Heartbreaking moments
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15746)
Philippines
June 30, 2011 9:24pm CST
I was not in mylot for days because my son was hospitalized. I could say it would be the hardest days i have been through. I had to give up work for days to be with him. Thursday last week, i have to leave work abruptly because my mom called and she said the fever does not go down 38 celcius and i did rushed home and had his blood taken for tests. his platelet count was so low, it was only 100 where the normal is 140.. but my hubby said we should observe him first and see how he is in the morning.
That night, my son was fine and in the morning he even started playing that i was even preparing to go to work..but when we were about to leave for work, he cried and said that his nose was bleeding. I thought it was a normal nose bleed..but the blood was not stopping..i had to keep my mind focused because i was panicking. so we rushed him to the hospital, and had him confined. Tests were done and his platelet went as low as 60.. he was inactive and was just there lying..and all he said to me was.."mama, i just want to sleep" and everytime he say that, i cried. It was like a knife in my heart.. and i keep on whispering to him if only mama could take his place i would. He stayed at the hospital for 4 days.. and well the bill was also heartbreaking..but i really did not care. My son even got used to the injections and taking of the blood.. it was painful because he was trying to be brave.
it was the time where me and hubby had to overcome our emotions and pain so we could stand strong beside him, the results came and he was diagnosed with Dengue, from a mosquito.. and we were thinking it is impossible he got it from home because we make sure there is none. I was thinking it must be at school which reminds me to go and talk to the administrator.
Seeing my son like that was painful, even my daughter was sad because of this, she even helped in her own little way making drawings for her brother..and me and hubby was able to go through this helping each other out.
Now, i am swearing no one of my 3 kids will go through this again.. never.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
oh and the nurse who was the ER was Oxley..hehe.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Hey i miss you! 
It is ok, the texting did comfort me...in a way i was able to relieve what i was feeling. Glad Juan is better swirlz.. back to his old active self..and i am controlling myself not to scold him for now and have his ways.. lol.. but i am so glad for your prayers and your mom as well, she was also texting me and i know you guys were praying for us. I will visit her if i get the time this weekend take care
It is ok, the texting did comfort me...in a way i was able to relieve what i was feeling. Glad Juan is better swirlz.. back to his old active self..and i am controlling myself not to scold him for now and have his ways.. lol.. but i am so glad for your prayers and your mom as well, she was also texting me and i know you guys were praying for us. I will visit her if i get the time this weekend take care1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
1 Jul 11
That is so scary. I am glad you got him to the hospital for care. I find it hard to keep all mosquitoes out. I have heard of dengue, but I am not familiar with the details of it. I am still very glad that you are getting him medical help.
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I read about it now, and I see where the type where they get low platelets is a dangerous type.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
it gets dangerous when platelets get that low.. and i learned one thing also, they were giving him vanilla ice cream because they said it increases the blood platelet!
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
Hi!
That's really unfortunate and really sad. I can almost understand how you must have felt during that time even though I don't have kids of my own yet. But I do have a little niece and nephew who occasionally get confined in the hospital because of illness. My nephew was also stricken with dengue before and it was really a hard time for us. But there was not a time when his nose bled. His high fever just wouldn't stop. And my mother decided to take him to the hospital. He was confined for a few days. My sister, my nephew's mother, had to absent from her work to take care of his son.
Anyway, I'm glad that your son is doing better now. We can never be too careful but we can always do our best. God bless.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
yes he is better now and i even have to take him for follow up check up today...
when kids go through this, it is painful to see them in pain
but as a mother, i had to be strong.
God bless you too
but as a mother, i had to be strong.
God bless you too
@ellebj (784)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Thank you Lord he was ok now.. It was really sad and it is alarming.. If you hadn't take him to the hospital, he might be gone.. Dengue is really dangerous... I'm happy that your son is fine now..
My sister had experienced that also and she was brought to the hospital when she was little.. That time, I think I am around 9 years old and I was always left in our house with my cousin..
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
Thank God that he is better now and back to his old active self.. it was tough ellebj
@remnant_89 (8)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
Glad his fine now. I also had dengue fever twice. It was not easy at all seeing my parents worry so much. Plus the hospital bills were too much for us to handle. They say if you get the dengue virus the 3rd time, it'll be a critical one. I hope and pray it won't happen again. I am glad your son is fine now. All is well!
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
yes i was thinking that he will not be getting in the future like your system gets immune! but i was wrong when i was reading about it..you could get it more than once...and the next ones will be harder and much more critical..how scary that is why i am making sure they wont get mosquito bites.. i am getting them equipped with vitamins to make their system strong plus i am also giving them insect repellants!
@fujisaki61 (75)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
Jazel my son had been hospitalized for a week when he was five years old due to that tropical mosquito and every time a large needle is used to extract blood from his arm my little boy never uttered a word. He just shed his tears while I hug him so close to lessen the pain and he endured it for daddy is there to comfort him. As a new father at that time I felt the same way too something similar to your words 'knife in my heart' and I think every parent at myLot experienced that too. Well, my son is thirteen now and is as tall as his daddy. I have just dropped him at his school this morning before logging in to myLot. What a great thing to remember the courage of my young boy fighting an ordeal of his life. In our country alone there were 465 deaths mostly young children as of September 2010. So guys please follow the guidelines set by your local health office to minimize the risk brought by this deadly mosquito.Have a wonderful weekend to all of you.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
yes it is indeed a knife in the heart..and it is sad that as young as they are, they are trying to be brave.. and it makes you want to hug them more and if only you could take away the pain you would.. i was really heartbroken that time and sad because all i could do was watch him and encourage him..but not totally take all the pain away.
@fujisaki61 (75)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
yes jazel a mother is always a mother. I am glad your son is fine now. My mother is no longer here but I know she is happy now knowing that his grandchild is doing fine in school.Well, your son is your reflection in this life so I know that you will work hard and raise him a good man, a leader, compassionate guy, and God-loving.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Jul 11
hi jaxel___juan I missed you.Yes its really so hard when one of your own children are ill and you feel so helpless. I mean we moms can fix little hurts b ut some kinds of illnesses make our children have to be hospitalized and we feel really helpless. Kids are so vulnerable and we are so used to helping them, then to get in a situation where you
have to just sit and wait,well its really so hard.Dengue fever I
have heard of and know it is carried by mosquitoes but I do not
know much else about it at all.I am so sorry for you and your son
and hope he is feeling much better by now.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
Thank you Hatley, glad i am missed here He is much better now and all so loud and being naughty again but i let him have his ways..for now 
so true, i was so helpless during that time and it is sad that i cannot do anything that time.
He is much better now and all so loud and being naughty again but i let him have his ways..for now
so true, i was so helpless during that time and it is sad that i cannot do anything that time. 
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Jul 11
omg. all the things we have to worry about with our kids and babies. so many things it makes you scared to leave them out of your site for a moment and yet nothing can be done but let them live and be away from us at times. its so sad. im so glad hes ok now! God works. 
i would have prayed if id known but obviously someone was. @jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
he is better now bunny and yes it is scary..so scary i thought i was going to loose my son.. but prayers work.. @GemmaR (8517)
•
1 Jul 11
It is horrible to see our children go through things like that. I have often said that if I could be in pain in the place of my children I would choose to do so without even having to think twice about it. You should go and talk to your son's school because school is supposed to be a place where children are safe, and it is important that you are happy when he goes to school. I wouldn't worry about it being your fault though because it isn't. We can't save our children from danger all of the time, it just isn't humanly possible. We just have to be there for them when they need us and offer a base of support from which they can explore the world.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
I have that on my mental list as of the moment, go and talk to the administrator..i might do that on monday since it is saturday already and i am so cramped with work work work again..
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
hello jazel,
I can relate to this one my dear.
4 years ago when my son was also been a dengue victim.
Having all the test ,injection and taking blood samples every 4 hours gives me pain.
The blood count is going lower each tests and I also feel like dying with every result.
On the 3rd day of his confinement blood suddenly comes out from his nose that really made me panicked and cried a lot.
I am almost cursing the doctor for not giving my kid the early possible treatment ,why not give him the platelet transfusion and why wait for the blood count to go down for the extent low count.
I dare them to give me a weaver and I will signed to get out from that hospital and take my child to another one.
I called some help from media...and soon as they are hearing me calling someone...they were rushing for emergency actions.
They had my son with platelets transfusions and made me calm down.
that was one of the longest hour in my life...I bet I could deal with anyone and dare whoever is in front of me that time.
After that incident,the doctor came to talk to us and explained everything.
Okay...my son survived...the thing is,what if I never did a scene and never been hysterical..will they give me my son those emergency actions?
why can't they just provide proper and immediate action before worst happen.
Not to mention it's one of the most reputable hospital in the country.
I hope your son is doing well now and in safe condition my friend..
Take care always...and be safe too
I hope your son is doing well now and in safe condition my friend..
Take care always...and be safe too @jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
yes he is doing fine now and recovering, back to his old active self.. which is a bit funny because i used to scold him for being so active and so naughty..but now, i just let him be because it is much painful to see him timid and inactive..
well, the good thing with my son's case was the pedia immediately ordered to transfuse plasma right away to avoid further problems. IT is sad because our medical care really is bad, i have seen the situation in public hospitals and at times even in private hospitals, if you do not have the means..the money they will not entertain you! i hate public hospitals because the nurses are even that "maldita"!they forgot they are public servants. 
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
That's the problem with schools, either public or private, they need to have a steady sanitary and other clean maintenance to prevent getting sick like. you should asked him how and where is he playing and studying, is the school's classrooms air conditioned? he should avoid dirty areas of the school where mosquitos are possibly present.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
well he is 4 and i do not think it matters to him on where he goes..hhaha as long as he can play, he does not care of the mosquitoes! that is why i make it a point now to have insect repellants and i am teaching him how to apply it even in school.. i believe it is in school because he does not go anywhere except school, at home and my mom's home which i also do not think they have it there because my mom is a neat freak.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I know how it feels when our child get sick. 9 years ago i lost my daughter, diagnosed of pneumonia.
It was hard and painful. A year after that my son got hospital. so its not easy.
Well thanks God your child is ok now.
And welcome back to myLot. I'm new here..
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
that is sad losing a child, i was imagining that during those days what if i loose him, i would never be able to forgive myself.. it might have been hard for you!
yes he is recovering now..
welcome to mylot hope you enjoy it as much as i do.
hope you enjoy it as much as i do.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
1 Jul 11
Hi jazel_juan, I am sorry to hear of your son getting sick and was hospitalized. I am very happy to hear that he is doing well and a speedy recovery. I have never heard of this disease but I am going to research it. I pray that this never happens again to any of your children. Is there a vaccination they can get to prevent this from happening again? If so I hope that your children will be able to get it. Be Blessed and have a good day.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
There is no vaccine for this Chevee..it is from a mosquito..do search for it, its pretty common in tropical country like here in Philippines. I am just doing preventive measure like putting insect repellant lotion on them
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Dengue? Oh that's a disease that can kill. It's a good thing that you have brought him to the hospital at the soonest.
Yes, money is not a bother, if it is the lives of your love ones that will be compromised. You could earn money , but you can never replace the life of a love one.
I hope that your son will fully recover soon!
Yes, money is not a bother, if it is the lives of your love ones that will be compromised. You could earn money , but you can never replace the life of a love one.
I hope that your son will fully recover soon!@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Praying that he will recover soon, the doctor still advised him to rest till next week. he might go back to school
@AishaBR (345)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I can't imagine going through this at all. I probably would be crying lke ababy. I already can't take it when my son goes for his shots and he starts t cry it makes me cry as well. i'm happy your son was brave through it all. I hope your kids or you ever have to go through that again.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Yes i was actually crying when he was at the emergency room when they were putting the IV and dextrose in his hands because he was feeling the pain of the needle when they poked him in his right hand..and the nerve was not hit..so they had to redo it in his left hand..so he was pretty much in pain and i was crying by the side while the nurses where holding him,.
