Her ex is back!

Love is always right because it came from God, just the wrong time and wrong persons. Whatever is the reason of your friend why he married her husband, still they are married. Too sad if they have kids. But with or without kids, she must stop seeing the ex because it is a sin. She's being unfaithful. If she really loves the ex, put everything in legal matters. Talk to the husband and be open. Have an annulment if she really wants to be with the ex. I think that's the best thing to do so that she can avoid to be in an adulterous relationship and once and for all, be with the person she loves.

This is just another story of impulsive decision. In the first place, why she has to get marry someone when she knew she still love her ex? Sorry if I have to be a little rude. Focusing on the question anyway, she has to handle the situation and do what is proper. It is true, she may still love the ex, but she already gave up because she cannot be with him. Worse, she is now married. Love is not a justification for her to do something immoral. If she loves the ex and the ex also loves her, and then what? She has to let the ex-bf go and move on as she is no longer available. As I said, their feelings is insufficient enough to continue an unfinished relationship. The thing is that, they already broke up...Tell her not to be selfish. If she is not married, then perhaps she can still accept him. But that was not the situation, right? They need to move on now because she is no longer free.

Looks to me that she has already made up her mind and she's only looking for a consolation that whatever action she's about to take is something that is justified. But I say, it's not. We may figure out things, we may try to understand her situation, but she is someone who doesn't deserve love. Even if you say that you were heart broken, even if you say that she never really loved him but why did she agree to marry the person if she believed in her heart that she didn't really love him? A woman like that doesn't deserve love. I pity the husband for wasting his time on someone who's selfish. I'd say go ahead and just leave. Tell the husband the real reason and expect nothing in return. She should be humiliated on herself for rekindling a past relationship that left her hurt - she will experience that hurt again one way or another.

All I can say is that the woman is married and that the past is past and should be left in the past. If there’s something wrong with the marriage then she should try hard to work things out first. If things really can’t be saved anymore then only she can consider the other relationship. But she should really think about it all before making decision. Maybe by comparing the two men and which one can make her happy.

She is in big trouble. She could not have them both. And i feel pity for her husband.. He seems good to love her but he was just someone that fill in the broken part her but will never be the remedy for her broken heart. But since she is married to him, she must be a good wife to him and make their family happy.. but if their relationship is really bad, then she could have divorce and be with her ex.. however, it still depends if her husband will let her go for her happiness... i can't really say anything but sorry for her husband..

This is wrong. After marrying she should not have talked to her ex boy friend. she should sever all connections. change phone no,. change address change email id etc. this is girl is at wrong.

Sounds as if she got married way to quickly without giving herself enough time to get over her ex. In all fairness, considering how she feels, I think that she needs to tell her husband the truth and get out of the marriage. It is not fair for him or to her to be stuck in a loveless marriage.

I actually feel bad for the husband. In this scenario, I can't help but think that the girl used him just so she won't feel lonely because she broke up with her ex. I'm sorry to say this, but that's just unfair for the husband who I bet loved her. Only one of 2 things she can do in this situation: either she stays with her husband and forget about her ex or have her marriage dissolved so that she could be with her ex. Both have dire emotional consequences, and it would be somewhat a bigger challenge when there are children involved. The girl must think it over before making a big decision which will affect the people around her.

For me no it is not made of excuses being betrayal is not good to the eyes of Jehovah God.

Hello!This is more difficult problem.Women have been married,the man is still waiting for her.Love is not love,to the woman is a big test. But,the life is life,love is not at all.So,women still love her own home and her husband,this is important. Happy every day!

I think the woman should not have married her husband if she didn't really loved him..she should have waited for her bf is she truly loved him too..so in my opinion the woman is being selfish...when her bf wasn't near she decided to marry a man whom he never loved,,and even after marriage when she thinks she has a chance to get her ex she is thinking of leaving her husband then i think she has fooled both men and fooling herself also..she should respect her husband and should give her respect for what he had done to let her out of the sorrows and shouldn't leave her..

sounds interesting to me,its similar to my stories...i have question the man was married or not?the girl was married already right! well for me i guess they can continued there love stories if the girl was not yet married,because the man was not married...but sad to says the girl was married already,for me they should move on two of them,for the girl it would be unfair to his husband if she continue to communicate with his ex and i think the feelings would still came back....i cannot give a good advice because i was also in a situation like this until now!!!

If the woman had been completely honest and open with the husband before they married, then the husband would have had an inkling that there would be a possibility that this will happen. So in a sense, he is a sort of party to this situation, sort of responsible too for this state of affairs. It will hurt but not as much as when he was not informed of the status of the relationship with the woman's ex-boyfriend. The husband will feel cheated and not sympathize with the situation but I think he will ultimately understand the woman's state of emotion and agree to the dissolution of the marriage. But if the woman had not been completely honest and open with him, the hurt will be greater. And the burden of the blame will rest completely on the woman. Be that as it may, the woman has to realize that she owes it to her husband to show him respect, even if she does not love him at all. That show of respect will also reflect on her, as she will be viewed by society. This means that, at the very least, she should not enter into a relationship with her ex-boyfriend before the marriage is formally and finally dissolved. She owes her husband that much; she also owes it to herself. Whatever dis/honor she gives to her husband and to the relationship, it will ultimately bounce back positively or negatively on her. If it is not too much, I would even advise her that she stay single for at least one year after the marriage has been formally and finally dissolved. This is to give herself time to reflect, perhaps even to reconsider. One does not live with someone without that leaving a mark on one's psyche and emotion. Who knows, from that perspective, she may even discover that her ex-husband has some weight too in her heart. Should this situation arrive, perhaps she can even decide to allow her ex-boyfriend and her ex-husband to woe her again and compete for her hand. And let the best man win. If this situation does not come about, at least the year of single blessedness will reflect positively on her. It is an act of respect for her ex-husband. And if her ex-boyfriend really loves her, he will respect her decision and wait. It too will reflect positively on their future marriage and relationship.

She should disregard about his feeling to his ex. That is why it is "ex" so she should forget about it and love her husband because just what she must do as a wife. She shouldn't give way to any infidelity to her husband.