How did you know that he is" the one"?
By babyjc1229
@babyjc1229 (10)
Philippines
July 4, 2011 8:57am CST
When do you say that he is the man you would like to spend the rest of your life with? Given those failed relationships and even marriages, are we really able to tell if the the person in front of us is already the one? or we are just dragged by the situation brought by our choice?
Since we are not so much into the traditional courtship nowadays, oftentimes people get into a relationship and start a family impulsively.That's why I see a lot of single moms and broken relationships.
I currently have a partner and we have one kid.We've been together for almost three years now and we still have a lot of differences and misunderstandings.He would often say that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life but I am still not decided whether I should feel the same way or not because of those misunderstandings.He has a bunch of traits that I totally dislike and I often say to myself that I don't think our relationship is gonna work.I don't want to convince myself that he is the one just because we have a kid.I want to find other reasons.How would I know if he is "the one"?
6 responses
@marilyninocencio (116)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
There is actually no perfect person. You yourself is not a perfect one. I think you are referring to "the one" as a perfect person. You are telling that you are not yet decided if he is really "the one" because of your differences, disagreements, etc. I think differences or disagreement will always be present in any relationship but it doesn't mean that he or she isn't "the one" yet for you. I think you just need to accept your differences and disagreements and learn to love your partner more. If he wants to be with you for the rest of your life then I think you should feel the same way for him even for your kid's sake. In your situation right now that you have a kid with him, I think you should set aside the "the one" that you are looking for. It will be better that you will focus on your family for your kid's happiness.
@investor211 (474)
• Mexico
5 Jul 11
hi there, i think this also applies to "her" and the question was how do i know that she is the one?, well the answer can be simple as this, i know she migh be the one because when we talk honestly the way we are, i open myself to her and i let her know exactly how i am, and depends on the smart answer she gives me i decide if she is or not the one im looking for partner in life, for me is very important to read the rules before living together, is like having a contract and this is a life contract so im so serious about open to her on every single way before she sings, heheh..
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 11
I read this somewhere: If everytime you see him your heart will beat faster and you have butterfly in your tummy and you will blush all the time and smile and you feel like you're floating in the air, he also complete your words.
Then after awhile you hear that he meant what he said. Conversation will be fluid and if there's quarrel only says the things that matters then. And when he sleeps he would be facing looking at you.......
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
4 Jul 11
This is a great question, but it's also very hard to answer. It's all about how you feel for him and when you know he's the one, you just know. It's hard to describe because you just get this gut feeling and there's not a doubt in your mind that you won't be with him forever.
I have that feeling with my boyfriend. Our love for each other is so strong that I have no problems saying that he's "the one". Even though we get into little arguments sometimes it still doesn't change the way I feel about him. He tells me that I'm "the one" for him also. I ask him how he knows and he always shrugs his shoulders and says "I don't know, this just feels so right and I've never felt this way in other relationships". So really, it's an indescribable feeling and it's just something your instincts tell you. You shouldn't have to force yourself into thinking someone is "the one" for you, you should just be able to feel it on your own.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
I'm a single parent. When i learn i was pregnant 10 years ago, i told myself that its my responsibility. I even told the father of my son that i will not going after him just becoz we're going to have a child. I let him go. I don't want at the end my child will suffer from our mistakes.
I could say i found him but definitely we will not last forever. Its complicated if i will get involve with him too much. I am happy to love him in my own way and in my own limits. We declare ourselves as bestfriend already but we both agreed what would our limitations to each other. And keep reminding each other situation.
And we are happy. He is even my match maker hehehe...
