I Was So Mad At My Son Today

Do not be tough on yourself as it is normal reactions us mothers undergo from time to time. Take sometime a bit later and explain that it is not allowed for him to color on his clothing this way. I understand he has some developmental issues but the only way he will learn, is if you explain on how wrong it is. He and no child is perfect they get into this type of mischief and at times in a split second right before our eyes, so need not worry linda he is quite young still. Just help him to understand. I do hope you start feeling better soon, too.

It's okay, that's the usual reaction of a mother. You'll son will forget about it then. You must have a hard time with your kid. You should put an extra effort of taking care of him he's too fragile and try to control your temper nextime. :)

A child that age does not need to be supervised every second!He should know better than to do that.And then make a smart comment like that,basically saying that he will do whatever he wants,even thou he knows it's wrong and it's your fault. You did not over react and I hope you punished him. If my mother-in-law yelled at me about that I would of told her not to give him stuff unless she is going to be there to guard it 24/7It would be different if he did stuff like that and you did not correct him.

Hi Linda, I don't think you over-reacted. At 8 he really should be out of the coloring on things stage. The fact that he made that comment tells me that he knew darn well that what he was doing was wrong. It was as if he was trying to turn the situation around and make it to be your fault rather than his own. Pretty crafty! I would have made him scrub it or sear it in front of his grandmother and tell her what happened to it and suffer the consequences. I would not have lifted a finger to help him cover up what he did. And if your Mother in law yells at you, well, stick up for yourself. He's 8 almost 9! You should not have to watch him 24/7. Oh and if this ever happens again....toothpaste (not the gel kind) works great at getting out crayon.

'see what happens when I am unsupervised.' What a revealing comment from your son. Behavior begins with some kind of need. My grandaughter will try to get your attention with a pet, asking you to hold it or saying the pet needs something. The person how needs something is my grandaughter. She needs my undivided attention at that moment. What I am suggesting is that you missed seeing a need your child had. He acted out to get that attention, he wrote on the hat. Go back over what was going on for him at the time you went for your nap and your husband was on the computer. If you look at what was going on for your son just befor that time, you may be able to find out why he felt he needed attention. The times children need attention can certainly be inconvenient, but they always need to come first.

I understand your reactions. Just explain to your son why you got mad. He is young so he doesn't really understand what he is doing. Explain everything to him and apologize to so that he will learn how to apologize as well.

Hello Dear Linda Harding! I can understand your feelings! Now at the age of 50+ I think, if I had been there in your place I would have taken the thing lightly! This is possibly because of life's experience what I have gathered through all these years! Today I feel bit guilty to scold or shout at a child if he is doing some mischief as I too was mischievous when I was a child! Now I know that ,these things are common during the childhood. It is the curiosity, sense of creativity and the zeal of doing some thing new, make the children to undertake some new ventures every time in their lives! This incidence is also one of such things! I feel your son must have got curious to see how a Navy had would look if painted with crayons, having done so and after seeing the results then he must have realised that he has spoiled the hat and must have anticipated a scolding from your side! Now, in attempt to protect himself from your shouting he must have played the trick by saying that he did so as he was unsupervised! This is a clever and effective emotional black mail he used against you, for which you already fallen prey to! Your guilty feeling itself is indication of this fact! Now since you have cleaned the hat and since now nobody can make it out that it was once painted with crayons, please be easy and forget the issue! Children are bound to do such mischiefs and childhood without mischief is nothing. Remember these mischiefs of our children remain as sweet memories during our old age and we enjoy and relive in those olden and golden days! So dear friend take the innocent pranks of your children lightly and learn to enjoy them to make the life more merrier and enjoyable! All the best! Thanks for a light but a serious type of discussion initiated! I liked participating in it!

Don't feel bad. Sometimes we just need to rest. It is hard to say why he drew on the hat, maybe he was trying to add is own decoration to it something. Who knows why kids do what they do sometimes. I am kind of lucky with my 7 year old because I have 2 teenagers. He likes to be by them so if I need to rest he can go up by them.

i feel the same way to when i scold my nephew. when i yell at him and i get him so scared and crying so hard, i then get so guilty i just hug him and and kiss him and tell him that it is alright now and that he should never do it again. but he is only 3 so he still needs more supervision, attention and understanding. but sometime it is just so annoying but i just also need to be more patient with him. sometimes we also expect too much from them. kids just wanna play all the time and there are times that they know what they do is wrong but would continue it because they still lack that sense of responsibility. i have learned that they should never be hurt and yelled at instead just talk to them and tell them that what they do is not right which i know is also good and the right thing to do, but sometimes we just can't hold it but to yell at them due to some circumstances like you were also not feeling well and also some stress. but then again i don't have a child of my own yet so i know it is also hard to be a parent. but i also feel the same because i take care of my nephew and watch him most of the time when my sister is too busy working. i hope you feel better now and i hope your son understands it now that he shouldn't do it again. let us just be here for them to make them understand and guide them. take care.

Hi Linda. It almost sounds like your son was sending you a message. He knows better than to draw on his hat. He might have resented that you were taking a nap or something. I wouldn't feel too bad about losing your temper with him. It's not like this happens all the time. I felt guilty too if I yelled at my daughter. You are human. That's all.