How do women think of their lazy man???

Hi, jacklintan, As someone who believes that the male member of a household should not necessarily be the sole provider, I would not determine a husband/partner's "laziness" using that criterion. I believe that women have as much of a right and obligation to provide for their families as men do, so a woman's handling financial issues or earning more money than her husband/partner does not reflect on the husband's/partner's ability to provide for his family in my eyes. Also, I believe that it is a woman's job to decide whether her partner will be good for her in the long run or not before she becomes committed to him, just as much as it is a man's job to decide the same thing about his partner. Granted, it is not always easy to determine a person's capability, but if the woman has observed laziness in the past, she should have a good idea of what her partner will be like in the future. Finally, what do you mean by the husband not "earning as much as [he] should"? Do you mean that the husband is not trying hard enough at work and is therefore being docked pay, or do you mean that he is not making enough money to suit his wife? Sometimes, it is very difficult to climb the proverbial ladder in one's profession, and some people will never get further in their careers than where they are today, no matter how much they would like a higher salary. Any income is better than no income, after all.

What to do? I can only blame myself for choosing such a man to be husband and suffer silently. Most of the time we only found out after some years of togetherness. My husband is such person, he is religious, everything he count on God, he said God has His way for him. What else can I said?? He work only occasionally, he don't like commitment. He drive an old junk and he cannot afford to buy us a small decent house. My opinion to all women is before you get married, do get to know your partner really really well before commit to marriage. Like me, if I ask for divorce, everyone will think is all my fault that I am materialistic !

@jacklintan I notice nowadays in my country, many couples are working too. Maybe the role for woman and man has changed? Woman used to be housewife and man is the sole provider. If the man not working then no money to feed his family. Nowadays, woman is also a provider to food and housing installment, car installment, etc. Why man is lacking its power? Or is it a necessary for woman to work to survive? If yes, what's the point of getting married in the first place? This really make me think twice about getting marry.

I think that I have a lazy man. He takes forever to get a job, and claims that he is searching but in reality he hardly ever applies for anything. I will sit online for a long time finding job applications for him to take, but he will not apply to anything that I find for him, despite the fact that he has searched for jobs which were similar in the past. Also, when he is at home, he hardly ever tidies his flat. I have told him that I will not be moving in with him until he shows to me that he can keep his home neat and tidy, because I don't want to have to do everything despite the fact that I am working at the same time. Just because I work from home earning money online, he thinks that he is better than me and that my job is not real- when in actual fact mine takes more hours and certainly more effort to complete.

Hi Jackie I currently do not have a "lazy partner" lol far from it as he is as hardworking as me. Though he does not earn a whole lot he is quite a go getter. If I had such a person in my life it would be difficult for me as I am one who go gets all the time. I would try and encourage how he had to at least do his fair share, if all else failed really not sure what the relationship would mean. I would try and help in whatever way possible to motivate and perhaps try and have him see how I alone cannot do it all. I do understand that some while trying can't succeed but the point is one must try especially if healthy and able. A family barely can make it on one income these days as it does take two these days to make it work.

How this "lazy man" comes about? Most men find it hard to work under someone else. They either want to be a professional or their own Boss. So usually those who can't achieve that would turn to be a lazy man. So, what's the point of getting married to a man who can't provide for the family? It would certainly be a headache for us women when it's time to pay the bills and probably this kind of relationship would lead to lots of arguments. What more, I have to let him sleep with me and yet get nothing out of it when he gets all the satisfaction? He'll either go get a job or he can get out of my life for good. Well, that's just my opinion about lazy man. So, make sure you find one who is financially secured before getting married.

jacklintan boy oh boy in this economy if a person has a job one must not ever be lazy as if you lose it because of laziness you may not get another job for months. I am a widow but when my husband acted a little lazy I would as him if he wanted to do the dishes and clean up the kitchen. wow did that get him to do the chores I had asked him to do a week before.but as a whole when he worked he worked hard running a garden and landscaping service and he did do well at it too; I think if I had had a really lazy man who would not work I would call a divorce attorney and file for divorce as I would not work so a lazy bones could loaf at home while I worked. no way.

For me if they don't gave money to support them.

I am not a woman to be honestly, but if you are in a relationship with a woman, from my past experience, man's role usually is a provider. They should go out there work, and provide bread to the table. Meanwhile, I think woman quit whining too much, because I understood some of their men are doing their best out there, but it is tough to get a job. They did try, but they just out of luck, that is all. Do give them some support, and less stress at home. That might help your men a lot easier.