How difficult for a woman to be cheated by her husband?

--This might sound crazy but I would say to FORGIVE and take him back. Unfortunately, not to long ago. I was a victim of infidelity. After three children and 8 years with this man, for him to do that to our family; shattered me into millions of pieces. But praise God. I was invited to a local church by a very good friend of mine. It was there where I began my healing process. No, it wasn't easy. But today a year and a half later. I am STILL with my husband, STILL deeply in love, not too mention we were blessed with our baby no.4 and he became this awesome MAN OF GOD. I don't want to preach. But I learned when you put GOD first everything else falls into place. He heals you from the inside, out. && he gives you all the desires of your heart. So if your seeking love, peace, healing and over all abundance. Seek God, and he will lead the way. We also need to remember that no one is perfect. We all have our flaws and we all have made our share of mistakes. Wouldn't you want mercy for mistakes you have made in the past. I know, I would. :)

It might sound crazy but I once broke up a 6 year relationship because he kissed another girl. All my friends thought I was nuts for breaking up for such a thing. I still don't regret it. It is not about a kiss or a night in bed, it is a trust thing. You put your life in someones hands and he just stamps on it. The trust will never be the same. We tried to overcome it but everytime there was an argument, those feelings of betrayal went on the surface again. Everytime he went out alone, I was nervous as hell of what might happen. First a kiss and then...? A relationship is about trust, being betrayed is the worst thing. There might be people that overcome such breakage of trust and I have deep respect for them but for me every betrayal is probably the end of the relationship.

if i were that wife, i would just sue my husband and the woman so that they can spend their lives together in jail :D honestly, i'll do that. i'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than having to live my whole life with a person whose cheating on me. no matter how i love my husband, i still believe that its not right to cheat on me. i may forgive him but i'll never ever forget that he became a cheater. i know its hard for wives out there whose suffering from this kind of situation but you know, specially those who are just plain housewife and has nothing to depend on (financially) but the husband. that's why its advantageous if the wife has a work of her own and financially independent, so that she wouldn't have second thought of leaving her cheating husband.

Hi! Welcome to mylot! Trust is fragile, once broken it can never be reshaped again perfectly. It's quite hard to accept. That's for my own opinion. Being cheated creates a severe heartache but may vanish but not totally when there apology and forgiveness.

For me if she get trust fully and never expect that she is cheated even if she had the best to gave for his husband specially to beauty her self to be fit again and facial scrub and other things.

I don't have a perfect marriage to speak about. We do have problems and struggles in our married life. But I guess, one thing that I am so lucky in being married to my husband is that, he has never cheated on me since we got married. I just hope that until the end he will still loyal to me. I can't imagine myself being hurt because of my husband's infidelity. I really hope that it won't happen. In case it will happen, I am willing to forgive and forget eventhough i know it is difficult to do.

I don't really get why there is this generalization that only men/husbands are capable of cheating. Men are polygamous by nature is all nonsense. I am a man and my mom cheated on my dad, something I am not really proud of and will never really be happy about, and how did my dad react to that, like all other human when being cheated on, furious to start with. That is how most if not all would react to the feeling of betrayal. Welcome to mylot.

Just the thought of my husband sleeping with another woman then sleep with me again makes me cringed. I really consider it as a dirty act and it makes him unworthy before my very eyes. I would never be able to touch my husband again if i find out he's been cheating on me. And i believe the same goes for him. It's not only women who finds it difficult to deal with infidelity but also men. The moment we get married we should always live up to what we have promised to each other before men and before God.

I think it is the hardest thing that a woman can suffer in a relationship. It should be really tough to forgive the husband after a cheating, because the woman lose all her trust that she have in her partner and this trust never is going to come back the way it used to be. Even if the woman decide to stay with the husband, she can say that she forgive him, but she will never forget.

As a woman myself, one thing that I hate in this world is a cheater. You are right that it can ruin a marriage and trust. Trust is hard to earn and once it's been damaged, the person may be able to forgive you but no longer will give the same amount of trust they once did. Who would want to be fooled over and over again. If that might happen to me, well I have to be strong during that time and depend to God. I may forgive my husband but I cannot promise that I am willing to take him back.

it is right.