Does this mean we are going to fall apart soon?

Sorry toniganzon, you mean if it breaks my heart I have fallen out of love? So it's good to break my heart or not? Confused. I cannot imagine a life without him. For one, I'm not really sure if it is because I'm already used to him or because I really love him too much to leave him? It's has been so long that it's driving me crazy. I have thought of breaking up with him, however, every time, every single time, i just blew it. I just cannot decide, cannot decide what's the right choice to make.

You have completely misunderstood. I'm sorry to have caused such misunderstanding, what i meant was if you could imagine life without him then it means you have fallen out of love, if it breaks your heart not to see him then it means you still love him. If you say that it breaks your heart to imagine life without him it means you still love him. If you're just used to him being there, it would only make you sad but it won't make your heart break like it's being crashed. Give yourself a break. Go for a vacation without him. For a week. Or you can tell him not to see you for a week and you will see what would happen.

Yes, communication is really the magic word. No matter how i'm feeling, no matter what i'm thinking, i should let him know how I'm feeling so at least he'll be there to help me no matter what. If I don't say anything, there's no way that he'll know what I'm thinking and what i'm feeling. It's really a torture to not know where our relationship is heading to. It would be good to communicate and to understand each other better and to at least know where we are going into and what to put into the relationship, whether I should put in more effort to sustain or not

Hmm, you are right too. Getting irritated is really my problem and very little of him. He has always told me that he has tired his best to make me feel loved, try to make me feel that I'm the most important one but i'm never ever satisfied. You are really right and I thank you for your candidness. I really need to understand that my boyfriend has been doing whatever he can to make me feel happy. But still, i am the one who has the problem now and i really should not blame anyone. Thank you for reminding me :) To salvage this relationship, the only thing to do is for me to change my thinking and to change my attitude.

Hmm, I think in the beginning he is really very dominating, but now as a few years pass, i find that I am the one who is even more dominating. I really don't know how to cope.

Yes, it's takes a while but the problem is I don't know how long it's going to take and even so, will I get the answer. I can't really say I'm forever not happy with him. SOmetimes I do, sometimes he just make me feel like he loves me so much and really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I do want that as well. But at other times, i just have no idea why I feel otherwise.

I am not currently staying with him anymore. Not on a daily basis. I now only go to his place about once a week and most of the time overnight to spend some time with him. At some times, it's fun being with him and i feel that I love him so much. However, at other times, I find him sickening. I do understand that it's my choice and this is what is making me difficult.

Yes, I also have no clue as to what is going on with my relationship. For one, I think I am really stress out. Like you, I am worrying about my future. Wondering if I should continue my studies etc. It's really affecting me cause of the huge amount that I will be spending should i pursue studies. PLus, it is my parents money which I will be using. To make matters worse, my parents don't approve of him and they have made clear that should I continue to be with him, they won't support my doings. Great for you that your BF is willing to stay with you until you have thought things through. Mine has alawys told me that he'll wait for me and support whatever decision I made. He gives me no pressure but i still feel it from other parties (like my parents side) Sure, I'll try to takea step back and think things through.

Early symptoms for it. I'm somewhat happy to hear it, but not totally. THat really describe my feeling right now. I have no idea whether I wanna continue stick with him or not. How long were you and your girl together?

Yes, I hate being in a cold war, nothing gets solved. Just two stupid people trying avoid the real problem. We do take turn to give in to each other many times still but sometimes I feel like the decision of having to choose between my parents and him is really giving me a lot of stress, which in turn gives us a lot of issues. Yes, a good communication is really important for a relationsihp

Yea. I have been holding on for the past 6 months already and things are still like that. Definitely, I am really in a lot a lot of stress now. Wondering where my future will be, whether I should continue my studies and also wondering if he is the right person for me. Sure, we loved each other, very much especially during our early days. We wanted so much to stay together and we wanted to stick together. Perhaps in the beginning my parents did not approve of him. And they still don't approve of him now. DOn't even allowing him to step into our house. This is one reason why we wanted so much to stick together, to prove them wrong and to show people that we are in love. You are right, just a bad phrase we are going through and I should think of it as a test for the both of us. If we pass it successfully, it will bring our relationship to a higher level. Thank you for your advice and I'll hold on till I make sure it's a failure.

We just had a talk earlier on and that really help us see things clearer and help to sort out certain things. However, there are still some things lingering and it's really irritating. Yes, the talk we had just now made me feel that he loves me a lot and we still wnat to be together. But that would mean a lot of challenges for me because my parents still cannot accept him

I'm not even sure what I want. Somtimes I want to stick together with him while at other times I just don't want. You are right, we both have to want it before our relationship can sustain. Sometimes I'm happy with him, other times, I'm not. Really confused.

We just had a talk about it and we decided to stick to each other and support each other. However, sometimes I just don't know whether all these talking works because it seems like we are having more and more of such talks recently. I really want to decide, but somtimes, it's really hard.