Why speak when you won't be heard?

That's one of the reason why some people think I don't know much, or that I don't say anything. It's because I already know that I won't be heard. Or that I wouldn't be listened to anyway, so why waste the effort. But in relationships, if someone has to reward himself for just listening, then I seriously think there is something wrong!

I say.....did you hear what I said....and if they say yes I ask them to repeat it....I want to make sure I am heard. I wouldn't abandon what I was trying to say if they weren't listening....I make sure they hear it!

For me yes you don't speak if you don't know what the thing's would be because you night wrong in conversation.

I would not speak to the people who don't respect me.If we are ignored then we can ignore them.Next time,when they try to speak something to you.You can just walk away without any emotion.Do unto others when we would have them do unto to us.

Well, I listen even when I am not listening. I just have that habit. I am the one that does not feel heard. Or I should say the one that did net feel heard. Now I have my girlfriend and we get along like we are the same person. But listening is one of the things I do well. I see and hear everything that is going on.

i don't think commercial are the best media to get an education... the only purpose of commercial is to sell product, nothing else... so just because the commercial portray a man who didn't listen to what a woman said doesn't mean that the real life is like that. In real life i see some men try to talk to his wife not to spend money on things they don't need but the one who didn't listen is the woman.

If a guy doesn't listen to me, I send him on his way because he doesnt deserve me.

:) I believe that is human nature. Even when you know you have a disease that cannot be cured, you try to get it cured. I think it is in human nature to keep trying especially if the person desperately wants to do it. I think we all have our thresholds beyond which we will not endure any person. So I am myself shocked to see a person rewarding himself for listening to wife for 5 seconds. But, probably that is something that is overstated and not the reality. Cheers! Ram

I am with you here.There is no point wasting ones breath and expending ones energy if the person one you are talking to does not have the decency to listen to you.If a person starts doing something wlse when i am trying to talk to him the i would just shut up and walk away.

I think that a lot of women are ignored when they are trying to speak to their partner. It is unfair because we are always expected to listen to them, and they would be annoyed if we began to ignore everything that they said to us. If my boyfriend started to do this to me, I would definitely have a lot to say about it and I would make sure that he listened to me in the future. As women, we deserve respect, and this is not always forthcoming from our partners. But they may not realise this, and sometimes we have to have a conversation to ensure that we are actually heard.

I wouldn't like it if I wasn't listened too either. Too me..it is a sign of not caring.

Sounds like me when I am around friends who rather voice their opinion then listen to mine! I know this is gone off the discussion but I hate when people don't want to listen to me! I hate people when they don't take me seriously! That happened to me thursday night! I was at a bridal shower and some of my lady friends were their,too! I bring something up and all I got was critizm! I shouldn't of done this way! It might not be true! That is what I got! I am like,no wonder I have confidence problems! People,mostly woman,just don't care about my feelings and they only care about theirs! This is why I don't voice my opinion as much as I would like! That pisses me off and thanks for letting me vent!

I cannot say much about what you have in your content. With regard to the question, I could only say don't give up speaking. Who knows? Someday, some of those words may simply get to him. One way to know if he is listening or not is to suddenly switch to a subject he likes, then observe if there is a change in expression or mood. Could it be because the husband sees the wife as naggy, always harping on the same old stuff that he filters out all information in the first place? What about vice versa? Do the ladies listen to every word their husbands speak, even if those words drone on and on along the same theme?

Hello sarahruthbeth22, If i am talking and not being heard by my partner i will bring my face near to her face touch my nose to her nose and put my eyes in her eyes and will say" Hey where are you??? Are you lost in someone else am i getting old now??? hahaha

hi sarahruthbeth22, just like you, i would stop speaking. that commercial of a husband rewarding himself for listening to his wife for 5 seconds is so insensitive. I guess men who act this way should know that listening is a form of communication and one of the ways for a marriage or any relationship to succeed is know how to listen not only through your ears but through your heart as well. just my thoughts dear..take care and bless you always! lovemuch, faith210

Personally, I would never associate myself with anyone who wants to ignore what I have to say. If I have the respect for someone to allow them to express their views and opinions, or even just for small chit-chat, I deserve the same respect. Some people are just so rude. When someone deliberately ignores me, I just talk louder =]

It's annoying. I hate talking to people who do not pay attention to what I'm saying. It's insulting. I guess I'll just turn my back and walk away if it happens to me again.