How helpful is the "dating" for judging a true lover for marrying

It might sound a little weird but I am 30 years old, have had several relationships over the years but never actually "dated" anyone. I think once you're in a serious, exclusive relationship the word "date" takes on a whole new meaning. When you are in a relationship, it's less of a "date" and more just spending time together. "Date" implies that you take extra time to get dressed up, pick a special place with the intent of impressing the person you are with, have awkward conversation HAHAHA But to answer your question, I firmly believe that a person knows when they have found "The One". It's not something that I can describe, and believe me, I have tried because I have a friend who asks me about once a month how she will know. It's just one of those things where you think you've found it, think you've found it, think you've found it and then one day you figure out, all those times before were just false alarms because now you know you've found it. At least, I think that answered your question...LOL

Hi Mindrevolution, I would say its a understanding between two people. Dating is getting know each other better, their likes dislikes and the developing the confidence of accepting each other to live longer togther. It involves spending time together and sharing most of their good and bad together.Cheers!

I just had a look at profile.Wanted to know how old are you.Because i had same view when i was in teenage.Those are changed now after 10 years. These things are very much complex.You will discover answers after having one or two relationships or after marriage if you do arrange marriage.

For me it can help if they date not only by them but for a group because lesser the effect of divorce and that's not good effect when the day come you are married then after all not exited.

I'm not so sure if dating really helps that much in making the marriage last. I met dome people who dated for 9 years, got married and after two years they separated. My mother-in-law believes that couples should move in together to find put if they really love each other to withstand each others' personality. She said that when couples live together, that's when their real personality come out, thus if couples clash they can separate without having to go through the tedious process of separating legally. On the other hand u believe that it takes the effort of two couples to make the marriage work regardless of how long they have dated before. They should manage to stay in love and not only to love each other.

Dating can start of the process of judging whether a person can be your potential partner for life or not. Although only dating can't be enough to reach to a conclusion about that because finding whether he/she loves you truly or not is not that easy. In dating you may try to evaluate that person from different perspectives like how compatible he/she is with you, what are your likes and dislikes. But you may never know how he may react when you both together may face real world challenges. So i think only dating is not enough, falling in true love and finding you love should involve more that casual dating.

Hi mindrevolution, Good thing you've open this discussion, you're probably right so many marriages are broken now, divorced and annulled. I hate hearing those break upp issues, I just wish every partner had a better relationship.Their kids are in full mess and hurt feelings. I know no one could ever erase those memories of their parents being broken. I thank God for my parents didn't have their separation until my dad lost his last breath. And with the dating process, i totally love dating stage it makes u giggle evry time you've found great attributes your mate has. When you're dating be sure to look on your best and be totally sweet to your mate. And be yourself, expressing your true identity makes the relationship even better. When me and my boyfriend had our dating stage we're on playing games at WORLD OF FUN we enjoy each others company and forget about the time, we end up really happy upto now we still reminisce the good times we had,. How i love every second being with him . :) Dating stage must be really romantic and fun for your relationship to last long. :)