Don't you think life would be easier after married??

As for me my life became happier when I got married. And not only happier but I became more well provided and secured. But of course it has given me a lot of obligations and tasks as a mother and wife. It was not really easy but I found it enjoyable and fulfilling. Nevertheless, what is true to me can't be true to all. I've seen marriages which resulted negatively. It is most likely because of wrong choice of partner. So singles out there, be careful about choosing your partner in life.

Life after marriage can be difficult, and can be easy. All, depending on how we adapt. Of course, after marriage, there are many responsibilities that must be considered. Maybe at the beginning of marriage, it will feel easier. But, after running some old marriage, it might be difficult. I hope that your marriage life will be easy to live.

Because of the way the mind works, if you look back through your life, I think you will find that most happy episodes weren't forever. There are many times when people say for instance, "when I get married I will be happy" and happiness comes for a while, but then everything goes back to feeling the same again. Not only marriage, but it is said, "When I get a new home, I'll be happy" and "when I get to be older, I'll be happy", "when I get a family, I'll be happy"... As a Zen practitioner, I recognized that these are like tricks of the mind as happiness does not come from outside people or events, but from within and we need to stop looking for it, because whilst we look for it, it hides from us. Here and now is the only moment we have, and here and now is the source of contenment, trying to change things is trainging the mind to be discontent with what we have in the here and now. And it will just obey our wishes. When we drop our wishes, then we know instinctively what to do and we are then happy as everything will work out fine.. _Derek

I actually thought that life would be easier after I got married, but to be honest with you, things didn’t seem easier to me. At times, things actually seemed harder. I guess marriage affects different people in different ways, but to me it seemed to complicate things more. I was married for ten years, and I have recently separated from my wife and moved back to my hometown. I have to say that my life is A LOT less stressful now than it was when I was married. I now live in my dad’s house, and I help him pay bills and buy groceries. I have actually started talking to a couple of women as well, and I have been on a couple of dates also. I go to work, and I come home. I very little stress in my life, and I am happier now than I have been in several years. So, for now at least, single life is a lot better for me. I DID enjoy being married for the first five years or so, but things seemed to go downhill after that. Marriage certainly has its good points, and I wouldn’t be opposed to getting married again if I found someone who caught my eye in that way again, but it will likely be several years before I start to think about that again. For now, I just want to enjoy the single life and make up for the time I lost with my dad while I was living in another state…

Don't take me wrong my friend because people go through things differently. If you talk about finances, it may be easier it maybe not depending on how you handle money. Marriage does not mean easier lives just because you see both as one..but it can be if you know how to work it out and compromise. If you are also planning to have kids, then i could say it will be that easy.. it will be tough..but if you plan it, financially that then it might be easier for you. But if we talk about emotional stuff...marriage is a whirlwind of emotions, for me that is. It takes the whole out of me to understand my husband..it was never easy..but it is a matter of being strong and being able to understand and compromise and love that person you chose to. There is no easy way on things if you want real happiness, you will go through life's hurdles and everyone of it will be hard and painful... and marriage is not an escape to an easy life. But having a family is another joy for me..a different kind of happiness.

Marriage will be good, if we live it well. Not easy as imagined, but every couple should try to make it easy. Sometimes sacrifice is required in marriage. I felt, how hard it is undergoing a wedding, there are many problems to overcome. Hopefully, if you are married, your marriage life happy, and are allowed if the given problem.

well some things are easier after marriage we share the burdens, but also more contribution to finance and decision making but conflict will always happen, it's also part of life I hope the best for your marriage life

With good communicate and a keen sense of committment marriage can be a very good union. It is alot easier to make it on two incomes instead of one. It is up to two people to make it thought. It depends on two people and how they work together. I hope you wil be very happy and that this union suits you well.

Of course there are ups and downs about it. I haven't been married myself yet, but I had purposely put it off to observe and now that I'm ready I won't get the chance. Oh well, from what I observe sometimes it's rough to get used to actually being married certain freedoms are no longer there. But, on the up side you have someone to be there next to you through the good times and the bad. You don't have to worry about getting diseases anymore from not being careful enough. If both partners are faithful you have the freedom of marriage to really enjoy yourself. Money can get tight when you have to worry about bills with another person... but in my country there are tax breaks for the married couple. Another good thing about marriage is that if one of the partners served in the military their spouse gets to enjoy the benefits of being the spouse of the veteran even if it they weren't married at the time of service. (This last is why I think my boyfriend is just plain stupid not to ask me to marry him. Lol). If both partners aren't on the same page about having children it might cause problems. But, if both partners are on the same page but are having infertility issues that can cause problems. If both partners are on the same page and produce a child of their love for each other then it is a beautiful thing and can help the marriage be stronger (I said if they are both on the same page about that one... it can make it weaker if they accidentally make a child and aren't on the same page about it.) I can't really say that it's love that holds a marriage together. Because sometimes couples are not feeling the love. It's commitment that holds it together. And if both partners are totally committed to each other and making the marriage work you can pretty much throw all the bad things about marriage out the door because committed couples turn those negatives into positives... and keep the love alive.

Life will be hard after you marry. But it will be hard in a different way. You have to work hard at learning how to be wife and husband. It is not easy. But it is worth it

What kind of life you will have after marriage will depend on how you two handles your married life. Trials and problems will always occur within your married life. Sometimes you will see your self fighting your husband. There is no perfect marriage but you can still have a beautiful married life if both of you learns how to compromise to each other. Remember that you have your own personality and he have his own. But it is not necessary to change your personality. You should just need to talk when problem arises and try to solve whatever problem that has risen. Have a nice married life.

I think it depends entirely on the couple; you have to know the positives, negatives, the quirks, and where you both want to go in life. My husband and I did decide to take our time in really getting to know one another before we married and I am glad I did because it has really 'paid off'. How? We're there for each other and we communicate often about our concerns and questions. We also know when to give each other space and when we need each other for support. I'm not saying that our marriage is a smooth ride as we do have the occasional bump as any couple would. The trick is to not let it get the better of you and to talk about it so it doesn't get any worse. Marriage is work and it does change over time so learn what the changes are and communicate often. If you are with the right person, then there is nothing to fear because they will take the time to understand you and your concerns. Be well!

Firs I must say that I am not married and I don't plan to take this step soon, but many of my friends are and I often ask them what has changed in their relationship after they got married. The most common answer is "nothing". I think that marriage doesn't affect true love and strong relationship is strong without marriage

I think, married life will be a lot complicated. It will all depend on the both of you.. If you will work it out every time you have a problem, its good.. But if not, it will make your married life complicated....

No, I definitely do not think this. Marriage is a partnership and so what you do affects the other person and our decisions are now not only our own. This can make things much more difficult. In some countries where women aren't allowed so many liberties, marriage could make things more simple, but generally, I do not think it does.

I think you and your boyfreind talk through more of what you expect after you get married! I never have been married but I know alot of people who are! Marriage is hard! Harder then you think! It is not easy and I hope you soon to be husband is supportive,understanding and you both what the same things in marriage! So many people rush into marriage and when they realize is wasn't what they thought it was,divorce! I know alot of older couples who have been married for years and you wonder how they do it! Then there are the older couples who stay together but are not happy together! You think "Why do they stay in this marriage"?. There are many different marriages and I hope you know what you are doing before you do get married!

Marriage is beautiful experiance. You are incomplete with out marriage. It is right that your obligation increase after marriage. But it is more charming to have a right one in the life. The person who care you, who love, who respect you. Marriage means both you accept each one with their qualities and shortcoming. We cann't eat always sweet. Some other taste is also must. So in marriage life some small conflicts are normal thing, it increase your love.

No one can really predicts or guess what our future will be once we get married.It will depend on how you and your partner manages your married life.Others prepare to enjoy being single first before agreeing to a commitment.What you are doing while your single will be different once you get married. Yes, it's true that once a couple get married they will be considered as one.So the problem of one concerns your partner too.It's a good idea too to continue your schooling even if your are married if you can afford it like maybe your husband to be have a good job that can support your family life.It's easy too to find work if you have a college degree.You can manage your life better if both of you have work. Thanks for sharing my friend.

Life will not be easier after marriage. You will have to be confronted with financial challenges and also the character of your spouse. Taking and making decision will never be solely yours, you have to be discussing with your partner to find out what he or she thinks. You have to decide whether to have a joint account or a personal account. In Africa where I come from, you are not only married to your spouse, but to his or her family. You have to visit your spouse family and then get to know them better. You have to do all you can to please your spouse family member so that they will see you as a good person. So I think it is not easy to do all this.

Hello redvakaurvaki, For me it depends on people how they take marriage people who escapes from responsibilities for them marriage is not good.Because marriage is a bond where you have to carry some more responsibilities which you were not having before marriage if you are male then you have one more person added to your family after your parents for whom you need to spend money.If you have child after marriage then the responsibilities still increases & for females they have lot of house hold chores which were not there before marriage. Also there should be understanding.faith,love between the partners to make marriage easier & good.