Borrowing books and not returning..Isn't it annoying?

oh that is just annoying. i am a kind person and i lend my friends some stuffs i have even some cash when i have some extra. but when they disappoint me when they are not being considerate and don't give me stuffs back, i try not to lend them anymore. it is so annoying and frustrating because i spend some money for my stuffs and i take care of them because they are mine, but some people just don't know how to take care of them. they should even be more extra careful knowing it is not theirs but they just don't care just try not to lend your things anymore. i know being good to others and giving makes us even more happy but sometimes they also need to know their part.

It is indeed annoying. To prevent that, we actually put our bookshelf inside our bedroom, where people are less likely to enter. Well, we have another one in the living room but only books borrowed from the library and maybe some technical books and dictionaries are placed here. To date, we have not had any borrowings from anybody.

i feel the same way. i actually feel about that for all my stuff that i lend to others. not returning something that was borrowed from me is a big pet peeve of mine. if i were you, i'll take note who borrowed what books so you can keep track of the books you've lent to friends. you can put a date on it as well so you can see if the book has been with that particular friend longer than usual and then if it is, you can start to ask about it again. it sounds like, you'll be your own librarian but if that is one way to ensure that you get back the books that you've lent out, it'll be the route that i take. hope this helps. cheers!

I don't lend out my books for that exact reason. My ex-fiance kidnapped about $200 worth of books from me when we broke up so ever since then I've made it a rule that I don't lend out books.

Hello Kiran, some one have this habit. They do it because their lazy nature or due to negligency. I like read books too much. One of my known person, friend of my father, have good collection of books. I bring books from them but I return them. If I don't return them it may be possible he refuse me. So it is courtesy that we care book and return them in OK condition with in time.

This is why I hardly lend my books. I only lend them to people I know very well. Most of the times, I end up giving them the books instead. I'm very frugal and selfish when it comes to books because in the Philippines, there are no local libraries and books are expensive. I think that you should come up with a system of borrowing and lending just so you could keep track of your books. I love my books too and I'd hate it if I lost on to someone I could supposedly trust!

Hi Kiran! It is really very annoying when people do not return borrowed books. It is one of the bad habits. People show all kind of politeness and courtesy while asking for books, however, once they have done with, they forget to return it. You are right, it gets difficult to keep a track of books, means who borrowed which book. Books are our prized possessions and if people do not behave themselves, we should refrain from lending books to them. I always make it a point to return the borrowed books. I try not to borrow at the first instance, if I like a book, I better purchase it so that I could read the same at my leisure.

Hello Kiran, So far the only books I have shared with others have been in school, and I have gotten most of them back. It was especially annoying when this girl in grammar school borrowed my Sailor Moon album, which I spent a lot of money to fill with expensive stickers (for a young kid) and I actually got nagged about from my parents for lying in spending money on left to another town and never got in touch to bring it back.

I too have lost so many books this way. I remember when I used to get romance magazine and girlfriend saw a big stack I had and barrowed them. I am a person that saves things and I was saving my favorite stories. Now they don't even produce these magazines anymore. Long gone. She probably threw them away and could care less. I have let people barrow books too. I treasure my books and I tell people ahead of time just that. They are usually pretty good about getting them back to me now days because I will hunt them down if they don't and I think they know it.

I have discovered that my friends and family have borrowed most of the books I don`t have. I used to put my name in certain pages, but finally I accepted that, as they lent me books, I should just ask them if I needed them.

Hi Kiran! Yes, I feel the same too. I like reading books and have many collections. A few years ago my brother said he wants to borrow some of my collections and that's it. So I thought since it is just my brother so fine I will give some to lend to him. Then I waited for days and I did not get my books back. So I asked him and he said he asked me to wait ofor a while and he will get the books back. It puzzled because I thought he read the book for himself but he is actually RENT the books to his friends to raise fund for his club!!! It really makes me feel angry because he didn't say he used them to collect money while he actually should give some to me as I am the books provider but the most thing that I hate so much is the books condition. I give them the books in good condition so I expect them to return back in the same look like I give them first time. But it is not!! From that time and on I will only give my books to people who can appreciate it. For me myself, if I borrow others books I will make sure they know it and if I will return them late I will make sure I buy some books as gifts to them to say I am sorry.

Borrowing books and not returning them is extremely annoying! I should say "was" annoying, as I no longer loan my books out. Even dear friends, trustworthy friends, neglected to return books, "lost" them, whatever, so finally I said, "No more!" I really cherish every book I have and refer to them often, for self as well as in my writings. Books have always been my most trusted friends, so I'm keeping them all from now on.

You are right Kiran. I am also a lover of books. And has lost some valuable books initially in the process of lending to friends with ONLY ONE THING IN MIND while giving-- its that i wished them to enjoy the pleasure and knowledge which i enjoyed while reading. But later when those were not returned, and I could also not able to buy one as some of them were out of print like jonathan seagul, I completely stopped lending to friends. Of course I downloaded a pdf version and took printout of those treasures. LoL. :)

I really feel annoying if someone ask me about books and if I gives he/she and not return because I love study and I always care to my book. Friend should understand if work is complete then they should return it.

Yep... I have lost a lot of books from borrowers. I do not lend anything out anymore because of that. And I stay firm when people ask to borrow my things. TO me it is stealing to borrow something and never return it and it bothers me that people would take advantage of my kindness like that. But what really irked me is the people that would 'borrow' without asking and when I tried to get it back come up with really lame excuses about it.

Yeah,, a big annoying problem,, I stopped lending ANYTHING,you know what they do now, borrow from my son and daughter..my children do not mind, so these people started borrowing music,videos and I do not know what else they will do next.TERRIBLE ,they know that I do not insult them,,One day I might surprise them.

I am like you Kiran8, I treasure my books. I don't loan my books out to friends. The last book I loaned out was a book that showed how astrology was fake. I forgot who I loaned it to and so it is gone forever. It was a very good book. I've had friends loan me their books. I have a book about Thomas Jefferson's Black descendants. I still plan on taking it back. But I can't now since I live in Ohio and he lives in Michigan and I don't have a way to get there. But whether they plan on returning it or not, it is a risky move to loan them the book.

yes kiran ji.. you are right..it's really annoying.. but it's 90% human's nature if thay take anything they don't give it back unless he/she doesn't demand.. i think u should make a reminder note that who have borrow book from you and which book it will help you to find your book back. ;).. and don't forgot give the book back to original owener which you have borrowed..lolz... it's the human nature don't take it as annoying..

It's not only books but everything you have that is borrowed. I experienced that also and I was really frustrated. So what's my solution? I don't lend my fave books to those who have the habit of not returning. It's better to be honest to them than to be in a corner crying over the not returned item.

yup..juz dont like it when people borrow books and never return them... I always promise them that i will give the book and then later think of all the excuses that i could have made.. Like- "my sis is gonna read the book after me as i have already promised her.." :)