Am I Being Too Rude?

I'm sure that the longer you stay and the more you participate then the more you will feel part of a family and will no longer have these kind of problems Thank you for the BR here though myLot suggest that we should wait at least a week before awarding it to give everyone a chance to respond.

Thank you mysdianait for sharing and I'll remember all of the people's advices here. :)

hi diana I do not know how you handle it but even when you are a little irked by someone you do respond with such grace and tact that nobody' gets ruffled feathers. lol. I sometimes get a bit grumpy with people like alp;henor but you have that priceless tact. But then I still would not call anyone stupid or dumb here as we are all one large community with varying degrees of intellect and ability but we do not spurn anyone all are welcolme here and thats the way a great community should run. We rant we rave but we support each other. Rudeness is just not needed,'compassion, humor,tact, and loving affection are what we should all use. Like the indian young man who scolded me for eating dog meat he was not stupid, he read that I was enjoying a hot dog while mylotting and talking to him. It was a Cultural error on my part and I assured him that when I said hot dog it was a wiener or beef sausage I was talking about.Also I told him we Americans love our dogs and would never think of eating dog meet. He told me he was so glad as he had thought me a nice elderly lady and now he knew I still was a good person. He was not dumb but I felt stupid for not explaining our idioms to him.I salute you for always being unruffled.

hi letran and alphenor I have never seen Letran get really rude just a gentle rebuke was more like it the ones I saw. alphenor you must remember we have a lot of people here in mylot who are just learning English so they make a few errors that may appear dumb to us but we must cut them some slack as mostly it was just misunderstanding someone. take a page from Diana's book as she has even told off a few here but with such tact nobody got upset at all. I myself am not that good so I have to stand back, take some deep breaths and remind myself calling someone stupid is not a good thing to do. either help them or by pass.

Hi LetranKnight25, I didn't saw the posts that you were talking about but I appreciate that we have the same thoughts and that there are others who share the same fate as I am. :)

I hope our new friend takes the time to flip through to your profile and to look here too: http://www.mylot.com/w/topusers/1.aspx It might, I hope, make them aware that Lotters are not only from all over the world but are from teens upwards, right upwards

Hi Hatley and Aunt D! You both hit it on the head here. We are of all ages and from all over the world. We are also from all walks of life with varying levels of language skills. No one deserves to be treated badly.

Yes, I am really sorry for doing so. I'm starting to be careful and trying to rephrase my comments before posting it so that I wouldn't be rude. :(

Sometimes even when something is said humorously is taken seriously here and so you should be really careful. I like your attitude!

Yep! Just always try to be careful with the wording or phrasing of your comments. Be tactful of your responses and as much as possible try to be gentle on your choice of words. As PointlessQuestions said, there are individuals behind those screen names. They got feelings too and being rude to them has big blows to their egos. Just do those kind of people a favor by trying to be patient and gentle with them. Being nice to the not so nice persons won't really hurt, would it?

I find that to be a very good idea, alphenor There are so many things to talk about here at myLot that it doesn't seem worth the effort or aggravation to participate in areas that are going to be upsetting or stressful

Thank you thinkingoutloud for making me realize such things. I'll take note of your suggestion not to participate if I get emotional.

Yep. I was practicing that and it feels so good