Divorce in the Philippines
By lmlazo79
@lmlazo79 (39)
Philippines
July 4, 2011 3:28am CST
Divorce in the Philippines? Should it be legalized or not?
Why not? Most of the countries have divorce and I guess only 2 countries left who haven't legalized it.
A lot wed for love. well, most do. However, some wed because they need to or for many reasons in the world. However, if 2 couple aren't fit for each other anymore such as incompatibilities, indifference, disability and many more.
Shouldn't they have the right to get out of a failed relationship than suffer more if stayed? Most especially those battered wives who kept mum just for their childrens sake. It's such a pity!
what do you think? should it be legalized in our country and why is it so bad to others to have this legalized?
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5 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
I think it should be legalized because there are some separated couples who can't marry again because of this. I know that marriage is sacred and shouldn't be rushed but we also have to admit the fact that people make mistakes too. We're only human so we're bound to make mistakes especially in cases when you think you know a person but turns out you really don't. Don't get me wrong, though. I also think that although divorce is legalized, it doesn't mean one should abuse it.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
If one was immature to get married the first time, who's to say it won't end in divorce all the time?
I think divorce is just a way for people to try it with everyone else and just say "ooops, sorry I made a mistake, let me try again."
There are things and values that are slowly deteriorating in all of us, that is the value of patience. We are too excited to be with someone that we fail to truly see and go through the marriage process. These days, since there are divorces, people would just jump into it and when things go bad - instead of thinking of a way to adjust to it, they scream DIVORCE!
These people don't deserve marriage. If they failed once, they will fail again.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
You do have a point there. There are stupid people who'd try marrying someone and then divorce her later on. Things like that could happen but what about broken families? You know, the ones that separate and leave their child without a mother or father, only one half of the parent takes care of the child. I think it would be better if a child is raised with both parents even though one is not biological. You see, married couples that have no chance of separation entitles them of life with each other, no matter how good or how bad it goes. Another thing is battered wives. They'll have to run into a lot of paperworks and wait a handful amount of time in order to get that annullment done. Plus, you might be misunderstanding the fact that law doesn't really allow that much of divorces on a single person. They would have to run into an attorney, who'll confirm first that the divorce is valid. If the reasons aren't valid enough for a divorce, or they can't prove that the reasons are true, typically they don't allow the divorce to happen. It's not as easy as turning the lamp switch on and off, no. There still are processes to undergo in order to finalize a divorce.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
hi lmlazo,
i am from the Philippines like you. i believe in the sanctity of marriage; however i do believe that as humans, we tend to make bad choices or let us just say not the right choices. i know several people who are suffering within their marriage. a few of them have separated and a few have stayed on despite of the abuse within the marriage. i do believe that if two people lost the respect and love for each other why prolong their sufferings when all they do is fight and hurt each other, why not legalize divorce? a few people told me that if the divorce law will be passed, there will be a 50/50 division in all the wealth between the married couple which many rich families would not want especially if one of the couple came from the lower class. whatever the reasons of those legislators, i hope that they will pass it so that those who were suffering will be given another chance to find happiness. if everything has already been tried to save a marriage and nothing more can be done, why not give them the freedom to start a new life where they can build again their shattered dreams. just my thoughts and not an expert opinion my friend.
take care..
faith210
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Happiness can't be found by marrying someone alone. There are other means of happiness. If the marriage has failed, then they must accept it and go on their separate lives without the need for a partner's money. They should accept their mistakes and never marry again.
What, is it only in marriage that one can find happiness? NO! so why are they so keen on having divorce in order to marry again?
Without divorce, people who will only be there in times of plenty would be eliminated. They would know that aside from the other person's money, they have to live with them because they're bound forever. Therefore, chances of fraudulent acts (marriage for convenience) wouldn't be convenient at all.
Why can't people understand this? There are decisions (however wrong or a mistake) that can't be taken back. Why can't marriage be one of them? If one knows that there's no turning back, one would live a more cautious life.
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@lmlazo79 (39)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Some people want to find complete bliss by having the right person and spend the rest of their lives with them.
It's sad if two couple have decided to live in separate ways most especially if there are kids. I pity the children growing up with an incomplete family. But, sometimes these things cant be avoided in some families. They though at first that marriage was so easy even thought its not. It's a lifetime commitment for both parties. It's sacred!
Although, happiness may come in many ways. I just pray that couples are really emotionally, financially, spiritually stable before they enter a sacred commitment :))
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Jul 11
In fact some time ago I just know that the divorce is not available in Philippines. It sounds strange to us. Although I don't think that the divorce is the best solution, but at least the couples can have a choice to end this marriage and then find another part. It is better than a dying marriage forever. So if you will get married in Philippines, you should think it over carefully.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
What has statistics gotten to do with the point of having divorce or not? Does it mean that everyone else has it we should too? I don't think that is the measure for arriving a decision.
Further, who's to say that you can't get out of a failed marriage if there's no divorce? You can leave the house and leave the person, but having no divorce simply means that neither one of you could ever get married again legally.
I think it's a good price to be suffered with (having no more chances of marrying) when you had the mistake of getting married to someone.
It's like when you had an accident or something because of a bad decision and perhaps losing a finger or a foot, that was the price for your actions. Could we then say that we shouldn't lose parts of the body because it was a bad decision?
There are things that we should not take for granted and things that we would lose if we don't practice being careful in our decisions and I think marriage should be one of them.
Why? If there is divorce, there is a way out. Many would say that it isn't so, but could you really say so? If you knew that there's a chance for you to lose your job if you were caught embezzling money and your job is very important to you, would you still attempt it? I don't think you'd go right on with it without thinking very very hard. However, if in the case of embezzling, you think you can get away with it (perhaps you felt you'd not get caught) then the thought would come to mind.
I clearly don't believe that people would want divorce because of failed marriage, disability, indifference, etc. They could easily leave. The only thing that they can't have back is the chance to ever marrying anyone again.
It's like giving up your virginity. You may have given it to someone who isn't worth it, but it doesn't mean you can take it back when you find the right one for you. Regardless what you'd say or do, virginity would be lost just once and I think marriage should also be done only once.
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@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
5 Jul 11
I don't live in the Philippines but to me it appears there isn't a clear separation between church and state when it comes to laws. I may be wrong but it seems that religion governs a lot of things there. Marriage is a contract, a religious as well as a civil union. Other types of contracts can be broken legally under the laws why can't marriage be the same?
