Do you have anxiety in your life?

@celticeagle (166911)
Boise, Idaho
July 1, 2011 3:19am CST
I have social anxiety. Mostly because of my weight and how I fear people will see me. I also have a great fear of the unknown. I didn't used to when I was younger. SOmetimes I am able to handle it and alot of times it gets the better of me. How about yourself? What type of anxiety do you have and what do you do with it?
6 people like this
23 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
10 Feb 13
My anxieties aren't really like yours. I'm anxious in just the way that i am afraid of what the future might bring me once i am really in a workplace. At this moment, i dont think my job is a "real job" i am getting paid for it, but I'm working for my mom so. The environment is different from when i actually start working on my own. I'm also anxious about what is going to mhappen to my life next, I'm not even prepared or anything,
3 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb 13
Well, I would do some research and see what real job you would like, set your goal to get it. Good luck!
1 person likes this
• Penrith, Australia
10 Feb 13
Thanks Celtic eagle, wow, you type really fast, i didnt expect you to reply so soon. you're awesome.
2 people like this
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
10 Feb 13
I 'try not to think about it' (i.e. think of other things, not "sitting there, thinking 'okay, DON'T think about your anxiety! '"), but I guess my anxiety comes from obviously not-being the best option for someone to do what I'm doing or -about to do. Especially with women ... when a woman's hugging on me, but I don't deserve it as much as the others around whom she could hug on just as well (and probably with more reward for her from them)
3 people like this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Feb 13
hi celticeagle after going through my sons being laid off and being evicted and being shoved in here as there was no place else for an elderly lady with only social security,a bum leg, and diabetes to go so here I still am., the unknown did scare the bejabbers out of me and this is what came of it. better than being out here being moved from one shelter to another as too many homeless so no one can stay but one week.My son finally is now working full time so thats really good.He had a section 8 apt so it only costs him 400 dollars a month for rent.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
4 Jul 11
I was always shy from when I was younger and I guess you can consider it to be social anxiety. I'm now agoraphobic after I've developed generalized anxiety disorder from my marriage, so I don't really go out or have a social life either. If I stay indoors, I don't get as anxious but when I did I would just be anxious being out. Lately, I've been practicing and exposing myself that I was doing pretty good but I still have really bad days when I get a really bad panic attack. I'm going to see a therapist next month... so we'll see how it goes. Now that I'm agoraphobic, in another sense, I do a lot of other things I used to never do like study, make things, and appreciate things in my life.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jul 11
I get really bad sometimes too. I don't understand or think it fair that you can have such good days and then all of a sudden fall into a horrid panic attack. I just do what I can do when I can and hope the next day is good. I have S.A.D. so the winter is awful. Usually in the Spring I come out of it and start feeling better but not this year. The weird weather I guess. I enjoy my writing and being online. I do what I can.
1 person likes this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 11
That is too bad. My meds are such that I can't be out in the sun for long or it makes me sick.
1 person likes this
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
5 Jul 11
I have slight SAD but also my anxiety gets triggered or really hot days. It sucks because sunny days make me happy but the temp doesn't.
2 people like this
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
I have anxiety in life but not because of my body. My anxiety is the future of my kid where to get more money to provide expenses of his daily allowances. It's hard to make some money and my earnings online is not just as easy as having a salary every month...
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Jul 12
Sure!
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jul 12
Keep on keepin' on.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
Okay thanks for the reply, my friend.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
1 Jul 11
hi celticeagle I dont have social anxiety but right now I am battling with anxieties too. Its anxieties about situations in my life which are troubling me right now where I cant estimate the outcome. So far I have been the strong one who would not even recognize anxieties but say, oh well where are the next problems to tackle and its a completely new situation for me.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jul 11
Anxiety is normal. Alot of people suffer from it. I think visualization is the one thing that helped me the most. Take a moment and find a comfortable place to set. Close your eyes and visualize a favorite place or childhood memory, or even a new place you can go to relax. I visual a beach home and alittle grove just outside where I go to lay and look at the ocean. Breathing is important. Slow soft breathing can help minimize the anxiety. Exercise can help too. Hope it gets better for you.
1 person likes this
• Lippstadt, Germany
2 Jul 11
thanks a lot for getting back to me. I hope so too that things will get better here but the meds are not kicking in (yet) and if its not better in a months time I will go back to the Dr. and talk with him about what to do next.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jul 12
I hope you get this behind you. Hopefully the doctor will have something useful.
1 person likes this
@Ag1220 (12)
• United States
30 Sep 11
Anxiety is terrible, it makes me feel like I cannot even function. When I quit smoking I had terrible anxiety. I was literally scared with no reason to be. I'd even keep telling myself i shouldn't be panicking but that did not help at all. I just had to lay on my bed in the dark and take deep breaths.
3 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Oct 11
I have been there. It is very hard to take.
1 person likes this
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Jul 11
Personally I know I have a lot of Social anxiety and many times that keeps me from being able to reach out and talk with others like I would want too. There is always the Fear of rejection and people thinking I am not worth wanting to be around, or thinking I am stuck up. Many times though it does get the Better of me and makes me want to disappear or wish it was them going thru the things I am dealing and fighting with.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Jul 11
I do too. Causes me alot of headaches. With your medical problems it must be a terrible thing to put up with.
1 person likes this
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
4 Oct 11
I do have some anxiety issues in my life. But I've learned how to deal with them and manage them. I definitely am glad that I've got it under control for the most part. I still have some issues with it, but I'm working on it.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 11
That's great to hear!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Jul 11
i sure do. im the same way. i used to meet and greet and get aquinted with everyone. its the reason yrs. ago one of my cousins ask me and my son to move with her and stay. im so different these days. i dont like to get out of the house even for fear of having an attack of my dizziness or something going wrong with me and being in public or at someones house and cause a problem.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jul 11
I was never social. Always have been introvertive and shy. I would run in the house when the mail came. I look back and can see that I have had chronic depression since I was in my early teens. The anxiety started early too due to my shyness. It just grew over time and culmanated in my years of guardianship of my granddaughter. TROUBLE. Your dizziness could be caused by your medication. My daughter has that problem alot. She is only on four medications.
1 person likes this
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
6 Jul 11
There is no age limit to get anxiety. It is a different emotion. We don't know that we are getting anxiety. To know our interesting thing or to know about our loved ones, we get anxiety. I used to get anxiety upto few years back. But now i am fully stable. I am giving full importance to be patience. Being patience is a great thing by this we will live peacefully.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 11
Yes, to be patient and just let things flow over you. And not worry. All good things to do. But, for some, easier said than done.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jul 12
And being positive is not always easy.
1 person likes this
• India
7 Jul 11
we can understanding in many ways, but have to think in positive way....
2 people like this
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
i have also but i know how to change and divert my mind. Coz if i keep on focusing on my anxiety it will ruin my day and my mood. So divert do things that will distruct on what trigger it..
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jul 11
I can usually divert the anxiety unless it is too fully blown.
1 person likes this
@nicki320 (34)
• China
2 Jul 11
Of course, everyone has anxiety and stress in their daily life. For me, extremly, I am a sensitive person which means I can be easily influenced by people's words and actions and then triggered anxiety. I force myself to get up early to study and it becomes quite natural for my to get up on time everyday, dont'even have to use a alarm clock. Well, sometimes I feel sad for not being able to sleep late...But you know what, the fact is that Im lazy so I usually procrastinate troubles that have been done which causes more anxiety. And I still can't find the solution to it. My friend suggested me to find another life principle. I don't often show it, so most people think Im a have-no-worry happy person. Sometimes Im over perky in front of person, but I don't think I pretend it, just need a different way out.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jul 11
Yes stress does enter most of our lives. I am also very sensitive. Its hard. I used to pretend but I think it just adds to the stress.
1 person likes this
@jomzdsign (184)
• India
16 Jul 11
evrybody is same as u...in a less or far more greater manner...i also hav the experice of urs and till this time didn't managed to confrnt it...but we cnt escape from this world bcz of this..try and try..
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Jul 11
I guess so. You must keep trying.
@prokat (229)
10 Oct 11
I also have some anxiety I guess it's only natural, but how where the handle yahh of course with the confidence we do not need to be ashamed will it because I think no man is so very perfect in the world in. confidence is important....^___^
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Oct 11
A certain amount is normal in this day and age. When it becomes overposering is when it can be unhealthy.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
1 Jul 11
Thankfully, i don't have alot of anxiety in my life anymore & that's great. I sure use to but glad that has passed.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jul 11
You are a very lucky woman. Try living with two bi-polar woman and a young boy with anger issues. Fun.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Jul 11
I can honestly say that I myself have developed the same type of anxiety due to the same exact reason.. "weight gain". I avoid any type of event to where it could be possible that I may cross paths with someone I knew in highschool or during those years. I am the same way I have a great fear that because of all the weight gain they will look at me different. I used to be very social throughout middle school and the begining of highschool but after the sudden weight gain due to antidepressants and anticonvulsion medication I was taking I was literally trying to avoid all social events or encounters so that I would not have to deal with all the bad vibes and weird looks. After I had my daughter I was even more antisocial than ever!! I have had anxiety for years since I was a child and the way i control it now is by simply taking natural GABA (600 mg) which is the component needed to have my anxiety controlled through my nervous system without having to take all of the crazy medications they have given me in the past just CALM is the way I am after intaking it.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jul 11
What if these people you knew in highschool have put on afew themselves? I worry about how people percieve me too. Especially the little man in my life. My grandson. I talked to my doctor about my anti-depressants. One of the side effects is hunger increase and weight gain. She said that there is only one that doesn't make you gain weight. It is wellibutrin. And wellibutrin is like poison for me. It makes me have more anxiety. My daughter is the same way. Weird, huh? My doctor has me journalling about my anxieties and what triggers them most. Might help you as well. I have had anxiety for years too. Just not as many triggers and not as bad until the last few years. GABA huh? I might look into that myself. There are several natural herbs to take but always so expensive I guess I got used to the easy route of the meds that are paid for with my medicare. Well, good luck and thanks for your input.
1 person likes this
• India
14 Feb 13
Thanks for sharing, yes i do have my friend. Anxiety, stress, sadness are part of our life just like happiness and contentment lol. HAPPY VALENTINE DAY.
2 people like this
@febrigas (362)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 11
Yes, i've had some anxiety, One of which is the emotion of anger. Someone who is angry it is often difficult to control his senses. But after closer to God, I became more able to control the emotion of anger to something positive, not the emotion of anger to something negative. God Bless You :D
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jul 11
Anger can be a red devil that is for sure. Very negative. Hope that with your Gods help you can keep it at bay.
1 person likes this
• United States
1 Jul 11
I dealt with anxiety until I got the a-ha moment. This moment came when I truly realized and believed that I cannot control even half the things that my anxieties and fears made me expect myself to be able to control. You cannot control who you please or displease, who you make happy or unhappy, etc. These things would require you to be able to control other people's feelings and perceptions and that is not possible! The only person you can control is you. You have to accept yourself. You have to validate yourself. You have to approve of yourself. Until you do those things, you will always fear other people's perception of you. Knowing what I like about myself helped a lot. At first, it was almost impossible to make a list of things I like about myself. Now, I can tell you ten things right off the bat. I like that I wear cartoon socks, laugh heartily, say "goodness" after laughing, try new things, make up songs, am willing to laugh, sing into hairbrushes, etc etc. You get the point. Knowing and developing my own interests led me to meet people with the same interests. When you can make friends you are compatible with, it makes social situations less stressful. Until you get a handle on your anxiety, take a friend along. A good, supportive friend. Not the kind that will ditch you for "cooler" friends or compete with you. If you have bad friends, let them go. You'll find that they were contributing to the problem. A good friend lets you be you. There is only one you in the whole universe. ONE. You are valuable and worthy of approval simply because you are who you are. You don't need to seek it out.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jul 11
The personal issues I have are little compared to the issues that my daughter, granddaughter and grandson put down on me. Bi-polar disorder is no fun to deal with. And my grandson's anger issues are horrid sometimes. Emotions and irresponsibility on their part has caused for alot of financial, family, personal, accademic problems and the list goes on and on. WIsh I did have a friend that lived here. Mine lives in another state. It is not really my issues that are the biggest of the problems. Kids. Gotta love them! It is good to know that you are able to find this way of looking at things. It must be a great comfort to have this personal way of looking at things.
1 person likes this
• Brazil
1 Jul 11
With time, I've learned how to live with my social anxiety, how to not let it ruin my life, and turns out that if you know how to handle it, social anxiety makes you have a new perspective of the world; you become more careful with the choices you make, you don't make a fool of yourself, because you're always aware of what the risks you're willing to take, this fear of the unknown can make you always choose for the best for your life.
2 people like this
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jul 11
I think that is a very positive way of looking at a very negative plague in life.
1 person likes this