Is it rude to ask for a woman's age?
By bhonti
@bhonti (1246)
Philippines
July 1, 2011 10:59am CST
Just wondering if is it rude to ask for a woman's age? I have heard it is? i'm thinking why? and why is it only for female? why is it okay to ask for a man's age? And if you really really need to know why, how do you ask for a woman's age in the most polite non offending way?
Just wondering,,,
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25 responses
@AishaBR (345)
• United States
1 Jul 11
i don't see the problem in asking but then again i'm only 20. Maybe when I get older I may see it different but I think if a woman is secure with herself it shouldn't be a problem for you to ask her how old she is rather than you just trying to guess her age.
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@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
1 Jul 11
The exactly reason I don't know too. But, I know that most of the womens that I know doesn't like to say their ages, maybe because they feel old and doesn't want to others to find out about that. I have 23 and I already don't like to say my age when people asks.
Maybe a way to you ask for a woman's age is asking indirectly, asks in which year she was born instead of how old she is.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Here in my country,it is never been rude to asks a woman's age.
I wonder why and how it become to rude to asks someone's age eh?
There is nothing wrong with it,besides you will never asks someones age if you don't know that person right?
If my friend or a common friend will asks my age..it's not a big deal,i wouldn't mind.
It's just my age..I will think bad of a friend or a common friend will asks how much do I have in my bank account...that's none of their business
have a great weekend and welcome to mylot
@ShaNichole (66)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I think it depends on the woman. I personally do not care, but, as some women get older, it offends them. With that said I don't think that there is right way to ask a woman without the possibility of her being offended. But, why do you need to know anyway... does her age change things?
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@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
nah, I don't think so. Asking for someone's age is not meant to be rude, but is supposed to be a starting point for you to get to know that someone. Just be sure that your intentions are clean, and not be too rash on your way of asking.
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@angie20 (191)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
It's not rude to ask for a woman's age. It is because its a part of getting to know more phase. After all, you don't want to be fool talking about things that woman is not really interested into. We must admit it that age really matters especially in a conversation or any forms of socialization. And having a full grasp of the age of the woman truly helps. You will have better ideas how to deal with her the next time you bump on each other again. Ask sincerely and truthfully, I think no one will take that as an offense.
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@shaggin (72148)
• United States
2 Jul 11
I've never understood why women get upset about being asked their age. I also dont understand why they lie about it either. I dont have a problem telling people that I am 27. When I'm 40 I'm sure I wont have a problem with that either. I've always looked older... when I was 15 people thought I was atleast 18... I'm 27 and I think I look a lot older :( Oh well nothing I can do.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
3 Jul 11
In our society, many women are really... uptight... conscious of their age. Ironically, it doesn't matter which way.
If you ask a young girl, she is offended because she thinks you think she is too young to talk to her. If you ask an older girl, she thinks you are saying she is too old to talk to.
I actually use the "age question" as a tool to determine if I want to talk with you. Not because you are too old, or too young. Rather, I want to know if you are too offended. If you get all upset because I asked you your age, then I don't want to talk to you.
lol
Men do not have this problem. We don't care about age so much. I'm old, I know this. I don't care. Not a big deal to men.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
maybe that is part of us being a woman, we are complicated and insecure at times. I just hope that most women will not get to affected with the media telling that younger looking body is more desirable. They must realize that its not only the outside that matters but also the personality. As you have said, you wouldn't want to talk to someone who gets easily offended by age question.
Thanks for your opinion! :)
@hdc4free (260)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I do not like it when people ask my age or weight, especially people I don't know very well. Maybe it's sexist but everywhere in the media these days it feels like for women it is better to look & be younger and when you are over 30 sometimes you feel old or sensitive about your age. And why would you "really need to know" anyway unless you are her doctor or insurance agent or something?
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@ClassyLady1 (109)
• United States
2 Jul 11
Well, dear ones, I am just a few months over 70. I often have been told, "You don't look like ... " I am not offended by one asking my age - I have lived a good life full of adventures and am still making memories and having adventures. I feel that the 'being rude to ask a woman's age' comes from times when women were ashamed of their age for one reason or another - for instance, there was a time when if a girl/woman was over 16 and unmarried, she was considered an "old maid". Those times are obsolete now; times have changed and one should be proud of their accomplishments.
For example, I started driving a semi-tractor trailer rig cross country AFTER I became a grandma! I drove for seventeen and a half years; now, I still 'truck' as I live and travel in my 31' 5th wheel travel trailer. Still having adventures and making memories.
Go ahead, ask a woman her age, doing so in a cordial conversation should not be considered rude.
I don't have any insight into the other side of the coin - but I do not hesitate to ask men their age either whether they appear older or younger than me.
@ClassyLady1 (109)
• United States
9 Jul 11
I would like to add a thought which I have every time someone says, "You don't look ... ." I have often thought, 'What am I supposed to look like?' Then I wonder if all the women in their families or friends, etc., are 'old' looking. ;-) Just a thought.
Thank you, bhonti, for the nice response.
A heart attack took me off the road as a long haul driver and I have been trying for a healthier life style since then - but there is nothing I can do about inheriting the heart and artery problems from family history - just know how to watch it now and try to keep it under control!
Just keep on 'thinking young' and you will be able to live your life to the fullest and enjoy every minute of it. Oh, and BTW, I have great grands (though they be step-great grands) - my oldest grandson is more than old enough to have made me a great grandma, he is 29, but hasn't settled down with a woman yet. My granddaughter is 19, but has no interest in being married and having little ones yet. My youngest grandson is now 15 and quite the ladies man, but hopefully will be more like his older brother - the 29 year old.
Just hang in and don't let anyone tell you that you are 'too old' to do whatever you choose to do with your life.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
i admire your confidence and even in your age, i figure you are still strong, and you are living a healthy and happy life. Maybe that is why people are saying that you don't look your age..
I hope I can be like you, to live life to the fullest and still be confident and happy even when I already have my grandbabies..
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
2 Jul 11
Hello bhonti,
i have not tried it but i know most of the woman get irritated when they aksed for their age.
If a woman is really old say if she is 40~45 yeras i think she don't want to reveal that she is 40~45 years she will always want to be 30 years old in front of others reason i don't know. May be she thinks people will ignore her if she tells her actual age this is my guess ladies please don't take it seriously.
May i will have to ask my wife for more clarity.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
2 Jul 11
I do not think 40 - 45 is old, but then I have just turned 55. These days we live to our 80's and that is old, 40 is simply half way. Women want to stay under 30 because they are brainwashed into believing that women who get old as 'letting themselves go'. It is called the beauty myth and is pushed by makeup companies and all the people who make money out of anti-ageing products etc.
There is a great book on the subject called "The Beauty Myth'. I never bought into the whole beauty thing. I like natural and I hate makeup. The only thing I hate about old age is the declining health, the aches and pains and the bad sleep. Such is life. I prefer the term ageing gracefully and so does my partner. He tells me that a lot of men actually do not like makeup although they do not mind small amounts. I could never understand the whole idea of putting a face on at all.
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
2 Jul 11
Hello sharra1,
Its is really great that unlike other woman you don't like make ups and like to be natural.
I dislike ladies who think that if their actual age is revealed it will let them down. This is sick mentality as you are just making fool of yourself only by hiding your age.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
I dont' think rude is the word. I really mind if anyone --even relatives ask for my age.
@namccull1 (33)
•
1 Jul 11
ii think it depends on the age of the woman lol. If she is under 30 it is ok but if she looks older i would avoid it lol..trust me i hate it!!!
@Zaphan (710)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
depends on how she looks too! sometimes woman wants that a guy or other people notices her look.
@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
I think because for men, there's nothing wrong about being old? I guess when a man is already aging there's nothing wrong because it's not really hard for men to find a partner while in women it's harder to find a partner as a woman is expected to not make the first move that's why many women grow old single.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
i guess it's rude for both men and women. Sometimes it may depend upon the woman's age or status. If a woman is single and beyond marriageable age, she may consider it rude if she will be asked of her age. But teeners won't mind. There are also men who don't want to be asked of their age.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jul 11
It doesn't bother me when someone asks me my age. Most people say I look so young for my age and that doesn't bother me anymore either. I know other people think it is rude, not sure why but it doesn't bother me at all... =) Everyone has to get older, right? It's not something anyone can help or change. Now if you asked her weight, she would get more angry. And that, I think would be a little rude too.
@sadafsakhawat (133)
• Pakistan
2 Jul 11
no it is not rude to ask the womens age....but women do hesitate telling their age........that what is wrong....you should tell what you are....
@readandtell (31)
• India
2 Jul 11
i think women just hype it up..keep fit, maintain urself and you wont have to worry about ur age. I for one like mature women who maintain themselves.. :P