opposites attract!
By rhamcapapas
@rhamcapapas (33)
Philippines
June 30, 2011 9:32am CST
I and my husband are totally opposites! We like different things. We often don't agree with each other. We even had some worse fights. But one thing that we have in common is that, although we are not compatible, we both LOVE and can't live without each other. Although I must admit it can be really stressful because I'm like taking care of a kid. But, when I think about what if, I was married with my ex who's very compatible with me and who's like my soul mate, I just smile and thank the Lord I'm here with my husband because I'm sure that relationship won't work. My ex and I are both romantic but can be very very scary when angry. Meanwhile, my husband, when I'm mad he just stays quiet and not get into my anger. I am very generous and he is very thrifty. So we both compliment each other. There'll be trials along the way, but as long as we share the same feelings, we'll make it through whatever.
8 responses
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
1 Jul 11
In a relationship it is important for each to use their knowledge and abilities to enhance the strenghts of the other and to help strenghten each others weakness. Opposites usually do this well when they are both reaching towards the same goals. Good luck, seems to me like you have solved one of the puzzles of successful relationships.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
1 Jul 11
yeah, one of the elements of a successful relationship is understanding that one's partner is an individual that chooses to share striving for similar goals. We take what we both have and find ways to use those to succeed in obtaining our goals. If you want one thing and your partner wants something else, it does not matter how similar your personalities are, you will never connect. On the other hand, if both want the same things, it does not matter how different you are, you will find ways to help each other obtain them.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Complimenting each other is one key factor to a successful relationship. Me and my wife also compliment each other and we too have our share of differences. But we know and we feel that we can't live without each other. I guess this is one of the many mysteries of love.
@rhamcapapas (33)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
Yes. That's good to know. I also believe that GOD put me where I should belong. He really knows what's best for us. Good luck to your marriage, too. ^^
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 11
You are right. I think the most relationship that works well is when both of them having a different personalities. although it requires a hard work to make it work well, but in the end it will stay against challenges.
With a relationship that based on the same personalities, it gets boring and predictable. Therefore, it is easy for the other party to get attracted to a different personality that's amusing in their boredom.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Just like you when it comes to spending, i spend more ,while my husband is thrifty. That's one opposite side of ours ,that is an advantage to our marriage also.
He tends to be strict, when it comes to disciplining our daughter, while i tend to be the lax one. When it comes to clothes, i like light colors, while he tends to like dark ones.
But in most aspects we are compatible. We like the same foods and share the same types of some TV programs to watch . We share the same decisions in most cases.
I guess, for couples, there may always be differences. It's up for each one to adjust to each other.
@genesisgroldan (214)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
That is good to hear that even most of the times that you and your husband do not agree with different matters, you still end up being in love with each other. I do not really believe about compatibility because everyone of us has its own mind, we cannot agree every time with what our partner wants. I guess one of the keys to a successful relationship is having an open mind and communication. God bless to you and your husband!
@marilyninocencio (116)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
It is really great to find a husband that really matches your personality. We can't really avoid to have an argument or get into fight with our husband because that is very natural. The good thing is, the two of you know that you love each other very much and you both can't live without each other. I hope that you will continue to love each other more until the end. Congratulations to both of your for finding each other!
@heerak009 (41)
• India
30 Jun 11
you must thank go first as your husband is much quite when you are mad. as you know marriages are set in heaven by God. And it is his wish that you be together. also many couples are like your case.i myself is having exactly the same case as yours. even our taste and preferences differ but we still love each other and are happy.we also use to fight on many topics and do not talk to each other for that day but after that day we don't even remember that we fought yesterday. all is fine and set by god don't regret anything in life. what lies ahead is important.
@sadafsakhawat (133)
• Pakistan
30 Jun 11
ya you are right opposite do attract, but i have heard a couple most have most of the things in common...........
i dnt know much regarding it but i know that couples are made in heaven.
