end that you came to know the reality of him as if it was not disclosed to you would have been more hurted & cheated.Though you might have learnt a lesson from it. For me it takes a long time to get along with a person.I don't get along with a person till i don't really get satisfied that the person is worth to make friend.

Oh lisa this is very disheartening. I am sorry you went through this entire ordeal. Do know that you have done nothing wrong and simply were in love with someone who you believed was the right person. One cannot help others mistakes but learn ourselves from them. Thanks for sharing this with us as perhaps some out in the world may come along a situation such as this and recall your story and think twice. How awful of this guy but thankfully he is behind bars and hopefully will pay for his criminal actions. Consider it a bad chapter in your life for which you may or may not ever forget but will allow you to continue to be wiser in life. I have never had this happen but certainly can share that I too have made some bad choices in life simply because when love is in my hearts we do not see past before us. Thanks for sharing and many blessings in your future.

I have never experienced anything like that. I have came upon a lot of jerks but nothing like that. So sorry that you ended up experiencing a jerk like that. Guys like that needs to be hung upside down by their you know what.

What happened to you is so bad.It's really so hard to trust people nowadays.I heard that it often happen in the U.S; men prying on vulnerable women and use them to gain money illegally.Thanks God they had caught him or he may have more victims.We should be extra careful regarding whom to trust.Maybe we need to run a background check before having an intimate relationship with any men.

this story i just awful. i mean, its like a movie that should never be played. i dont know why some people do this kind of hurtful things. i mean, why should they in the first place? i've done some researches about these kinds of people. and from what i've learned, it turns out that they had so much hurt inside of them that makes them want to hurt others too. some do it on purpose, some do it unknowingly. im in a relationship right now and it made me realize that honesty is still the best way to keep a relationship strong and healthy. i hope and pray that this never happens to me. i also pray that it never happens to you again. :D

Wow!! And the worst of it is he probably ended up destroying your Credit as well and unless you find people feeling generous and understanding, and willing to work with you could take yrs. to ever have people even wanting to Trust or work with you. Stories like this are Sad, and makes me Glad I met my husband and got a chance to really get to know him before we Married. I dated someone for about a yr. one time and got a Phone Call one time from his wife who found my phone number on an Email I had sent him. They were living together and he even had kids living at home as well. It was a little frustrating but since we left it more platonic and only seen each other sometimes only 2-3 times in a month I never thought anything about it. But you were living with the man. Wow!! Just glad you found out now, and things did not get too bad. Take time for yourself to heal and recover, and Good things can happen in your future. Wishing you the Best.

What a terrible experience...the rotten creep. How are things with you now...I hope you had some counselling because this is very serious. I think you may have had a lucky escape and I hope you will be safe from this guy. I've been with a couple of guys who tried to con me out of my divorce settlement back in the seventies but they weren't professional con artists, they were just greedy ratbags trying to con me into parting with my money.

I'm glad that you weren't hurt more than you were. This is why there are inexpensive ways to do background checks on people. When I was divorced at age 50, I found net detective to help me. Sure enough. One guy someone tried to set me up with had been to prison 3 times. Net detective was able to tell me when and for what.

woww ... it looks like you cheated "out" and "in" ... fraudsters are very remarkable. I've never experienced as you've experienced. Hopefully this will be a lesson for you to be careful choosing a mate

I am sorry. But I read your another discussion where you said that you are going to get marry soon, so why do you remember this old guy. I will say that forget about that guy and live with the one which you found for yourself. I hope this one is good. Have a nice day ahead.

That doesn't happen to me yet but if ever, I would really hate him for the rest of my life, devil!Why can such be so many people be so cruel to others? You are still lucky that this doesn't take that long. You still have your angels around you that protects you. Happy that he was arrested immediately.

OUCH! I'm sorry you went through that and you're right to warn people so they too, don't get conned the way you did. Say good bye to this one! Change your number and whatever else you're able to do to protect yourself. Make it clear that he is no longer welcome at your door or anyone elses that you're in touch with. If it helps, my heart was shattered too more than once so I know it takes a long time before I was able to trust again (and look at wedding gowns without wanting to tear them all to shreds). I reconnected with a very good friend from high school and relocated with him so I got myself out of the original area. Things can work out if you have the right people there with you. Do you have some good friends you can truly rely on? Be well!

oh, so sorry for your experience. Hope you take these lessen seriously. Never fall in love until you really know the guy and his family well. My sister-in-law's sister was also got cheated, her experience is much more hurting because the guy is already her husband. After getting married to these guy, the husband said he was retrenched by the company and he asked the wife (my sis-in-law's sister) for a big sum of money stating that he would like to do some business. Guess you know what happened once the husband got the money! These type of con man is really frightening because they really spend time in luring and trapping the women into their plan. Anyway, I hope you all the best when starting any new relationship. God bless and take of you.

Sorry that it happened to you, I'm glad you found someone better Never had exactly that story happened to me, but I did meet a con artist online he was consistent at first, everything he said 'matched' from day to day as time went by, some inconsistencies surfaced and I started withdrawing my friend at the time was keen on dating and she joined many dating sites I decided to tell her about him and showed his pic, boy I am glad I did she wasn't dating him, but she did see his profile on one of the sites she was in I was shocked, it was a completely different personality things he told me he doesn't like, there he said he likes them some are consistent, but I did find some answers to certain questions in my mind about his recent behavior I was hurt more by things he didn't even have to lie about, rather than the fact he was on a dating site openly inviting women to know him better because at the time I wasn't into marriage and he was (well at least it seemed so) so I can understand him looking for more options regardless it was the closure I needed. no more confusion. no need for further contact. I avoid him and deleted all communications. I always had a hard time forgiving in the past, but after months of inner work I find myself able to forgive some things, even lies. it all depends on what causes these lies. but with him, I find it hard to forgive, and actually worried of staying friends. I feel that what I see in the profile is not even the real him. These things he said he doesn't like (to me) but said he likes (in the profile) are the things I like. I don't believe I changed him. He is taking someone else's personality and mold it into his. The next person will have to go through what I went through, to find out the real him, or never will. I just hope he is not a psychopath.

Oh my, that's a really terrible thing to happen! And scary, too. It was fortunate that he was caught by the police. I never had such dangerous experience in life but I did experience getting involved with a married man. My friend who was a cop, introduced me to this guy who was a cop also. We liked each other and started dating. But I found out from another friend who was a cop, too that he was already married with children. His family was living abroad so he's able to fool around. Though we never really got serious, I don't even consider him as an ex-boyfriend, I was thankful to learn that information at an early stage because I was sure I would have fallen for him. My friend who introduced me to him, apologized to me because she didn't know it, too.

My heart goes out to you. I knwo what it feels like to have someone lie to you and you're falling head over heels in love with them. The hurt you feel, is really far beyond description. I send you a hug from across the miles and trust that you will soon feel better

Hi. lisa0351. I don't mean to be rude to you and your situation, but it sounds like this guy is a straight up azzhole that deserved everything that he has coming to him! It is a shame that he has lied to you like he has. What a total loser that he is! He was just using you, just like he is doing with the other secretive women that he is sharing his life with as well. This creeps actions sounds just like something out of a Life Time Movie Network movie! Why can't he get a job so that he can stop living off of the women that is being with. He just used you all to get what he really wanted and that is your identity and money. He should be ashamed of himself, because any man that can use the hell out of a female, is a complete filthy scrub in my eyes! Well, I bet now, he is paying for his lies and deceit behind bars!

No, that has not happened to me. I would never let someone live with me until we were married, and not married until we were engaged for no less than a year. And during that year, I'd find out everything, absolutely everything about her. And there is no such thing as 'white lies'. You found this out the hard way. Without truth... there is nothing. "Fast and Furious" is a good name for a movie... a bad way to do a relationship. Sorry you had to go through this. Hopefully you'll have learned a bit so you don't end up here again. Good luck.

Oh gosh! This guy sounds soooo familiar. I was involved with someone about 13 years ago. He stole my checks and started buying lottery tickets with them... by the time he was out of my life there were about 14 checks that had been written. It wasn't even an active checking account; I just had the book of checks around but wasn't using the account. It was before I had a computer, and I could never keep it balanced right, so I had given up using it. Well of course, he went on his merry way when he decided he got out of me all he could... and then the sheriff knocks on my door. Luckily I didn't have to pay for those bad checks because it wasn't my signature. He is a guy and was signing my name at these convenience stores. They had him on their cameras writing checks and using my name. How he did it, I can only guess... I bet the store owners or managers just didn't care and thought it was a sale. I had to go through some legal stuff, of course, but I got a lawyer, and shame on them for doing business with someone they know isn't even a woman. Who is a guy and has my name? That would be like a boy named SUE!