your reaction if your teen age daughter says she is pregnant?
By janebernal
@janebernal (274)
Philippines
July 1, 2011 6:47pm CST
I am a mother of one teen age girl now she is 12 yrs old.There are times that it comes up in my mind that what if one day she will come to me and says.."mom im pregnant in her early teen age life" we have to accept the fact that theres a lot of early pregnancies now..just thinking of it it really makes me crazy ..I really dont know how to react or maybe blaming myself that Im not a good mom?is this can be measured that its your failure if your daughter got pregnant at her early stage of life?Im very confident that my daughter wont give such surprise to me and which Id been praying for her safety and her future..hows your first reaction if your young daughter would surprised like this?how you will cope with that?
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10 responses
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
2 Jul 11
Hi Janebernal, if this is heavy on your mind I think you should sit down and talk to your daughter about this. Maybe God is putting this on your mind for a reason. Not saying that it is on your daughter's mind but it will put your mind at ease somewhat. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk about this. Explain to her how boys will put things in her head just to get what they want out of her. Teenage pregnancy is happening a lot in this day and time. I will also put your daughter in my prayers. Have a blessed day.
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@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
2 Jul 11
My daughter is only 3 and I already think about the what ifs. I hope I can teach and guide her properly but no matter how good of a parent(s) you are teen pregnancies can happen.If a teen gets pregnant doesn't mean your a bad parent the teen just made a bad choice. I can't call it a mistake since no baby is a mistake. It's hard to know how one is going to react if their daughter came home said their pregnant unless your put in that situation. But I think i would be shocked and probably mad but I would stand by my daughter and help her as much as I could so she could finish her education. I don't believe in abortion so I would definitely discourage her from doing that since there's other choices such as adoption.
@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
Im happy for your response, i do agree with you too im not in favor for abortion too, its a blessings because not all are given a chance to have a baby same here il stand to my daughter no matter what thru thick and thin il be on her side..at first its shocking but its will just fade away your love to ur daughter will always remain in your heart..time is so fast my dear later u will know ur 3 yr old its already a teenage girl..thank you enjoy ur daughter while at that age..
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
I have two girls, 19 and 20. I suppose I am past the problem you posed. I couldn't offer any answer but tell mothers to be there always for their daughters. If your daughters see how you love them, they will never go wrong.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
For me I shock for a minute and said to my self they know what she said or they know what the responsibility tackle it I was discipline my daughter and I would go for her boyfriend I will not tolerate his doing.
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
I am also a mom of a teenager, 13yrs old. If that happens, hopefully not, It would be painful for me as a mom but eventually I'll try to accept the fact one day at a time. I'll accept her and support her all the way because it's not the end of the world for her, it's just a new beginning. Besides, her life will not end just because she
's pregnant, everybody makes mistakes in their life. Accept the fact, move on, and let her study again after giving birth. Continue to build her dreams again.
's pregnant, everybody makes mistakes in their life. Accept the fact, move on, and let her study again after giving birth. Continue to build her dreams again.@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
yes i do agree with you maybe if it happened I wont let her stop schooling I will support her till she finished her degree so she can continue her dreams well it happened for a reason but of course at first u will be hurt and shock.but we have to continue loving and understanding our kids..thanks for ur response my dear..
@hardworker1972 (311)
• United States
5 Jul 11
I have 3 girls of my own. I am so very blessed that none have come up pregnant. We did have a scare with the 2nd daughter and I think it scared her so badly that she is now way away from that lifestyle and group of "non" friends that led her down that path.
I know that I have thought about this and pray boy do I pray it doesn't happen. But I know that I couldn't turn her away. I would be very disappointed I am sure, but my love would not stop.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Jul 11
I would be torn and so hurt, but somehow find the strength to be able to make some future decisions. Being that she is so young one has to remember that life does go on and it is our job as the responsible parent to not further any more issues. There are some that would help raise the baby, while other will terminate and or give up for adoption.
I thankfully did not experienced this as my daughter is past teenage years. Had it happened I would again be torn but somehow find the strength to help her with the future.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
well i think at first i don't know what to do,but it is not that i am not a good mother to my daughter.
As far as i know when you do a lot of things to your children, gave them proper guidance, take care of them sure thing they will not surprise you with that word "mom i am pregnant".
Being a mom i know it is hard because i saw all the things my mom did to me and to my siblings. I can say she is the best mom in the whole galaxy
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jul 11
I think my first reaction would be to cry if my daughter told me that, I'm emotional though lol. I think all children will do things that we as parents have always told them is not a good idea. I don't think that makes us bad parents. I would lose my mind if that happened though I really would!
@AishaBR (345)
• United States
2 Jul 11
Omg I always ask myself this question. I don't have a daughter but I always put myself in this situation just in case I get a daughter. I think I would have a crazy reaction. I would probably do what mother did to my sister, kick her out the house. Send her to live with the guy that got her pregnant. If they want to do grown up thing then they needs to take responsibility for there actions and get their own place and take care of that child. Or if I do let her stay in my house I will make her get a job immediately so she can save up her money to support that child.I will still love her but I will have to show her tough love at the same time. And I would do the same if my son was to get a female pregnant.
